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Posts by peggy
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16the JW approach to sexual abuse
by spopeislandstyle ini was molested by a brother in my congregation when i was nine years old.
when i told my mother she went directly to a family friend and respected elder to seek advise.
a couple days later, he and another elder made a visit to our home and questioned me for hours.
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Why Is A "Non-violent" People So Violent To Its Young?
by steve2 inone of the anomalies of the jehovah's witness worldview is that it "carries" its non-violence hand-in-hand with some fairly violent practices towards its young ones.
so, the jehovah's witness father or mother who would reject any involvement in the military or "turn the other cheek" if physically attacked in field service, has no qualms about yanking their noisy child out of the kingdom hall and giving that child a good thrashing (i.e., beating on the buttocks, legs, arms and back) and creating an even greater noise.
i am not a parent, but over the years of observing parents - and others - hitting children both inside and outside the kingdom hall, it slowly occurred to me just what a barbaric practice this was.
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peggy
What about the spatula or wooden spoon? I have seen even in the last year, a parent who just showed the "weapon" to their young one to gain control. What chance do you think the child will have in viewing the Kingdom Hall and their parents as a place of safety?
Slim to NONE!
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ELDER LEAVES WIFE....DEMANDS TO BE DF'D...
by integ ina prominent elder in a local congregation came home to his wife and told her "i love you, but i'm not in love with you".
then wrote a letter to the congregation elders asking to be disfellowshipped.
it is t. b#ffa.
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peggy
This whole subject frustrates the HELL out of me. First of all most JW marriages start out in an unhealthy way. Gotta get married quick, wouldn't want fornication to occur. Most witnesses feel attraction and are married very quickly.
After the honeymoon, the problems surface. Sadly some even realize that they are mismatched, not in love. Being ones who would like to stay on the "straight and narrow" they deny their feelings, try their best to do "the right thing". Many have started out marriage at a very young age, later in life as they mature, they realize that life could have been different.
I have no judgement for those who go through the pain of marriage ending. You are looking from the outside in. You have left the Org. Many of these ones are still VERY attached to all they have ever known. They want the paradise. They also want a relationship that works. They have to go through the hoops to achieve that. If it means divorcing, being Df'd, remarriage to, "in their eyes" receive forgiveness and a second chance, will you stand back in judgement of that. I can't, I feel sorry for the pain that these ones for the most part must bear.
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A Divided Household
by HadEnuf inwhilst taking my morning shower, where i always seem to do my best thinking (please, no rude remarks concerning showering, thank you)...i got to thinking about my dad.
our family was raised jw's; except for my dad, who knew better!
he passed away about 20 years ago and today, whilst in my shower, (oh yeah, i said that already)...i thought how hard that must of been on him.
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peggy
Your post brought me to tears! It brought back so many memories of my own divided household. My parents managed to stay together, still are married after 54 years. I love my dad, he didn't always handle things right, but I know he lost out on a normal life living with all of us. Of my four siblings, none of us has been able to maintain a relationship. My brother is on his forth wife. He disassoiciated from the WTS, and became a Mormon. My other sister divorced over twenty years ago, and has basicly never dated. My other sister is on her third husband. Both of my sisters are active witnesses. I will be divorced after 28 years of marriage this spring. I am inactive.
I often wonder what life would have been like had those witnesses not converted my mom when I was 4. I'll never know.
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FOND FAREWELL TO THE BI-MONTHLY AWAKE!
by steve2 inwith the jw congregations about to be informed that the ubiquitous awake!
magazine is to be issued just once a month from january 2006, now is an apt time for interested parties to share brief memories and/or impressions about the bi-monthly awake!
magazines, whether poignant, hard-hitting or humorous.
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peggy
I do have to say that the AWAKE saved my butt many a time through high school. I was a terrible student. A true procastinator! The night before a paper was due, was a good time to pull out an AW volume and plagiarize all the material I could for my report.
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Saying GOOD-BYE
by peggy intoday i visited a dear one in the hospital.
i was there on monday and he was having such a rough time, i wasn't able to go into his room.
today, i arrived and peeked into his room, he saw me and waved me in.
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peggy
I wish I could describe this man to you, he was a true rebel, yet devoted to his faith. He was a JW, but so much more. Here on this forum, many have such anger, that his faith puts his integrity as a man in question. I can't change that. I only know that at my lowest, he showed up at my door. He held my hand and prayed. He didn't badger me for being a weak witness, he truly followed the ways of Christ.
I was married to a man who reached out for oversight. He was an elder. In the more then two decades that we were married, he never once prayed with me on a personal level. He never said a prayer at night with me. He stood on the stage and wowed the audience, but my spiritual life was no concern of his.
