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  How do you trust your partner?

  by sonnyboy in

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  does anyone really trust their girlfriend/boyfriend around members of the appropriate sex?.

  i thought we had some form of trust, but i dropped my biotch off at the car dealership today and noticed a rather long conversation going on with a "questionable" neighbor (one that we've talked about before in a sexual way).

  so, how do you go about building trust in a relationship?

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  I don't trust him and he knows it. I don't really know why, maybe it's because I don't trust myself. We had a rough start. It's so hard to trust, it can eat you up. Lately I've been purposely keeping my mouth shut when I really want to say, "Why did you come home an hour late, why didn't you answer my calls at work for the last three hours, why didn't you tell me you're having 5 people over to our house on Sunday while I'm at work, and Why did you specifically tell me to not come home early because it won't be fun on Sunday?" GRRRRR. Sonny, it's hard.

  Evil force, I don't know how on earth you can have an open relationship, you guys must have amazing communication. It would take lots of work to work that one out. Plus when you've entered the traditional commitment of marriage with a wedding and everything, it's kind of too late to go into an open relationship. I saw a magazine with the headline "Who needs Marriage" or something, about how why don't we do away with marriage. I wonder if it will ever happen. It seems to be much more casual, with a "hope this works out" attitude. (we signed prenups too.)
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  What pisses YOU off?

  by RichieRich in

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  today has been a weird day.

  nothing horrible.

  just frustrating.

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  HHHHEEEEEYYYYYYY! I"m a junior member with the above post!
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  What pisses YOU off?

  by RichieRich in

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  today has been a weird day.

  nothing horrible.

  just frustrating.

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  That's a line from "Some Like It Hot" that men with glasses are more sensitive. (Marilyn Monroe says it. I just saw the movie, it's so cute and way ahead of its time.)

  What pisses me off is when I'm on the train and am observing some horrible parent. You know the kind that sits there on her cell phone talking and mumbling away while the tiny 2 or 3 year old is trying desperately to get some kind of attention from mom, such as just asking a question like "where are we going?" And the mom says "SHUT THE F*** UP!" and slaps the kid. Then the 2 or 3 year old starts crying and the mom calls the kid a crybaby. I hate that.
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  JW's are LOSING IT

  by GetBusyLiving in

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  at one of the last bookstudies i ever attended i heard a comment that really struck home to me how desperate these people really are getting, to the edge of insanity.

  an older woman commented, "you can tell the end is coming.. its in the air.. you can feel it.. there is something in the air.. times are just.. different" and the whole time she was manically glancing around the room.

  the conductor agreed with her.

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  Metatron, I totally agree. The follow ANYTHING said blindly. So I'm sure if the Society said to go ahead and kill all the Df'd people who try to talk to you or something like that, they would do it.
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  ApostaTees!!

  by RichieRich in

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  tired of searching wearily for that special shirt to really shows whos boss at the apostafest?.

  need to make a statement at your judicial commitee?.

  well hear you go:.

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  Oh my God, Richie, that is so so great. I'm definetly getting one for my little sister.
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  Hello

  by Amionne in

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  i just joined here so i'm not completely familiar with the forum code.

  well, i'm going to be baptized in less than a month and i was wondering if i can find any friends among my peers or anyone around my age.

  you see, my congregation was split up almost three years ago.

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  Amionne,

  A big welcome to you! You are always welcome to talk to us. It is so hard when the congregation splits. Same happned in ours when I was 12. I was so sad my friends were all on the other side. But remember, you can be friends with teens in other congregations. Also, it helps to talk to other kids at school and such that are your age. It will be hard to fit in with the older teens. If you have a hard time, don't worry, it's not because you're a bad person, it's just the age difference. It really helped me when I started making friends with people in other congregations. Don't isolate yourself. I think chatting online helps too.

  I got baptized when I was 13, and I was really stressed out at the time. Anyway, just know that even though you feel like "breaking down and crying" at times, things will get better. Keep associating with all types of people, keep an open mind. I know you are trying to do the right thing, sometimes it's hard to know what that is! You can send me a message anytime.

  The good girl
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  Please advise.

  by embalmed in

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  after years of waiting, i finally turned 18. i remember distinctly that my mother said during an argument that i would not have to attend meetings once i turned 18. well that was a lie.

  she denied ever having said such, and pulled the "under my roof" card.

  so now she is saying i have to continue attending meetings until i move out.

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  I agree, you unfortunately have to move out if she tells you, but, when's your birthday? Did you graduate high school this month? Tell your mom, you are working on moving out, but don't jump into a bad situation. Carefully plan out your move. save money, maybe get some sane roomates with lofty goals like college. I think if you let your mom know you are working on getting out, she won't throw you out into the street the first meeting you miss. And I do like that idea of getting a job where you miss most meetings due to "schedule conflicts". I know my first job was being a CNA (nursing assistant). Not the most sought after career, but plenty of jobs. You can get an easy job by working as a personal nursing assistant to a pleasant elderly person in their own home versus working at a nursing home. That's what I did, it worked out fine, and there are plenty of night shifts. You can also work for a home health company who will help you find these jobs. Hopefully you'll be able to work your way through college with that and loans and hopefully some scholarships. Look for housing scholarships where they provide a place for you to stay during college. (That's also what I did, it was a lifesaver, and fun living with other college kids climbing out of a bad situation like me. Made some great friends.) Scholarship appliations are great places to tell your story that you are discouraged by your family and friends from pursuing higher education, but that's what you want to do. They love that stuff.
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  Good Grief - Life Celebration

  by misspeaches in

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  oh this one is just crazy.. a guy i know in the cong i last associated with is having his 'life celebration' party on the 2nd july.

  by strange co-incidence this is also the date that he turns 40 years old.

  so everyone is off to have a party with him to celebrate his his life.

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  Oh that is so crazy. Betcha someone will "get offended" at that one, and they will have a local needs talk about it, and then it will be banned forever.
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  Apologies for JW shunning

  by greendawn in

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  you disassociated or got disfellowshipped and the jws were shunning you.

  but then some of them went down the same road as you later.

  did they then approach you as ex-jws and apologise for the way they had treated you, and what exactly did they have to say?

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  Great topic. I have often thought of starting this one. Yes, for sure I want to say sorry for shunning, and especially sorry for reporting my friends to the elders. That was idiotic and ridiculous. It was so hard to do, so I should have stopped and thought why does this feel wrong? Never again. I'm so sorry Sheryl and especially Danielle.
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  My relationship has come to an end because of JW brainwashing

  by MM090503 in

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  a few of you may remember when i came to this site back in sept. i was seeking advice about my bf who had been studying with jw.

  well i hate to say it but they won.

  after being together almost 2yrs we broke up.

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  Thegoodgirl

  Sorry to hear it, Meg. Hey, how were you to know? The same thing happens with everyone. My mom got into the cult, and My dad asked her dad, what should we do? And my Grandpa said "just let her try it out, she'll get tired of it after a while." 25 years later...

  Not your fault. Sorry he doesn't see it now, maybe someday he'll be sorry he lost your relationship.