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Urgent! Need help - I told my parents.

by filip in

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friends

we have just gotten home from sunday-meeting, when my mom ask me if i believe in god and so on.

so i tell her, cause you adviced me to be honest.

and despite all my fears, she took it very calm, and then told my dad whos also taking it calm, and it doesnt seem like theyre hating me now or want to throw me out of the house.. the thing is.

filip

WHERE IS filip, anyways?

sorry I havent been here. I went to sleep at about page 7, and now its up on 12!

for the moment Im doing pretty good. Since last monday, me and my parents havent talked about me and my worries.

I&P:

Filip, you have a PM

Do you mean, that YOU sent me a PM? Cause I havent got one from you in my inbox.

About sexual abuse: This is a topic we have long been talking about in our family, and I have always gotten the impression that all the statements about sexual abuse within the org. are false. Is that correct?

Also, my parents have always warned me, that if I ever would have any problems with them, I should NEVER go to the local communities, or my school counseler etc. cause they were afraid that the local comunities then would come and take me and my little brother away from them, as a result of them thinking my parents were treating me badly.

Can I seek the school counseler and talk with him about this, not being afraid that Im going to be removed from my family?

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Urgent! Need help - I told my parents.

by filip in

jw
friends

we have just gotten home from sunday-meeting, when my mom ask me if i believe in god and so on.

so i tell her, cause you adviced me to be honest.

and despite all my fears, she took it very calm, and then told my dad whos also taking it calm, and it doesnt seem like theyre hating me now or want to throw me out of the house.. the thing is.

filip

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Urgent! Need help - I told my parents.

by filip in

jw
friends

we have just gotten home from sunday-meeting, when my mom ask me if i believe in god and so on.

so i tell her, cause you adviced me to be honest.

and despite all my fears, she took it very calm, and then told my dad whos also taking it calm, and it doesnt seem like theyre hating me now or want to throw me out of the house.. the thing is.

filip

afin what do you mean? just because I replied to logansrun topic about phone sex, that has nothing to do with me getting involved with porn.

youre right, I am not sorry for my "gutter" talk, cause I was being sarcastic. I dont think "gutter" talk is wrong, so what do I have to be sorry for.

I dont think this site only is for adults. I can think for myself as much as anybody else, even if Im only 15 years old, and for the matter of fact, I think most 15 year olds can.

I dont have any hard feelings afin, I know you want me to listen to the bible and JW, but the ones on this site wants me to the opposite. In the end it all comes down to the faith. Were all just people, someone have one oppinion, others have another opnion, especially with religion.

Its just for me to find out.

Filip

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Urgent! Need help - I told my parents.

by filip in

jw
friends

we have just gotten home from sunday-meeting, when my mom ask me if i believe in god and so on.

so i tell her, cause you adviced me to be honest.

and despite all my fears, she took it very calm, and then told my dad whos also taking it calm, and it doesnt seem like theyre hating me now or want to throw me out of the house.. the thing is.

filip

(sorry about post above) afin sorry if I have offended you with "gutter" talk. Also, that topic was about if my dad could find out about me being on this JW-discussion board site, not about porn. And no, my dad yelling at me is not the biggest problem I have had to face in my life. My dad is not evil. He lost his temper, and it wasnt the first time. And why would I be ready to disown my family just because of some advice i have gotten here. I came here for help to deal with this problem the best way possibly, and I already knew before that "this way" would not be to act like an asshole (gutter talk again sorry) to my family. Its nice to get some support here, but I wouldnt do something irrationally just because of that - get real. afin now when you are a jw, maybe I can get some other answers from you then from the ones who are not? WHY should i get out of here? Can you give me some arguments for why JWs are right? I would appreciate it since I want to view things from both sides. Filip PS: no need to read those scriptures, i've read em a dozen times.

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Urgent! Need help - I told my parents.

by filip in

jw
friends

we have just gotten home from sunday-meeting, when my mom ask me if i believe in god and so on.

so i tell her, cause you adviced me to be honest.

and despite all my fears, she took it very calm, and then told my dad whos also taking it calm, and it doesnt seem like theyre hating me now or want to throw me out of the house.. the thing is.

filip

afin sorry if I have offended you with "gutter" talk. Also, that topic was about if my dad could find out about me being on this JW-discussion board site, not about porn. And no, my dad yelling at me is not the biggest problem I have had to face in my life. My dad is not evil. He lost his temper, and it wasnt the first time. And why would I be ready to disown my family just because of some advice i have gotten here. I came here for help to deal with this problem the best way possibly, and I already knew before that "this way" would not be to act like an asshole (gutter talk again sorry) to my family. Its nice to get some support here, but I wouldnt do something irrationally just because of that - get real. afin now when you are a jw, maybe I can get some other answers from you then from the ones who are not? WHY should i get out of here? Can you give me some arguments for why JWs are right? I would appreciate it since I want to view things from both sides. Filip PS: no need to read those scriptures, i've read em a dozen times.

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Urgent! Need help - I told my parents.

by filip in

jw
friends

we have just gotten home from sunday-meeting, when my mom ask me if i believe in god and so on.

so i tell her, cause you adviced me to be honest.

and despite all my fears, she took it very calm, and then told my dad whos also taking it calm, and it doesnt seem like theyre hating me now or want to throw me out of the house.. the thing is.

filip

all right, a few things first:

what is a PM?

