Six Step ReframeThe Six-Step Reframe is an NLP technique used to replace an unwanted behaviour or bad habit with a more desirable one - while keeping the benefits, or secondary gain, of the old behaviour.
NLP presupposes that "every behaviour has a positive intention," and that any undesirable behaviour a person has will also have a positive benefit behind it (often unconsciously).
The Six-Step Reframe uses a mild trance state, negotiation, and creativity from unconscious resources to change the "part" that's causing the behaviour.
1. Identify the behavior to change
2. Set up signals with the part causing the behavior
3. Identify the positive intention behind the behavior
4. Generate a number of possible alternative behaviors which will equally satisfy the same intent
5. Choose the favored three replacement behaviors
6. Check to see if there is any other internal conflict regarding the change.
From http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reframing_%28NLP%29#Six_Step_Reframe
I guess the question I need to figure out for me is what behavior "I" need to change. One comes to mind is missing the family/friends feeling.