Cult? You say it like it's a bad thing......I tell people I was raised in a cult (Jehovah Witnesses) as a warning! I used to be surprised at the replies I got, not anymore seems everyone else thinks it's a cult too.
bikerchic
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The C word
by ness inhow do your minds work people??.
the word 'cult'.
who is comfortable saying they were raised in a 'cult' or were brainwashed temporarily by a 'cult'?.
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I walked off the job today....
by Terry incan't explain this one.. right in the middle of my shift i became disassociative.. my brain locked and i threw my hands up and kept repeating, "i can't do this!
i can't take this!
right out the front door of the bookstore.. i wasn't angry.
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bikerchic
(((((Terry)))))
I'm glad you are going to see someone about this that's the best thing you can do. Don't worry things will get better you know it.
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Do you expect the man in the marriage to be strong.
by free2beme inmy mother-in-law had surgery recently and when ever she does go through medical issues, it brings up something i wonder about.
you see, i think the man or husband, in the relationship needs to be strong at those moments.
to be the person who people can look to for updated information, perhaps to be the pillar of strength to keep everyone calm in a rough situation and so on.
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bikerchic
LOL I can't seem to edit my post but I meant to say M-I-L instead of Mother.
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Do you expect the man in the marriage to be strong.
by free2beme inmy mother-in-law had surgery recently and when ever she does go through medical issues, it brings up something i wonder about.
you see, i think the man or husband, in the relationship needs to be strong at those moments.
to be the person who people can look to for updated information, perhaps to be the pillar of strength to keep everyone calm in a rough situation and so on.
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bikerchic
free2beme I hope your Mother is recovering well and will soon be good as new. I feel the stress of all you and your family went through with the surgery and all.
So you might wonder, "Is he always like this?" Oh yeah, if his wife has a cold, he will not eat until she is healthy. If his wife hurts herself, he will blame himself for what happened ... even when he was not there. He is not a pillar of strength, he is a pit of quick sand that sucks the life of hope from a room. I have never seen anyone this bad in my life, except for this man. I wonder though, am I wrong in thinking that the man in the marriage or relationship should be strong? I just can not help being ultra irritated at this man, every time sickness with his wife comes up. He makes it so much worse then it is.
In our society the man is usually looked upon as being the strength of the family, the provider, the fixer ect...that is just normally the way men or shall I say males are hardwired to be. If you're lucky you'll find a man who will swim through shark infested waters to bring you a lemonade as Dr. Laura would say. Strong <grunt,grunt> cave men types, yeah we women love 'em like that!
That said and on that premise not all of life or people are "normal". When I read the description of your step father I immediately got the sense that he was not normal in the sense of what you would expect of a man or a woman for that matter. I learned a long time ago (the hard way ) that when things or people are out of whack it's less about them then some kind of previous damage that has or had been done to them long ago, nothing which you or I or most any therapist could get them over, damaged goods so to speak.
I have also learned to cut people like that some slack to not do so is like making fun of a retarded person. You have to realize in some way their psyche has been damaged or stunted, retarded. He is being just who he is and if it's not enough for you think of this; it is enough for your Mother she chose him and has stood by him for how long? Do you hear her complain? Well maybe so, but don't listen! LOL
Maybe seeing him in this new perspective will help you deal with him and his peculiarities, I hope so.
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Were YOU Set Up To Fail?
by Sarah Smiles inas a child, i believed jdubs were the only ones who had truths.
we as children tried to live our lives clean without smoking, drinking, cussing, stealing and etc,.
as i became an adult and associated with others, i had fallen beneath the jw cracks.
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bikerchic
Hi Sarah good question and one I've struggle with in my early days of leaving the B'org.
Am I the only one who feels this way sorta of empty inside like there is something missing?
I remember a saying I had on my wall something like if you fail to plan you plan to fail. I distinctly remember applying it to my recent leaving the B'org and that empty feeling I had. I got busy and started making plans for my life, doing things I had always wanted to do some of them I even accomplished but most of it turned out to be a great distraction for me just doing the planning, which proved that I could do most anything I put my mind to or planned to do.
I figure life is an adventure but you have to participate in the journey or it just whizzes right on by and before you know it your 55 wondering how many more mundane days you have left on this earth before you become worm food.
Happy trails to you!
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Join me in pouring some love on Mouthy here on JWD!!!
by truthsearcher ini talked to grace this morning and she sounded like things have been rough for her lately, so join me in expressing your love and appreciation for our jwd granny!
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bikerchic
Here's some cheering up for ya Grace!
Your hunk Tommy send you his love!
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Ouch!!!!
by Sad emo ini've got sore nerves in my gums.
i've had a trapped nerve in my neck/shoulder for a few weeks and it's stiff as well.
i think i must have subconciously adjusted my gait and now the nerves in that side of my mouth hurt.
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bikerchic
Sound aweful (((emo))). I hope it passes soon!
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Buying a co-op--Advice Please!
by NYer Girl inmy husband and i went to open houses halfheartedly last sunday, figuring that we'd never be approved for an apartment.
not three days later, we find out that they've accepted our offer!
i understand the steps that come next (real estate lawyer, contract, co-op board review, etc.
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We are going to see the apartment again this week. What should I be looking for?
Hire a good home inspector they can and will find things which may or may not be a deciding factor in your purchase. A home inspector is worth their weight in gold!
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UPDATE ON DANSK
by Physio init's been a long time since i posted here but i often read your messages when ian (dansk) logs on.
as most of you will know, ian will be going back into hospital on monday for an allogeneic stem cell transplant and will be away from the forum for a good few weeks (hopefully he'll be back home within 4-6 weeks).
last time he was in hospital many of you sent messages to his ward and i know they cheered him up immensely.
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bikerchic
Welcome home Ian!
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The Movie "Borat "- Did you Like it? What Did you Learn from It ?
by flipper inprobably a lot of you saw borat.
my wife and i laughed our selfs crazy watching it.
mrs. flipper actually fell on the floor watching it, laughing !
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bikerchic
I rented the DVD and got 3/4 of the way through it, that was all I could stomach then I turned of the TV and returned the movie. I have only done that once before I can't remember right now what the name of that movie was but it was horrible too along the same stupid lines. Good grief talk about swimming in the sewer.
I can't remember the last time a movie gave me bad dreams but that one sure did......I still can't get the scene of the two naked men wrestling out of my mind, yuck!