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  Being a Socially Inept ex-JW

  by LaurenM in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i'm absolutely clueless concerning relationships.

  i had barely any friends at all growing up a jw kid & absolutely no interaction with "worldly" people or any guys whatsoever.

  i have had a relationship of sorts with a guy for 4.5 months now, but i'm so clueless!

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  rebel8

  Sure, you can break it off. Then you will miss this opportunity to develop relationship skills, and you will probably be more lonely and depressed.

  Yes, I lacked relationship skills. I am not great at it even now. I broke off a lot of relationships when I became uncomfortable with my lack of skills or when I was asked a lot of questions about my past. I always hid my jw past. Nobody could really relate to me when they tried to talk about their childhoods.
  

  People learn how to be in a relationship slowly IRL. They interact with kids their own age. They date. They go to parties and proms. Their little hearts get broken. All of this is how a person learns how to do relationships. We skipped all of that and must learn it in adulthood.
  

  So here you are. It's up to you.
  

  If you decide to stick with it--

  Have you told this person about your past & feeling that you don't know what to do?

  Ask specific questions from people you trust, for example, how often should I call him?
  
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  Cult memories extinguish good memories

  by rebel8 in

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  2. friends

  i have this thing.

  i don't know why it is or how to stop it.

  every time i happen to daydream about something positive from my childhood, some related cult aspect comes to mind and extinguishes it like a candle is being blown out.. for a while, i thought this was anger and resentment causing me to want to find an excuse to be angry (not that i need one).

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  I have this thing. I don't know why it is or how to stop it.

  Every time I happen to daydream about something positive from my childhood, some related cult aspect comes to mind and extinguishes it like a candle is being blown out.

  For a while, I thought this was anger and resentment causing me to want to find an excuse to be angry (not that I need one). I'm probably now as "over" the anger as I ever will be, so I'm thinking that's not it.

  It's not something I'm consciously doing. For example, I was driving and listening to a song that was popular when I was really young, probably right before the cult got me. I was remembering a relative teasing me while singing the song. Then I started remembering all the sh1t he did to me in later years via the cult, becoming an MS and supporting some truly messed up decisions by the local BOE.

  I mean, seriously, why. I don't deliberately think about this person, but I was smiling and remembering the silly song thing, and then a moment later I am remembering myself in one of the worst moments of my childhood.

  Thoughts?
  
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  This is Why I Will Keep Explaining Evolution to ex-JWs

  by cofty in

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  rebel8

  It's surprising that 6% were open to the idea of evolution.
  

  Not very open, though. They just believed humans evolved over time due to natural processes.
  
  
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  Sometimes I feel like I Should Believe something...

  by freemamaof3 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  has anyone else felt like they should believe something after leaving wt?

  i am an agnostic atheist and its so so hard for me to believe in a god or higher power.

  it just doesn't make sense.

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  OP, have you considered exploring Humanism?
  
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  Anti-religion T-Shirt idea

  by Simon in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i want a t-shirt.

  something that says "religion is crap, i don't care which one".. i was thinking of adapting the "coexist" one to say "toxic" instead which is great because it removes 'science' but includes all the major world religions.. anyone else have any ideas?.

  also a tag-line ... "whatever god you worship, he's a weirdigan".

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  Yes, JW_Rogue, but it's fun to dream.

  I have a small collection of offensive t-shirts that I wear at home.
  
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  I've been found out!

  by pale.emperor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  well, thats it folks.. my identity on here has been rumbled and reported to the elders.

  someone, somehow, has figured out that im a member of this site and - rather than speak to me - has promptly reported me to the elders.

  i just feel sad for my daughter.

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  To the lurkernarcs who meddled with pale.emperor's personal business:
  Up your nose with a rubber hose.
  
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  slimboyfat joins the Mormons!

  by slimboyfat in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i know that some people on the board have experience of being mormons, so i would be interested in your feedback.

  at church this afternoon it was an uncanny experience.

  in the past i've read a lot about mormons, so i thought i was prepared in general for what it would be like.

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  You must have a fondness for American cults.
  
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  Tried One Last Time In The Kingdom Hall...

  by pale.emperor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so last thursday was meeting day.

  my wife knows my thoughts on this religion and respects my fade and is completely ok with it (which surprised me, and also made me love her even more).

  i think she must know it's all crack-pot stuff but seeing as her whole family are all in and about 98% of them cant even explain their beleifs without a watchtower on hand i think she's just going along for the friends/family/social side of it.

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  While i passed him, he spoke silently but obviously attention-grabbing to his wife: "He will leave us, he is not one of us".

  He said this out loud? Wow. How about jehoho is the only one who can judge?
  
  
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  They call me TaterSalad

  by TaterSalad in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my name is tatersalad.

  i have been disassociated for about six years now.

  i have moved past most of my jw issues, but i feel like it would be cool to get to know others like myself.

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  rebel8

  Welcome to The Dark Side.

  We have cookies.
  
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  Islam is a religion of peace (2)

  by Coded Logic in

  1. social
  2. current

  in behalf of the horrific events of saturday night, i just wanted to take a moment to remind everyone that islam is a religion of peace.

  it doesn’t matter that the quran explicitly says that homosexuals should be stoned to death (7:84) - it’s still a religion of peace.

  and it doesn’t matter that the scriptures say that all gay men should be killed (sunan 1:152) - islam doesn’t in anyway condone violence.. it doesn’t matter that every mainstream imam calls homosexuality a sin "worse the adultery" - it’s not a religion of bigotry.. it doesn’t matter that 61% of muslims in the uk think gay acts should be made illegal - islam has nothing against the gay community.. it doesn’t matter that countries with sharia law actively persecute the lgbt community - islam is all about peace and love.

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  rebel8

  Just had an exasperating, cognitive dissonance-filled discussion.
  
  I was told:
  
  

  The bible does not say homosexuals should be killed.

  Leviticus 20:13; Genesis 19
  
  

  The only reason hate crimes are done is because the person is filled with hate, not because the hate is fueled by religion. Religions do not teach us to hate or kill homosexuals.
  

  
  http://www.missionislam.com/knowledge/homosexuality.htm
  
  I totally object to whitewashing religions. Society doesn't benefit from pretending religion is something it's not.