Hi Yesterdays Child,
Just wanted to add my 2. I agree strongly with SixofNine. Never let your son go into a committee meeting without you being there too. Actually, I would not let him meet with the elders at all, he is not baptized and there is no obligation for him to take their crap.
I have a daughter who was involved in an incident once, where an older well respected JW, was passing beer to another table, he handed the beer to my daughter (in a Pizza Hut) and my daughter passed the beer on to the person it was intended for. This called for a committee meeting for all involved, the elder didn't seem to like it, but I would not let my daughter go into that meeting unless I was there with her. They took no action against her.
I also agree with most of the other comments.
Borgfree