Posts by Sparkplug

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Only in Texas

by Jim_TX in

a texas state trooper pulled a car over and told the driver that, because he had been wearing his seat belt, he had just won $5,000 in the statewide safety competition.

"what are you going to do with the money?

" asked the policeman.

Babies daddy found me.

by Sparkplug in

last night i had a great evening.

i went over to my daughters fathers...wife's parents.

they were the neatest people.

Hillbilly. That is just it. A court order never came back. They established paternity and then could not find him. So basically if it was say 100 a month. It is already outlandish. Two takes it up there and 3 a month would be a lot to repay. HE really is stepping up to the plate and sending steady checks. It may not last, but truly it seems that he got my point.

Satanus. I hear that from some that it was worth it. I still would like to know my dad though I never have found him. Just to know. To see what is there. Do I have brothers and sisters. Will they ever be a part of my life? These things I would like for her to not have to question. Actually just by meeting them...she already has a lot of those answered. It is now up to her the depth she desires.

Cameo~ I am not expecting a miracle. Though I truly think that they can make this a good thing. I am pretty sure it will wind up good. Even if not a blossoming relationship. It seems to be ok so far despite the strain.

Hillbilly. Yep it is at her pace. She talked a bit today and right now she just feels awkward. She sees what they have. Mom, dad, vacations, a Home to go to at Christmas and relatives...she is just not sure where she fits. We have all that, in our own way, it was just so picture perfect looking...she was overwhelmed. What I saw was her lil bro and sis just wanting a big sis. I think she sees that now.

Snowbird~ I wanted to do that a long time ago. I realized though that each one has burned their own bridge...or it is up to them to build it again. I guess if he was my son's dad he would have some dancing to do for my son...he wants nothing to do with any of his relatives or his dad. Bridge is burned. I have never closed the door for them. I let dad do it themselves. Who really has the right to take away blood? If her dad seemed harmful I would, but right now it just seems like someone trying to make up for a life unlived and we all have that in different areas. So I give it a chance. Now...

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Babies daddy found me.

by Sparkplug in

last night i had a great evening.

i went over to my daughters fathers...wife's parents.

they were the neatest people.

Sparkplug

Nobody had an estranged parent show up and want to know their child?

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DA Letter

by sooner7nc in

the rough draft of my da letter.

comments?

suggestions?.

Sparkplug

I do understand you wanting to be the one that breaks ties. On the other hand...after years of wishing I had done the same...I now feel that what is the point. It does feel no matter what it is still the rules they laid out.

Now when my family tells me it is my choice for not seeing them...I say back that I have no problem being with them, and they are welcome anytime. So it lies with what they choose to do. I did not walk from them. They CHOSE to stay where they are. That was a s close as I could get to making my own views apparenat to them.

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Wind

by hillbilly in

jw
friends

it's true...kansas blows and texas sucks.. it's neary 70 today in okc... but the wind is about 50 knots.. it's bad when a 200 pound guy is looking for rocks to put in his pockets so not to blow away.. (looks for short staples .... needs to nail a hat on).

hill.

Sparkplug

Oh it is nice and warm here today. No Jacket required. ;)

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I can't believe what I did.

by reneeisorym in

jw
friends

so yesterday i was watching the news and i saw something about secret santa.

there is this movement of people who hand random strangers $100 bills at places like laundry mats and thrift stores.

so i was "moved" and decided to give it a shot.

Sparkplug

I think what you did was perfect, and sharing it may just be a good reminder for us all to be attentive to the needs of other. If you have it, share it!!

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Metro Sexual

by Sparkplug in

so...i was speaking with a friend that is still in.

(long story) anyhow, he told me that there was an article against metro sexual males.

something along the lines of over adornment and too much primping.

Sparkplug

HAl~ I guess the rumpled thing is in. Very casual. I find myself doing it too.

Hillbilly, I know what you mean. I used to really dress up too. Last time I saw some witness girls they were really showing a lot as far as body parts. I thought to myself...."Hey, didn't I get totally marked for that?"

I think it is a congregation to congregation call on what is OK, and what is not.

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Ladies - Educate us Men - What Do you Want From your Man ?

by flipper in

so i started this thread on another board too.

we have a sizeable number of people - men and women not in a relationship perhaps here.

ladies - what is it that you want in a relationship emotionally, mentally, sexually, and materially ?

Sparkplug

man? What man?

Me a man...well that's a thought. lol

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Babies daddy found me.

by Sparkplug in

last night i had a great evening.

i went over to my daughters fathers...wife's parents.

they were the neatest people.

Sparkplug

Last night I had a great evening. I went over to my daughters fathers...wife's parents. They were the neatest people. I totally loved his wife and my daughters brother and sister from him are dead ringers for her.

Strange how after all this time he has decided to come around and work things through. He is very sincere and after all that I have done and strange circumstances, I don't like that he never showed up. But I do understand making some terrible decisions.

My daughter is confused, uninterested, feeling torn and I am sure this is bloody hell for her. How do you help a teen let go of anger and hurt and try to make the best of what is in front of her? It has taken me close to these 38 years to reach such peace regarding situations. So I am taking it slow. Her pace. I have to nudge her a bit which makes me a real creep because of her not wanting to address it. I hope this passes and soon they will find something for themselves. Then I can step back and not be a buffer board.

Strange as it was being in the situation, I did truly enjoy myself. It was good to see people that can get along after such a craptastophy. Now all I need is more time so that she can heal and see what it is like to have a larger support board. Hopefully it takes hold in the next 6 months. But it could take years.

Even more cool was he apologized to my son for how the mess and his not being there has affected his life, and myself also. This usually never comes as far as I am told. HE even has started helping out financially. Which I really truly appreciate and never expected. How do you make up for close to 18 years.

I did tell him not to put a number to it all. If he did and I did I might just end up angry. I told him that he knows how much it takes to raise a kid. If he has 50,000 or more laying around...please write a check. If not, do what is right and we will leave it at that. It is kind of hard to make up that much lost time and money. For me it more about the relationship. And that all lies in how far my daughter wants to take it. I hope it works. She could enjoy a much more enriched life.

Anyhow, I think it is a great thing to work on a bit.

Any of you go through this?

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Going back to school. Need acceptance.

by Sparkplug in

so i am trying to go back to college for my masters.

i had referrals, but due situations, i did not have any professional endorsements.

so finally after being told to update my references, i went back to the drawing board and found my dean from my bs degree.

Sparkplug

free to think~ I will tell them that if not, some homeys from JWD will be doing a drive by shoe throwing. Should work right?

HAl~ Thank you. That felt like cool water on a fever. I need a hug.