Morty: I dont really know exactly why it feels so good to skateboard. I think that its because, skateboarding lets you conentrate on the trick youre trying to make, so you forget all other problems except the one about landing the trick... maybe.

I think I see a little war going on in here. I dont want you to get personal at each other, cause I think its good that you give such different views on the subject. That makes it easier for me to "see" whats right and wrong.

I think all of you have great arguments, also AFIN. And to you: Do you really think my language have changed? from what? Was I talking like a wuss before or what? I dont think my language have changed, but I do think I have become more custom to this site and therefore can speak more freely and relaxed.

I dont think either, that Im too young to this site... yes, I am aware of that I get easily affected, but thats why its good you all have different thoughts and advice.

AFIN: you think the reason why I participate on this forum, is because it makes me feel good? Youre right, it does makes me feel good. Of course its nice to hear people say your smart, have courage etc. Whou wouldnt think that was nice? My thoughts are confirmed, by people who are or have been in the same situation or something simliar to what Im in.

No rules? well, thats one of the things that I dont like about the WT. All those rules, and all that time you waste at meeting and field service. But Im not going to disobey my parents completely, and say to go f*ck themselves... if I think they are unfair I'll let them now.

Btw AFIN: I just wondered, are you a JW or not?

Filip

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Urgent! Need help - I told my parents.

by filip in

jw
friends

we have just gotten home from sunday-meeting, when my mom ask me if i believe in god and so on.

so i tell her, cause you adviced me to be honest.

and despite all my fears, she took it very calm, and then told my dad whos also taking it calm, and it doesnt seem like theyre hating me now or want to throw me out of the house.. the thing is.

filip

14011 Yes, I do skateboard, and I love it! It also lets me deal with these hard times I have at home. Its like, whenever I just hit the road with my skateboard I feel free. I dont care about the meaning of life, if JWs are right or wrong, or my f*cked up relationship with my dad. Did you ever skate some street-skating? Or did you only rode the ramp? I like the street-skating, jumping down some stairs or hitting a rail... uhhh, is it only me that likes the feeling of rolling down a rail and crush your balls on it? hmmm I love that... lol

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Urgent! Need help - I told my parents.

by filip in

jw
friends

we have just gotten home from sunday-meeting, when my mom ask me if i believe in god and so on.

so i tell her, cause you adviced me to be honest.

and despite all my fears, she took it very calm, and then told my dad whos also taking it calm, and it doesnt seem like theyre hating me now or want to throw me out of the house.. the thing is.

filip

oh... im sorry i havent been viewing all the new replies... I thought that the post was dead.

But thanks for all the replies. Heres four pages of advice here, so I cant really remember all of it... but in a lot of the posts, you desribe things and Im thinking that its exactly how I feel, I just couldtn describe it.

All right, it seems many of you arent agreeing, whether or not Im being mentally abused. Well, for a long time of my childhood, I think that I WAS abused by my father. I understand he never meant anything bad with his actions, that was just the way he was raised by his psyco-dad.

For many years Ive was afrasid of him. When I was younger he used to beat me when I was behaving bad. One time I was over playing with one of the neighbors, not knowing they were celebrating birthday. When I came back my brother told me that I was going to be in trouble, so I hid in some bushes in out garden the whole afternoon. Only to get my punishment when I got out. Or when were at the meetings, he would to take me out to the bathroom to beat if I was too noisy.

He has never been a friend or father to me. He never had time. He was always working or doing something for the WT. Hes a lawyer, so the WT uses him to defend their cases too. (He has among others won some cases about child abuse.)

The only time he had time for us ( I have a big brother, big sister and a little brother. My big brother and sister has left home? still in the troof), it was to discipline us, give orders and beat us if we were behaving bad.

Its only for the past 2 years that my father have changed into the better, after my mom nearly had left him with a bangin divorce.

So NOW he wants to spend time with me, be my friend, and be kind to me? but theres just something in me that can never love him? and he can feel that, so that sometimes leads to conflict where occasionally he goes back to his old him and loses his temper.

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Remember asking to be a part of the Theocratic Ministry School?

by Kimmee in

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friends

and giving your first talk?

i found my first talk i gave.

i was so corny and nervous and get graded for your efforts and the rehearsing for sisters with other sisters.

filip

I dont know how many of you know it, but for not so long ago they renewed the Theocratic school system. Brothers no longer get assigned a topic were they both have to read a piece from the bible, AND analyse and make a talk about it. Now you only get to read a piece from the bible, OR only make a talk about some topic they use. I dont mind getting the ones were you only have to read from the bible... I mean, with those you can just quickly read them through a few minutes before youre going on stage and then read it perfect. Whenever they assign a talk where I have to make everything myself over a given topic, I just turn it back and refuse. The first time I did so, I think it was the first time for the ministry teacher or whatever hes called that he had ever got an assignment back just for the reason: "I dont bother making it." lol

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What is your favorite sandwich?

by Jez in

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friends

.

ok, mine is either:.

peanut butter and mayo or cheez whiz and mayo

filip

to tell the truth, Id pick a buritto instead