so, i have a job interview on monday for a city government job.
i have worked for a city before and i would really like to work for one again in order to complete my retirement requirement for benefits.
and i really want this job.. i have info about the job and i am studying specific information; however i don't interview all that well as i get extremely nervous.. one of the questions i always have a hard time with is:.
Well, I was asked that question on my interview and I gave the stupidest answer. I was 23 at the time and a total doormat (as I sort of still am) so I said something like, "Well, I usually get along with everyone pretty well, but if there were someone who didn't like me, I guess I would talk to them and try to resolve the problem. "
"And if that didn't work?"
And I say, "Uh, I guess I would smile at them in the hallways and stuff until they came around."
I mean how stupid is that??? I've gotten worse at interviews too, now that I know what the answer they're looking for is, and I just want to be honest. I absolutely hate interviews, so GOOD LUCK to ya on Monday.
Yeah, a few patients live longer than the doc says, but what about all those other patients who've been given a poor prognosis, their faithful loved ones praying so hard, the entire church praying, and yet the worst still comes. I work in an ICU, and it is rare that any type of "miraculous" type of thing happens. Wow, the patient's heart rhythm came back after a minute of nothing. Oh, but now they're braindead and die two days later. Ya know?
Anyway, it's nice that some do beleive, though, as long as it doesn't hold them back from other things in life.
I like the picnic idea. Pack some wine, or his favorite snack/meal. Go to a nature reserve, or the lake/river/ocean (I'm too lazy to look up the part of the world in which you live...) Watch the sunset, it's free. End the night with a dessert out at a place you've never been if you're in a big city. Or the pineapple idea is cute too...
Horrible life: I love that free cards and flowers thing.
every once in a while i can get my mom to give me the latest on what's happening with the people i used to know and/or be friends with.
she tells me they ask about me (yeah, right, why didn't they ask about me, or rather come talk to me, when i had stopped going to meetings before i got df'd?).
so anyways, she says guess who's getting baptized?
I read somewhere a while ago that even Mother Theresa herself does her good works because she gets a good feeling about it. She does these things for the boost in self-esteem, the good feeling that will invariably come knowing you made a difference and if it weren't for you, the world would be a little less happy.
Maybe it was in a philosophy or sociology class. I think the point was that all humans are driven by selfish needs, and there is no exception. This always sort of stuck with me. I desperately wanted to serve in the Peace Corps or set up a hospital in Haiti or something when I was in undergrad. But then I would always remind myself "You're not so great, you're only doing this because you want that good feeling and the glory that goes along with self-sacrificing actions." Just like spending your summers auxillary pioneering as a teen instead of having fun. It sucks, but you have this little feeling inside that says, "I'm better than them".
ok, i need help figuring out what to give this girl for her birthday again, since i'll be in town now.
i was thinking of the following: .
1)practice happy birthday on guitar, go up to her door and surprise her playing it and give her mom the lava rock from hawaii(her mom was jokingly saying i cant come back to their house unless i bring something from hawaii) .
Wow, you are in the EXACT situation my aunt was in about 4 years ago. She had been married and divorced as had the guy she had been dating for SEVEN years. She always wanted to marry him, and they really were in love (it seemed to me). They actually lived together for a while, and the whole time she kept trying to get the strength up to say "marry me or I leave". A few times, she moved out from him just to say, "I'm not moving back until you agree to marriage." It was something important to her as well. (And she has never been a JW or overly involved in church, etc.) So this went on, and toward the end, they were on again/off again for about a year. She finally got counseling and got some self-esteem. She realized this is just something so important to her, and by him not agreeing to help her reach this life goal, then he just really didn't love her to the extent that she needed from him. they were both sad, but she finally broke it off. She moved back in with Grandma and Grandpa, got a second bachelor's degree, changed careers, and is much happier. She took another class to learn a new language, met a nice, funny, and respectful-to-her-wishes guy, and they got married! She's been married for about a year or two, and she seems really content. She used to be always sort of on edge and quiet, but I would say now she overall seems more hopeful and content/calm.
