Posts by Aude

I met up with Joanna, Eyegirl and No Apologies this past week. We had a very uncomfortable, even terrible time. Everything went wrong, there was little to be said except for complaining, and I would never, EVER do it again. I hated every minute of it.

Really? Yikes. So sorry to hear that. I had not heard anything about this. I would imagine that an apostafest, like anything else social humans do, is dependent on the people themselves and their levels of maturity. I have also found that some of my better events are the ones that I did not have pre-conceived notions or expectations of others.

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JW work situation

by pratt1 in

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i work for a rather large financial institution in nyc.

i run a large profit center and manage over 100 people.

on of my best workers is a dub doing a slow but progressive fade.

Aude_Sapere

Funny how each responded so dramatically different:

When he brought up his grievances with the Dub he was adamant that I do not approach the dub and that he would handle the situtation better in the future.

...I spoke with the dub. She walked into my office with such attitude and defiance, ... she wanted a transfer from her unit to another unit where she would not have any interaction with the Df guy. ...walked out of my office in a huff and no doubt went straight the HR.

Who's the grown up? Who's the 'Christian'?? I think it's quite clear.

Note: The newly DF'ed guy really felt bad for him. ... Don't quite what to do

Umm I have few thoughts.

Reassure him that he is a valuable member of your team. Being part of team, we sometimes have to assist our teammates when they are injured. He's injured right now. Now doubt he's been there when you needed special help with something (special project, special customer, difficult situation) and this is a time when the tables are turned and he's allowed a little extra consideration in return.

Can you give him an extra personal day (if he wants/needs one?)

Does he need a little cash to move into new home?

(I don't know specifics of your df'd guy, but someone at my work became seriously ill shortly after we were hired. When he was there, he was great but after 4months employment, he was absent more than he was present. Even spent a week or two in the hospital. Drs didn't know what was wrong with him. When he'd come in - sat next to me - he be so worried that he was going be fired because he wasn't living up to his commitment to our manager. He was almost in tears. Had just gotten married. Really needed the money. Poor guy was just getting no rest from worrying about personal issues and job, too. Manager spoke with him privately. Assured him the job was secure. Offered to look into company assistance/help with personal expenses (Drs bills, food, etc.) That conversation did soo much good for that employees overall mental health that it helped him more quickly get a handle on his personal health situation. Stronger commitment to the company and that respect radiated thru our department. He's a strong member of our team even now.)

Referral to psychologist to safely express himself and perhaps get clarity on what he wants to JW-wise. (Some companies offer assistance to employees for a few sessions to get thru crisis)

How about a social event for your team? Like a night out to go bowling or play softball or something physical?

Join you at the gym?

Does he have a support group? Friends?? I'd like to suggest inviting him for a meal but there may be thoughts of favoritism amongst others. Can't figure if this is a good idea or not. I think I like the team play better. Something fun for everyone but something that you are positive he will participate in.

Ask him what might ease his emotional pain.

Gain commitment that if stress is getting too strong to let you know immediately. Part of your job is helping to keep your team together and it will do no one any good if he stays in depression too long.

Be a friend. Say hello.

I'll keep you guys updated

I hope so! Nice thread.

-Aude.

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Slow Fade Progresses

by TheListener in

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i wanted to give everyone an update on the current state of my slow fade.

i live in an environment that is hostile to the slow fade so i usually speak in general terms.

this time i plan to give just a little bit more information so i can heal myself as i go through this process.. i have doubted for several years (about 3).

Aude_Sapere

Never considering for a second that I am happier, healthier and following my own will for a change.

Sometimes actions speak louder than words ever will.

Find a new hobby. Take a class. Join a gym. Join a men's sports group. Remodel you house...!!!

Being noticably happier and healthier will confuse them.

Outside friends will be invaluable.

I did a slow fade while in a state of numbness and maybe confusion. Don't remember what specifically was my last straw. I wish I was more deliberate in my fade but I was disillusioned and felt guilty for 10 years for leaving Jehovah. To do over again, if I could, I would have absolutely gotten on with my life and things that I had always wanted to learn and do but was waiting for the New System.

Best wishes for family peace.

-Aude.

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Does Anyone Feel Stuck In Their Job?

by love2Bworldly in

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does anyone hate their job but feel like they would be throwing away a good thing if they quit?

i'm working at my 3rd state agency in 4 years and have been unhappy at every one of them--usually because i don't have enough work to do and feel like a hamster on a wheel waiting for the paycheck, and i'm so bored!.

i'm scared to quit the state job because i have a large family, and this affords me great medical benefits and retirement benefits.. any advice?

Aude_Sapere

At 42 I changed my career and field of employment.

I don't feel stuck. I am never bored. I am pretty well challenged and so happy I made a change in my early 40's rather than my early 50's.

I have better pay, great benefits and, even I don't stay in this job forever, I have already grown so much professionally.

I went from Dental Practice Management to Selling Orthopedic Bracing and Supports to Doctors, Hospitals and Pharmacies.

-Aude. (who was bored to tears at her prior job but is so much happier now)

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I was df in 1993...

by love11 in

... i've heard of a new thought about "1914 the generation that will not pass away" that came out in 1994. what is everyone talking about?

Aude_Sapere

I hope soon so that we can have more friends to post with.

More 'n' more every day...!!

Welcome to JWD.

-Aude.

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BREAKING NEWS

by the_classicist in

the 14 year old jw girl from vernon, bc, has just lost her court case in the bc supreme court in vancouver to not have blood transfutions.

more info.

to come.

Aude_Sapere

I feel bad for her.

Good that the courts stepped in to provide necessary treatment but will she comply with and respect other directives from her doctors?

Poor girl.

Cults Suck.

-Aude.

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Name some silly things you couldn't do as a witness

by sweet tee in

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put your hand on your hips.

switch when you walk.

do popular dances where you shake yo money maker.

Aude_Sapere

Wear pants in sub-zero weather.

-Aude.

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