Posts by heatherg

I never properly introduced myself. I just hopped on and started posting!
My story reads pretty much the same as most of yours. Dad was a hypocritical elder that phsycially, mentally, and emotionally abused us kids and my mother.
As the oldest I had to set the example and be the good little JW, reg pioneer, and all that crap. Wasn't a good girl really though, realized I had to get away from the borg and my family if I was to survive. Tried many a time to end my own life but decided that I wasn't going to let them win. I left at age 19 getting df'd for fornication. At least that's the reason I gave them, wasn't true, but didn't care. Figured I'd leave with a bang. Had a few rough yrs at first. As a JW and especially as a girl, you're not raised or prepared for the big world. As nothing was expected of me but to marry, produce kids, and pioneer. I am strong and got past all that, am now married to a man who believes in me having my own say and decisions in this marriage. I also have 3 children who I try my hardest to give a normal and loving family life. My husband is currently in school to earn a degree and will be done this spring, and then this fall will be my turn. I am determined to show them ( my parents) that I can and will make something of myself. I will never forgive my parents for the way they have treated and continue to treat me, like I have some plague or something. I just found out that my dad has a brain tumor, probably not much time left, and I don't even feel sad. And I think that's sad, I have removed myself so far from them that I have as much pity for them as I would a stranger. I know I need counseling for that, but am trying to heal myself instead.

It's been great talking to everyone on here, you're like family. It's nice to know I'm not alone with my problems and quirks from the way I was raised!
Heather

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my life growing up as a JW

by moanzy in

just want to share my experience growing up through this organization.

all but one sister are jw.

my other sister was molested by other people who were at the time witnesses.

heatherg

Hello moanzy, your story sounds so familiar. I wish you the best now that you're free. I've been out almost 10 yrs now, the first few out were sooo hard, no family, feeling alone, very naive, and so hurt and bitter. I really wasn't able or prepared to take care of myself. It does get better after time. It will always hurt, and I will always be bitter, and I will never ever ever forgive my parents. But I did move on, I have 3 beautiful children that I try to show as much love to and raise normally and properly,. And I have a wonderful husband who tries to understand and help me. Just hang in there, it will get better. hg

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You gotta read this.........it made me want to throw up!

by BLISSISIGNORANCE in

you might have already seen this but it's a first for me and i'm annoyed!.

i have to get back to work.................i'm getting cabin fever!.

and information sourcewednesday, march 9, 2005 ?

heatherg

According to the Bible that Jehovah's Witnesses honor, family is an important obligation.

Friggin Liars!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hg

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Music - what are you listening to right now?

by talesin in

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and i think the guy upstairs is prolly 'awake' now!

heatherg

I'm very random, Missy Elliot, then Ministry's Greatest Hits, to a mix CD of punk, then Nirvana, then to top it off, Frank Sinatra. Pretty much covers all the bases. Oh yeah to fall asleep eiteher Enya or one of my many classical CD's. hg

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Can you ever forgive your family for shunning you?

by jeanniebeanz in

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heatherg

definetly not while they are doing it. Guess that doesn't make me a very good Christian then does it?

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Can you ever forgive your family for shunning you?

by jeanniebeanz in

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heatherg

Hi jeannie... I've forgiven my brother. Never my parents though. Holier than thou crap that they have. I could really go on and vent, not gonna let it get to me. If my parents ever did come around, we would never have a child/parent relationship again(not that we ever did). I would treat them as acquaintances, you know, 'how's the weather' type of thing. hg

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Funniest WT Pics.....

by Preston in

i thought this was "bull" from night court when i was a kid.... .

lucille ball?!

?...from "i love lucy"??!?!?.

heatherg

You know what was the funniest about those sex questions is when it was a young single guy doing the reading, conducting, or even funnier when they answered it like they knew what they were talking about!

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Funniest WT Pics.....

by Preston in

i thought this was "bull" from night court when i was a kid.... .

lucille ball?!

?...from "i love lucy"??!?!?.

heatherg

Nos, something about that water spitting always stuck with me too. Anyone got that pic to post? hg