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Good points! But you must not read all my posts, because I do have my share of whining. And if you guys don't see it here, then talk to Mozz and see what he deals with. LOL Seriously...I think all of us whine at times. I don't think it's necessarily bad either. Sometimes a good whine is needed just to feel the solace of "being heard." But at some point, a fire has to be lit and action must take the place of boo-hooing. The only time it's unhealthy is when the whining doesn't stop and the action doesn't start.
Many of my lifes "downs" have been out of my control. My abusive parents. My cocaine dealing boyfriend when I first moved out into the world. My getting laid off from several jobs where money was mismanaged. My lung surgery a few years ago. But there are other times where my "downs" have been because of ME! My getting kicked out of my parents home. My divorce. My broken heart in MANY relationships. My health issues when I don't take care of myself. There are things here that I cannot point to someone else and say, "This! It's your fault!". I can't do it. I can't play the victim role (okay maybe for a few days, but then I have to get over it) and expect to actually get anywhere positive. I have to take action for myself.
Now on another note, I MUST address depression because this is something I've struggled with many times in my life. Depression is evil. I cannot describe it any other way. It is a slow suffocation from life. But IT IS FIXABLE. Go to the doctor. Get medication. See a therapist. (I'm a big advocate of anti-depressants, but I find it only works at it's fullest potential when mixed with talk therapy.) If you don't have the money to see a doctor, get meds, and have some talk therapy, then go to a government sponsored clinic. They can do it for cheap or sometimes for free. Ask the doctor for samples of the meds before getting a full script. Ask a friend to borrow the $100 to see a doctor. If a friend of mine came to me and said, "I'm depressed, I need help, but I don't have the cash." I'd give him the money and drive the fellow to the doctor myself. If you don't have the money to go to a therapist, hit a local Al-Anon meeting. I'm serious. It's played a huge part of my mental health in my life. In those walls, I've learned what I can control and what I can't. Even though I don't have an addict in my life anymore, I still hit meetings so I can have my dose of "sanity". Sometimes I share, sometimes I don't. Sometimes I just listen and I hear someone say something that's just a total gem and I walk away being "wowed". Best of all, it's free! They ask for a $1 donation to cover coffee, electricity, etc, but even then...how can you beat $1?
Eyebrow, thank you for the reminder that we ARE in control of much that goes on in our lives. But only if we choose to see it and act upon it. I have to learn this lesson over and over in order to make it stick!
