I wrote his post 17 years ago under a different account. Still relevant.
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The Courage to Heal
by Victor_E inthe courage to heal.
in a study done at the university of houston researchers concluded that a person with deep psychological issues would go through a five-step process.
i concur with this study after having worked with offenders on probation for drug and alcohol problems and sexual and physical abuse survivors.. .
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Anatomy of a former JW
by Victor inone of the respondents on my post on mental illness stated that it was the same of ex jw's.
i thought about this for a couple of days and drawing from my personal experience, i can say that this is mostly true.
if one is disfellowshipped, the act of forcibly cutting off all ties to a jw's way of life is painful and in some cases inducing cognitive dissonance.
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JW's and all other cults have always existed and always will so long as man fears the unknown and needs someone to turn to as an insurance to silence the existential anxiety. Once you have been in a cult every organization has cultish practices. I've seen it in corporate America, agencies, and even family owned businesses.
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Mental Illness among JW's
by Victor indisclaimer: this article has some broad generalizations that will have exceptions to what is stated.
this is the only way i can even attempt to address the topic.
i've looked for scholarly articles published on peer reviewed journals for years.
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Yes an opinion Vidiot. The new normal is prosperity gospel enterprises ala Joel Olsteen. A different type of enslavement that builds dependence.
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Mental Illness among JW's
by Victor indisclaimer: this article has some broad generalizations that will have exceptions to what is stated.
this is the only way i can even attempt to address the topic.
i've looked for scholarly articles published on peer reviewed journals for years.
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In my opinion all religions ameliorate the existential anxiety and offer a means to transcend one’s humaness
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Anatomy of a former JW
by Victor inone of the respondents on my post on mental illness stated that it was the same of ex jw's.
i thought about this for a couple of days and drawing from my personal experience, i can say that this is mostly true.
if one is disfellowshipped, the act of forcibly cutting off all ties to a jw's way of life is painful and in some cases inducing cognitive dissonance.
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Sea Breeze everyone is at a different place at a different time post their ex JW experience. -
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Mental Illness among JW's
by Victor indisclaimer: this article has some broad generalizations that will have exceptions to what is stated.
this is the only way i can even attempt to address the topic.
i've looked for scholarly articles published on peer reviewed journals for years.
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All religion is an antidote for existential anxiety
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Anatomy of a former JW
by Victor inone of the respondents on my post on mental illness stated that it was the same of ex jw's.
i thought about this for a couple of days and drawing from my personal experience, i can say that this is mostly true.
if one is disfellowshipped, the act of forcibly cutting off all ties to a jw's way of life is painful and in some cases inducing cognitive dissonance.
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One of the respondents on my post on Mental Illness stated that it was the same of ex JW's. I thought about this for a couple of days and drawing from my personal experience, I can say that this is mostly true.
If one is disfellowshipped, the act of forcibly cutting off all ties to a JW's way of life is painful and in some cases inducing cognitive dissonance. In short, incoherent thinking that is at times schizophrenic. Platforms such as this, can be an aid to work through this trauma to help one understand the cultish actions and flawed theology of the WT.
At the very least, it's a shared community of common experiences and at best, a database of useful information to get a complete education on every aspect of JW's and the journey afterwards.
In search of meaning.
Auschwitz survivor and psychiatrist Viktor Frankel was able to discover within himself a greater inner freedom and peace than his captors and find meaning to his existence. This is critical to start a journey of self discovery of persona l truths.
Forums will never fill the need of professional help and they can even contribute to being stifled in one's healing or evolutionary growth.
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Ex JW Doctors/Lawyers/Etc.....?
by Iamallcool innobody responded so far on my previous thread.
no problem.
the last sentence i asked if you know of any doctors or lawyers, etc..that left the borg too?
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JW's have never had any professional rational free thinking demographic that exists in other "main stream" religions. One they cannot be easily converted as rational thinkers, and two they can never become one if they are born into the religion. The organization is made up of working class blue collar workers who generally have no education beyond what is mandated by the government.
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Ex JW 12 Steps Continued
by Victor instep 4 make a searching and fearless moral inventory of yourself.
to err is human.
the bible (if you are a believer) has a written moral code.
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Step 4 Make a searching and fearless moral inventory of yourself.
To err is human. The Bible (if you are a believer) has a written moral code. JW's add to this canon many more rules and dictates that are man and created by men who never raised a family in the real world. Exiting JW's must discard the guilt and shame to find their own goodness and moral compass or they are destined to suffer needlessly for decades.
Step Admit to yourself, others, and to God or your higher power the exact nature of your wrongs.
Get psychotherapy and you will find the root cause of your wrongs. Most issues are created in childhood. Heal the issue change the behavior
Step 6. Be entirely ready to grow up and take ownership these defects of character to discover your true divine nature.
Some issues are generational sins of your fathers. Whatever you inherited or created from a flawed environment can be changed.
Step 7. Make amends with those you harmed (if this is possible).
Some ex JW's are pained from never saying I'm sorry to deceased loved ones.
Step 8. Develop awareness to recognize when you are wrong and own it. Correct course as part of the journey.
Step 9-12 Enjoy a new found freedom and follow your path
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'Phone call from Ex JW,
by Phizzy ina guy i was great friend with in my teens 'phoned me out of the blue today, and brought back a lot of fond memories, he was df'd, because he was a very naughty boy lol, but as he said, as is common with a lot of us exes, he took a long time to grow up.
he spoke of my parents, who despite being jw's, were lovely people, they took him in to our home when his mum was in hospital for some weeks, he also spoke of the good times we had as kids, and how his parents were good to him, and made him what he is today despite being jw's.. we sometimes do not give credit where it is due, my parents made me a lover of truth, but it is real truth i espouse now of course.. perhaps this kind of view of our upbringing is more positive than concentrating on all the downsides of what is basically an evil cult ?
looking at the (very few) positives can perhaps help us heal ?.
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In my experience when I was recruited into a Spanish speaking congregation, those were more gentle people and kinder times. I got to see and experience the abuse and petty tyranny in the 90's after things were going south inside the organization. It is healing and evolving when we are honest with ourselves and we can put context to our experience during and post being a JW.
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