So that's one way the scenario could play out for you. I disagree with most of the above posters and I say you should leave if he cannot respect you enough to swallow his fears and marry you. No, marriage is not that different than dating (it's like you go to his house, but you never go home!) and you do have that "prestige" in the family and among friends that you can't describe unless you've been married, but if it's something you want, he should do it for you. You've waited long enough.
By the way, I think my aunt regrets staying with that non-marrying boyfriend for so long. She always says in the end he didn't respect her wishes enough, and she put up with it for too long. She's now about late 40's, so she's like 10 years older than you. You're not that old.
Being raised a Witness has a huge impact on my answer to the question. We were raised beleiving that brothers around the whole world were our own brothers and sisters, so as long as they were a JW, no problem, race not an issue. I do remember my mom saying, "It's okay to marry a black man, just know that you will have lots of problems with people being prejudiced toward you." It was true at the time, us living in a small rural Southern town in the early 80's, but now, I think it's much more acceptable, especially in big cities.
Funny, a friend of mine just came up for a visit. He's from my area, and was doing some work at my old high school, and he said he has never seen more interracial couples than at any other high school. I was kind of proud of that. My little town has come a long way, I guess.
When I stop to think about it, I have dated equally people of my race and of other races. 50/50. But I married someone of another "race" I guess you could say, though I really don't think it plays much of a role in our marriage.
as a kid ,you could almost certainly kill time at an dc ,sad{as richie rich put it},or a the "2 day assembly" in many various ways.. this has probably been done before,but here we go.. 1--watch the audience as a whole,they almost lookm like ants or something,because thier was always people moving around.peole figiting,taking vigorous notes,people getting up and down for a walk,or a bathroom break,attendants barking at the teens to sit down.i used to find pleasur in watching everyon fidget as a group.. 2--watch the peole who where doing sign language for the deaf.i would always try to start matching words for signs.another way a 10 year old mind can wander.. 3--locate all friends of yours,chicks you have a bad witness boy crush on,obsess for a few hours,and how you can stalk the hot girls.. 4--what too eat{pre modern era}you know,lemon lime or cola shasta,apple or cheese danish,vanilla or chocalte swiss miss,hoagie or dri chicken w/mayo packet?????????
?descisions ,descisions!!!!!.
5---count each minute out in my head.there was a huge digital clock at the providence civic center.when the clock changed,i would try to count 60 seconds to an exact point the clock would change again.clock manipulation,a huge witness kid skill.you could will the cloock to move,or so you thought.. 6---think about what flavor slush i wanted at break,and wether i would buy the cheap binoculars,or the mini -fan.those toys would occupy my brain for hours.. 7---wait with baited breath for the drama.when those lights went down,,,,,,,,,,,sheer ecxtasy!!
Wow, used to think people like you posters above were so bad and disrespectful. I would have never beleived I would be discussing these tactics with you and thinking you guys are actually pretty cool, years later...
I was the one who would try to sit there diligently taking notes and understanding the crap they were saying, and thinking, this doesn't make sense because I'm not smart enough to understand it, or because I keep daydreaming and if only I would pay attention I would get it. Now I see, it really had no logic, and how did I ever sit through three days of it. But you have to admit at the time, it was exciting guessing, "is THIS the talk leading up to the new release???"
I think a lot of people have this same idea. I've often thought about writing my own life story, but now I realize a lot of people have a really similar life story.
On another forum a woman was doing this and I e-mailed her my story, she was really nice and professional about it, making sure I didn't want the details changed to hide my identity, etc. (Maybe it was you!) This was about 2 years ago. Anyway, I know where you're coming from, and I say go for it, sounds like a fun project. Just keep in mind all those psychologists have their own interpretation, so even if you don't use one, I'm sure the book will be interesting. If you do use one, use several so as to get a well rounded opinion.
