Yes we did.
Because we did the deed A LOT.
But we phrased it in such a way so as to make us seem we had "fooled around some a while back, but recognized sex before marriage would hurt our chances foe a successful marriage and so we stopped". I wasn't one of the golden boys in the cong., but I learned to stay under the radar and tell people what they needed to hear. And it worked!
The only reason we didn't have sex on the night before the wdding, is her mother came down to help her get ready for the big day.
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21Did you lie before getting married in the KH?
by Samuel Thorsen inas you know every young couple who is planning to get married in the kh are asked a question about "clean conduct" a week or two before the wedding.
if you admit to have been fooling around to much you can forget about the kh and go and get married elsewhere.. i'm not married myself, but i was engaged to be married once and my soon-to-be father in law (an elder) recommended a certain elder to do the marriage stuff in the kh because he was a kind of easy on the mantadory questions.. fortunatly in never got that far because me and my girl split up about 2 months before the planned wedding, but i have been to a lot of kh weddings and i know for sure that some of the couples had to lie to cover up their conduct to get married in the hall.. but how common is this?.
did you lie before getting maried in the kh, or do you know someone who did?.
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What kind of beauty?
by duffy ini saw an awake on the sidewalk asking what kind of beauty really matters.
i'll tell ya what i learned as a teenager and twenty-something among the jw's; the beauty of your posessions.
a guy could be the most mysoginistic troll but if he had the cool car, the spikey hair, the right clothes, the "sisters" flocked to him while an average looking guy (me )who tried living along the wtbs rules; meanial job, modest attire and attitude, couldn't catch a break from the golddiggers sisters.
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It was a pain in the &ss while I was in, because I had few choices. But looking back, I see the women in the cong. Had almost no choices. If they wanted more than a small apartment with rommates, they had to marry for it. They certainly couldn't go out and get a career and make their own money, not if they wanted to remain in good standing.
So they pursued guys with money, landed them and in a few years were bitchin' to the drab guys like me about what a jackhole their husband was being.
If I had any self-esteem back then I could have nailed (sorry, not feeling very PC today) a lot of my married sisters© as they were telling me they wished their husband was more like me.
Duffy of the "Shiny red Doc Martens, black Carhartts, black tee, leather coat, and charcoal Borsalino" class -
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What kind of beauty?
by duffy ini saw an awake on the sidewalk asking what kind of beauty really matters.
i'll tell ya what i learned as a teenager and twenty-something among the jw's; the beauty of your posessions.
a guy could be the most mysoginistic troll but if he had the cool car, the spikey hair, the right clothes, the "sisters" flocked to him while an average looking guy (me )who tried living along the wtbs rules; meanial job, modest attire and attitude, couldn't catch a break from the golddiggers sisters.
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Yeah I did. There was some sort of error message so I posted it again and here we are in a parallell duffy universe...
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What kind of beauty?
by duffy ini saw an awake on the sidewalk asking what kind of beauty really matters.
i'll tell ya what i learned as a teenager and twenty-something among the jw's; the beauty of your posessions.
a guy could be the most mysoginistic troll but if he had the cool car, the spikey hair, the right clothes, the "sisters" flocked to him while an average looking guy (me )who tried living along the wtbs rules; meanial job, modest attire and attitude, couldn't catch a break from the golddiggers sisters.
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I saw an Awake on the sidewalk asking what kind of beauty really matters.
I'll tell ya what I learned as a teenager and twenty-something among the jw's; The beauty of your posessions. A guy could be the most mysoginistic troll but if he had the cool car, the spikey hair, the right clothes, the "sisters" flocked to him while an average looking guy (me )who tried living along the WTBS rules; meanial job, modest attire and attitude, couldn't catch a break from thegolddiggerssisters.
I tell you, after working through the bu**sh*t guilt of having sex outside of marriage, I found that good old, regular women aren't so caught up in what I own (I subscibe to a life of voluntary simplicity after reading, "A Reasonable Life" by Frederick Mate') and enjoy being around me for who I am. Another reason I am happier now. -
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What kind of beauty?
by duffy ini saw an awake on the sidewalk asking what kind of beauty really matters.
i'll tell ya what i learned as a teenager and twenty-something among the jw's; the beauty of your posessions.
a guy could be the most mysoginistic troll but if he had the cool car, the spikey hair, the right clothes, the "sisters" flocked to him while an average looking guy (me )who tried living along the wtbs rules; meanial job, modest attire and attitude, couldn't catch a break from the golddiggers sisters.
