undercover, She wasn't we were never married. she/we got pregnant= she bailed out, left me. I want/ed to marry her and be there for her and the lil boy. She doesn't care about anything regarding the lil dude's future.
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Non Jw Dating a JW
by propel ini'm a non jw currently seeing a jw.
i am not totaly clear about the rules about jw's in dating.
could someone explain this to me and does it vary from family to family at all?
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SK, You and I have a lot in common! Except I'm a guy. She was the sweetest girl, her JW beliefs never were an issue until she got pregnant. There are some days where my situation looks good...but it's mostly always bad. She never tries to work things out, always telling me to wait. I am so depressed about the whole thing. I cannot believe someone would be this cruel to another..blindly cruel. It's a lot like she stuck a knife in my back/hit a vital organ and is slowly pulling the knife out,instead of getting me medical attention...I know, weird analogy. I am constantly worried about my whole situation..This has always been one of worst fears. Loving someone who loves you too, then gets pregnant and bails on you... The peices no longer fit...
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beebee, "As a mother, it makes sense to protect your children, and for a JW mom, that includes protecting their soul and their eternity. Hence her need to get back into the fold, even if it means excluding you, makes sense if you consider this belief. " How can she be protecting her our kid? She is vastly depriving him of his right to have a father. Excluding me is the most selfish thing. "She may well still love you, but her overriding need to protect her baby is winning." If you love someone you would never go out of your way to NOT work things out. "At least that is what I suspect may be going on. Perhaps you can ask her." She can't speak to me in erson alone w/out chaperone She doesn't want to work this out, I'm judging by her actions..not her words. Thanks for your input
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how? she is doing everything in her power to avoid me. She says she can't even interact (talk) in person with me, without a chaperone. AND She mentioned that she's trying to "straighten her life" ...gee I didn'y kjnow I was the devil....
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Non Jw Dating a JW
by propel ini'm a non jw currently seeing a jw.
i am not totaly clear about the rules about jw's in dating.
could someone explain this to me and does it vary from family to family at all?
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paradox213
He had a child with her too?
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What I meant by that is- she is currently pregnant, one day she will speak of hope -this will work...the next she will speak of negativity. I've heard that pregnant women can be very moody... I am slowly realizing I don't mean anything to her anymore. Before the pregnancy happened, we never fought, we were always happy. It was the best time of our/my life. Every now and then I can see the sweet girl I fell in love with. but the longer I'm away the worse it gets. I believe her actions/lack of action, are a precursor to alienation.
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Non Jw Dating a JW
by propel ini'm a non jw currently seeing a jw.
i am not totaly clear about the rules about jw's in dating.
could someone explain this to me and does it vary from family to family at all?
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I am the father. She was disfellowship before we met. We dated fo almost 8 months. She got pregnant, moved back w/mom her dad isn't though... She recently got reinstated and has pretty much done everything to avoid the reality of the situation. She seems to be using her pregnancy to manipulate me. I want nothing more than to marry her and be there for my child. I am deeply hurt about the whole thing. I am very much crushed. I need to know how/why someone would go to these lenghts to alienate the one person who was always there for them. She never mentioned the JW until thuings got hard. I did panic when we found out about the baby. I do and have always loved her for her.
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what if they got pregnant while they where disfellowshipped? then got back in the JW?
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Non Jw Dating a JW
by propel ini'm a non jw currently seeing a jw.
i am not totaly clear about the rules about jw's in dating.
could someone explain this to me and does it vary from family to family at all?
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What about this situation... Dated ex-JW , I'm not a JW.... had a pregnancy, ex-JW runs back to mommy (JW) leaves me. gets reinstated JW, becomes JW cannot even have any contact with me... the baby is still going to be here.. I have nothing , the kid is getting deprived of his father. PLEASE HELP
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Can a JW marry outside of their religon?