Posts by bikerchic

I wish you peace of mind, I have no answer but do think what changeling has said reflect as closely to my thoughts as anything I can understand about life and death.

Enjoy the now and cherish always the memories of the times you had with your dear grandaughter.

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Not wanting to be near a child

by JH in

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interesting article.. http://online.wsj.com/article_email/sb118903209653018615-lmyqjaxmde3oda5njawmzyywj.html.

as a single man, i also feel that it's not well seen to even talk to a child you don't know... just look ahead and don't look at them.. pretty sad world hey..... .

bikerchic

WTWizard I hope I read this wrong as it really has me questioning your sanity:

But, other times a teenager (perhaps 14 or 15) will legitimately fall for someone much older for legitimate reasons. In these cases, it is no one's business but the two people involved as long as the adult is being totally honest and not initiating the use of force, threat of force, or fraud. Setting the adult up in these cases only creates problems where none needed to exist.

A 14 or 15 year old falling for an older person, do you mean an adult over the age of 21? An adult who doesn't see the harm in forming a physical relationship with a minor is an adult with mental problems. I see a huge problem with this don't you?

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Not wanting to be near a child

by JH in

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interesting article.. http://online.wsj.com/article_email/sb118903209653018615-lmyqjaxmde3oda5njawmzyywj.html.

as a single man, i also feel that it's not well seen to even talk to a child you don't know... just look ahead and don't look at them.. pretty sad world hey..... .

bikerchic

This was a quote from that article and I find it interesting:

In Skokie, Ill., Steve Frederick says the director of his son's day-care center called him in to reprimand him for "inappropriately touching the children." "I was shocked," he says. "Whatever did she mean?" She was referring to him reading stories with his son and other kids on his lap. A parent had panicked when her child mentioned sitting on a man's lap.
"Good parenting and good education demand that we let children take risks," says Mr. Frederick, a career coach. "We install playground equipment, putting them at risk of falls and broken bones. Why? We want them to challenge themselves and develop muscles and confidence.
"Likewise, while we don't want sexual predators to harm our kids, we do want our kids to develop healthy relationships with adults, both men and women. Instilling a fear of men is a profound disservice to everyone."

I can't help but wonder if the fear comes from the adults, kids are just having fun and listening to a story being read to them by a nice man.....besides women can be just as harmful as men to children.

I agree instilling a fear of men is a disservice to everyone.

To me as a woman there is nothing more awesome than watching a father tenderly caring for his children, it makes me melt every time. How sad to think men think twice before showing affection to their own children let alone helping a child in distress, sad commentary on today's society. I can't help but wonder what the next and the next generation of men will be like.

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We are new here. Hi everybody.

by outofthebox in

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hi guys,.

we are several people sharing this new account.

we hope you don't mind.

bikerchic

Welcome outofthebox......

We are several. We don't want to say how many yet.

Are you sure about that? I wonder if maybe you are one with multiple personalities. Maybe you are a trinity? Ohhhh, scary!

Don't pay no attention to moi I live in my own little world.....but it's okay.....they know me here.

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Dfed and Damned for Life

by Hangin_on in

i have posted my story on here before.

i was dfed at 22 for sleeping with an 18yr old girl in my cong.

i was married and me and my "mistress" were both dfed.. i admit i was wrong by even the worlds standards.

bikerchic

I have posted my story on here before. I was dfed at 22 for sleeping with an 18yr old girl in my cong. I was married and me and my "mistress" were both dfed.
I admit I was wrong by even the worlds standards. I can blame other people... the elders, the other cong members for pressuring me to get married young but I know ultimately what i did was my fault and is unexcusable.
about 2 years ago I got divorced and married the woman that I got dfed for sleeping with. (we have been dfed for 3 years and 4 months)
We have been clean and in line with bible and WTS standards for 1 year and 10 months. In this time she has gone thru a number of health problems. We have made more meetings than the elders on our comittee and have gone to all of the assemblies. We have written about 5 or 6 letters. Sometimes it takes them 6 months to respond to a letter. I asked for a meeting verbally and one of the elders didn't tell the other elders on the comittee for 5 months. When they meet with us they keep talking about how we are in an adulterous marriage and that the congregation views us as tax collectors and Jah may forgive us but will never let us forget that we are in an adulterous marriage.
My ex wife does not go to meetings... she is drifted, she has had boyfriends live with her and had sex even before I married my current wife.
I asked the elders to meet with us after giving them a letter 6 months ago and they talked about how the other elders on my comittee are going on vacation and they dont know when they will have time.
I feel like it is very low priority for them to reinstate us or even meet with us. Is this something that the elders are taught... to neglect reinstatement letters and not meet with sincere individuals????
I also don't understand where they are going with this aldulterous marriage stuff.... do they not recognize my marriage, maybe I should get a divorce??????
My wifes mother very rarely spoke to her but after the convention (there was a part on how to treat dfed people) she wrote my wife a letter telling her to not talk to her and that she loves Jah more and we should pray for forgiveness.
My mother is also a jerk to me all the time asking me what I want if I call her... telling me that she can't talk to me but when her computer breaks or she has a car problem she calls me right away expecting help.
I just don't understand what everybody wants from us... I have a sick pregnant wife, alot of stress in my life and both of our parents act like we are doing somethinig to prohibit our reinstatement.
I feel like I am giving all that I can and that it doesnt matter.

In the land of make believe lets pretend you know nothing about the JW's (now wipe your mind clean, ya hear!) and your son comes to you and tells you the above story, really and truly what would you think he's been smoking and what advise would you give him? Just really sit with this one, for days if you must. Your sanity and your families future depend on it.

If you haven't the strength to impose your own terms upon life, you must accept the terms it offers you.
T.S. Eliot

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Megan is in labour

by KW13 in

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in another thread i mentioned megans waters broke, well now she is having strong contractions and is due to go into real labour anytime soon.

the hospital are ringing me when to go up.. hope your all well, thanks for your support - honestly we really love you all and if you can just post a reply to megan, when she gets home and is able she will read and reply when she gets a chance (will be a week at most).. i am sat here awaiting my 'phone call' lol..

bikerchic

Congrats and happy pushing Megan!