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I saw an Awake on the sidewalk asking what kind of beauty really matters.
I'll tell ya what I learned as a teenager and twenty-something among the jw's; The beauty of your posessions. A guy could be the most mysoginistic troll but if he had the cool car, the spikey hair, the right clothes, the "sisters" flocked to him while an average looking guy (me )who tried living along the WTBS rules; meanial job, modest attire and attitude, couldn't catch a break from thegolddiggerssisters.
I tell you, after working through the bu**sh*t guilt of having sex outside of marriage, I found that good old, regular women aren't so caught up in what I own (I subscibe to a life of voluntary simplicity after reading, "A Reasonable Life" by Frederick Mate') and enjoy being around me for who I am. Another reason I am happier now. -
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Forbidden Pleasures
by mtbatoon in.
after leaving, what (excluding the obvious bit of slap and tickle) is your favourite forbidden pleasure.
for me black pudding, full of bloody goodness
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Enjoying a fine tobacco in one of my many pipes.
Not having to work a job I hate in order to subsidize an activity I never enjoyed.
Having a expanding role in the local filmmaking community and working on learning the screenwriter's craft,without worrying what someone (read;elders/congregation) will think.
Sex. That was something I enjoyed prior to fading because My (then) wife and I didn't talk to anbody else about what we did in bed, or on the floor,or the tables, or outside, or in the car or... But now I am experiencing the fun of dating both poly and bisexual women.Whoo boy!
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How I felt I lived my life
by duffy into the lowest common denominator; if there was even one ignorant soul who believed long hair or an earring on a man meant they were homosexual, or a beard made one a "filthy commie" like fidel castro, we had to groom ourselves to impress that slack-jawed yokel.
i actually heard these reasons come out of an elder's mouth even though we were in an area that was pretty progressive for the 70's, college town and all.
glad to be living my life for me, duffy of the "gettin' my next piercing and first tattoo in two weeks" class
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I had a job that had jw standards of grooming while I was fading so while I was slowly moving north but occasionally running into my old "friends". I still looked the part, and it helped to avoid messy questions and confrontations.
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How I felt I lived my life
by duffy into the lowest common denominator; if there was even one ignorant soul who believed long hair or an earring on a man meant they were homosexual, or a beard made one a "filthy commie" like fidel castro, we had to groom ourselves to impress that slack-jawed yokel.
i actually heard these reasons come out of an elder's mouth even though we were in an area that was pretty progressive for the 70's, college town and all.
glad to be living my life for me, duffy of the "gettin' my next piercing and first tattoo in two weeks" class
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To the lowest common denominator; If there was even ONE ignorant soul who believed long hair or an earring on a man meant they were homosexual, or a beard made one a "filthy commie" like Fidel Castro, we had to groom ourselves to impress that slack-jawed yokel.
I actually heard these reasons come out of an elder's mouth even though we were in an area that was pretty progressive for the 70's, college town and all.
Glad to be living my life for me, Duffy of the "gettin' my next piercing and first tattoo in two weeks" class -
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Did You Ever Enjoy Going To Assemblies and Conventions??
by minimus inevery january, they read the letter as to where you'll be "assigned" for the convention and then the our kingdom ministry will detail all the do's and don'ts to remember.
was going to these things ever enjoyable to you?
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"Than at lunch we here them talking of how wonderful their dinner was last night and that the CO had invited them to dinner! I was heart-brokent then PISSED. I confronted them immediately on their rudeness. They explained that it was obviously a "blessing" from Jehovah to be included by the CO" I never heard of a CO opening his wallet before, did they have to pay for this "blessing"?
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Would Your "Spirit-Directed Conscience"Have Made You Walk Out Of A Movie?
by Englishman inthis was a fairly frequent occurence amongst the brothers and sisters in my young dubby days.
i was heaved out of the cinema on more than one occasion, generally by my mother who reckoned some things were just too much for my innocent young eyes and ears.
i only half saw:.
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duffy
My family wasn't big on going out to the movies in the first place, but we never walked out on any we went to see. Before j/wing our lives, I remember seeing Mister Majestik at the drive-in as well as The Sting. TV was no big deal either. Mom loved Benny Hill, I was a rabid SNL fan, even though I often had to underline my Watchtower in the backseat, and we alll watched Charlies Angels. I've made up for lost time by joining a film association and I watch just about anything, although it took several times to get all the way through Boondock Saints.(a movie made better by the presence of friens and beer) Looking back I think we must have been the cong.'s "weak family"