I no longer know what I believe, death is a mystery. This man was still full of life even three weeks ago. He is eighty, but always defied his age. He was a song and dance man. He loved life. You would have thought him an active 70 year old. He held on to my hand tightly and said he didn't want to leave. He wanted to LIVE!
No matter what your faith or religion, a life of compassion for others is a life well lived. Few measure up. I'm a better person for having known him!
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Saying GOOD-BYE
by peggy intoday i visited a dear one in the hospital.
i was there on monday and he was having such a rough time, i wasn't able to go into his room.
today, i arrived and peeked into his room, he saw me and waved me in.
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peggy
Today I visited a dear one in the hospital. I was there on monday and he was having such a rough time, I wasn't able to go into his room. Today, I arrived and peeked into his room, he saw me and waved me in. I pointed to the door....family ONLY. He waved me in anyway. He was struggling to breath. He had two oxygen supplies, one directly into the nose, and then a mouth and nose cap feeding him more. Still he fought for every breath. I held his hand, told him I loved him. Tears fell from his eyes. He tried to talk. He pulled his mask away and said he hoped to see his children before he died. They are all in another state and making arrangements to get here to see him. I hope they make it!
This man showed true christian love to me this past year. He is not an elder, he is a man who cares. He stopped by often, he brought my mags, which I couldn't find time to pick up, he came to encourage, to pray with me and my daughter. He had no hidden motive. He had compassion and empathy for us, he was disgusted with the lack of care the elders had given when our family fell a part. He has a deep love of people.
He reached for his already written obituary to show me. It was beautiful. It was about him, the man.
I kissed him tenderly, I told him I would see him again. I hope and pray I will! I'll miss him until then!
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For those raised as JWs...
by Country Girl ini have found that while i can remember my childhood from ages 3-5, i can't remember much after that until i was 17 or so.
my mom came into the jws when i was 3, and i remember celebrating our last christmas.
it was a small christmas tree on the end table and it had a present for each of us (2 kids).
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peggy
It was amazing to me to read this post. I have a lost childhood. My mom started studying when I was 2yrs old, baptized when I was 4. I have no solid memories until around 9. I started drinking and drugging at 12. I assume that my mind had the capacity to shut out the pain for a time, the alcohol was my next defense. My father was not a witness and he used every trick in the book to stop this religion within my family. My mom was determined to hold to her faith. The result is four screwed up kids! By the way, my father then begged each of us kids to turn to my moms religion when he saw how much trouble we were in. We went from kids who were trying to cope, to kids who were trying to find God.
Still trying to cope!
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Did I challenge my JW husband too much?
by wordlywife inin case all of you don't know, i'm married to a wonderful jw man, for a few years now.
he was reinstated ater we were married.
anyway, i have children from a previous marriage and at times disagree with my husband on discipline, how things are explained, etc.
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peggy
Sadly, you are married to a spiritually weak man, which may be worse then being married to a spiritually "healthy" JW. You might point out some scriptures referring to the husband. I don't have my bible available, but the bible talks about "loving your wife as you do yourself, feeding and cherishing her" also, "do not be bitterly angry with your wife".
Sadly, some men regardless of religion, veiw there manhood as the ultimate authority. That authority takes precendence over ALL else!
In my opinion, humble as it may be. Your children need your guidance and care. They need to be assured of your love and protection. Religious differences in a household can cause much pain for the children. Hold your ground for what you believe, but please consider the childrens feelings while doing that. Fighting and bickering over religion in front of the children is confusing.
Your husband made a dicision to marry you, he needs to be the humble one. He needs to let you be you. He can worship in anyway he wants, but he has no right to bully you to believe and think as he does!
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Was Johnny Carson pro JW?
by HappyDad indoes anyone remember one of his shows from the late 1970's when john denver was on the show?
i never saw the show but heard about it in the jw circle (urban legend??).
it was known that john denver hated jw's and during their bantering, carson asked denver about his asking jw's to leave during his concerts.
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peggy
Scoobysnax,
Why would ones kick themselves just because it is possible that Johnny respected his aunt and cameraman? I have no idea if this is a true story or an urban ledgend. The point is that all people who deserve respect, should receive it, no matter what religion, race, gender, or age. Believe it or not, there are JW's who are deserving of respect, and many who are not.
If John Denver hated ALL JW's based on a bad experience, would he hate ALL black people, gay people, young people, so on and so on........because he had a bad experience? That would in fact be very close minded.
I have very good memories of entertainment from JOHNNY! I respect his ability to perform. I don't know the man.
RIP Johnny!