When the active JWs come to your door, do you listen and take whatever they're offering, or do you not open the door?
Personal choices apply. I never ignore that knock on my door, however I'm much older.... been around quite awhile. I refuse to live in fear of facing up to people I know how to deal with. The worst thing witnesses can come up against is someone with even more kindness then THEY are capable of. As for taking the literature....if you do that's a guarantee of a return visit...if you refuse and they know you're a fader (in a new area/congregation) that's a guarantee of a visit by at least an elder and servant.
I'm planning to fade, but I am sure that my father (elder) will insist on knowing which cong. I'm attending. What should I do then?
Unless you plan on telling him of your intention to fade you'll have to have your records sent to another congregation. Plus, he'll probably be checking in with the elders of that congregation and may even pay a visit to see how you're settling in. (This is all a guess not knowing your family's dsyfuctional level.)
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