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  Drifting what i've feared has started already...

  by pale.emperor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  im in the process of drifting out.

  my entire family are jw's.

  my wife and her family are too.

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  TheListener

  I hear you PE. I was in a similar situation. I reported 1 to 3 hours for many months before I just never turned in a report. At the same time I was going to barely any meetings. At some point you just disappear off the radar - that is unless you ride to the meetings with your elder father in law. I also traded talks with other brothers claiming sickness or work; not the same brother more than once or twice. Eventually, I just didn't get any more talks.

  I guess what I'm saying is that if you slowly fade or drift you have to keep up some sort of pretense for awhile which may mean reporting an hour or two. But, I have a feeling that with your particular family situation you are going to have more pressure and may eventually just have to go full "I'm depressed and sick, give me time to heal" on the couple of elders that are bugging you.
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  Feeling anxious, venting...

  by stephanie61092 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  good morning all,.

  this is just a rambling post.

  at the meeting yesterday during the wt study, i started flipping through the magazine to try to pass the time.

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  TheListener

  Good for you Stephanie! I'm glad you are being proactive and moving forward. Please always feel free to vent your frustrations and share your good times here too.
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  Feeling anxious, venting...

  by stephanie61092 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  good morning all,.

  this is just a rambling post.

  at the meeting yesterday during the wt study, i started flipping through the magazine to try to pass the time.

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  TheListener

  You deserve some big hugs ((((((HUGS))))). Life is hard enough without the WTS adding to our problems. I'm glad your parents are communicating and socializing with you. All witnesses know the WTS rules and regulations on disfellowshipping; most likely they have justified their relationship with you to themselves in some way. Their attitude may swing back and forth a bit but I really don't think that one article will suddenly make them realize that they need to change how they interact with you.

  But, please, get some professional counseling to get you through this. You deserve to be happy and not to have your happiness so dependent on your outside relationships that you could possibly harm yourself. A professional counselor can be so helpful and important to our healing and moving on in a healthy way.
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  New K.Hall Design, Mansfield

  by BluesBrother in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  not mansfield u k , but mansfield in u s a - it doesn't look much, does it?

  in fact even the uber dubs on j w talk are not impressed (that must be a first!

  this thread of theirs is publicly readable:.

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  TheListener

  I received pictures from an old friend of a relatively new KH in the USA northeast and it doesn't look as bad as that. They must have changed the design even more than a two years ago.

  Love how the witnesses on that site can't even speak their mind about how they personally feel about the design of a KH. Seriously? That is so sad. And if you asked any of them in person they would only admit to maybe not liking it at first but now they looooove it.
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  "But WHY would you want to know those things??"

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i ran into an older sister who has always been very sweet.. it was a friendly chat...yet she pushed for a reason why my family have been missing from meetings for some time.

  the question was deflected, until it just had to be said: "well, there have been some troubling and disturbing issues about the society especially the way things were handled during the royal commission, as well as many other issues".. she quickly cut in and said "but why would you want to know these things?

  its best not to research and look at those sort of things - so we don't get upset!".

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  Kairos, I love the comment you made.
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  Trying To Leave - Im Going Crazy

  by pale.emperor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this is my first post.

  i really feel i need to leave the jw's rather than go along pretending everything is perfect etc.

  no friends, me at work.

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  The old "even if it isn't the truth...." bullcrap. I spouted it myself years ago. In my opinion you can only say that and mean it when you totally believe it's the truth or are trying to convince yourself it's the truth. Once you know it's all crap that statement just doesn't ring true.
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  Memorial Audience Filled with Unbelieving Mates and Other Miserable Relatives

  by xjwsrock in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i looked around my hall and saw so many miserable unbelieving mates and relatives it was actually funny.

  they were in a glazed-over stupor.

  they looked liked children forced to go to an opera.

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  TheListener

  Thanks Diogenesister.
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  Despite a 'number' of similar projects being pulled, the Chelmsford Project will continue...

  by NeverKnew in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this article suggests that there are projects being halted, but chelmsford isn't one of them.

  can someone from the uk tell me if this article was written by a reputable and known publisher?

  plans for huge jehovah's witnesses hq continues.

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  Wouldn't a bunker be proof that they don't trust in J? I find it hard to believe that they'd create bunkers. That's not their style.
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  Update on my current life

  by umadevi in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm visiting this site after few years here and it's feels like coming home!

  just a recap on my past visits here ... i was a confused single jw mom with a 9 year old son in 2011. some friends here sent me soft copies of coc and few other ebooks which gave me the courage and strength to exit from wt society.

  best ever decision i made!

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  TheListener

  Awesome update Umadevi!!! Thanks for making my day. I am so happy for you and those others that have left too.
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  How much do you think GB enjoy their lives?

  by elbib in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  many who have watched the gb know that they seem to be desperate to be admired, to be looked up to…….

  now the question arises—do they really enjoy their lives?

  does their superiority complex make them feel good?.

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  TheListener

  They live the good life. If they are true believers they have no fear of death and in the meantime they are at the top of the heap and everyone listens to every word they say. The only downside could be if they are humble, which I don't actually think they are, they may be burdened with concern for the rank and file witnesses and the tough life most of them live.