It sounds like a lot of couples who have left are similar in that one checks things out still and they other isn't that bothered. We are the same, I drop in here every now and then to see what may be going on, I feel that it gives us a heads up as to what might be going on with our still IN relatives and why they are doing what they are doing or treating us coldly... My wife could go without hearing an ything.
It will be nice when it doesn't matter at all. We have been "out" nearly 10 years [faded] She was quick to see the crap, I had been working for about 20 years to be a ms then elder and it took a bit to back away from that... there were a few arguments then, but now no arguing about jw stuff.
Great comments, and thanks for the honesty by all the other posters on this topic....