Welcome.
I only join her at the meeting 1 or 2 times a month
I have always wondered about this. What do you see as the benefit of attending meetings?
From my experience, nonbelievers attending only does more damage.
- Improves her social status, making her more likely to stay in the cult.
- Gives her hope you may join up (and yes, some have, in your situation), making her more likely to stay in the cult.
- Provides her with reportable preaching hours, making her more likely to stay in the cult.
Good luck with your situation.