As a non Jw who is married a Jw when he was away from the "truth", it wasnt an issue until about a year ago when he started studying again and involving our children. I avoided studying myself for about 6 months until I felt pressured into doing so. I went to a few meetings and had my own studies. But, I told him I was also going to do my own research, which led me here. On some recommendations, I bought Crisis of Consience and In Search of Christian Freedom. I read them to myself but could not hold back some "Wows and Oh My God" when reading. He eventually asked what had me so worked up and I showed him. He read some with me and then had his study the next day and asked me to put the books away from him. Eventually, curiosity got the best of him and I came home from work one night to find him half way through COC. Well after he read that, we had a meeting with the elder he had been studying with and his wife, who I had been studying with. The could not even begin to answer the questions we put before them. Their best response was "Where else will you go?:" That was not enough for either one of us. My husband had been raised a JW his whole life and had such feelings of guilt for not living up to their expectations. It is such a wonderful thing now to see him realize that he does not need their leadership and control to worship God. The best thing I think I did was to research while not openly opposing him. He was able to see the falsehoods and lies for himself and now 5 months later just shakes his head and how much control and power he allowed them over his life.
Best Wishes,
Just Curious