moving.. move away from the situation, if at all possible.
have a job offer in another state/province/country?
need to go to school elsewhere?
Moving absolutely does help but, if you have JW family all of your best efforts won't keep the local cong. at bay. We moved and my brother in law phoned the local congregation and sent them to my house!!!! Because of that phone call we also discovered that the neighbors across the street were JWs. Goodbye anonymity!!!!!
Curlygirl
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hey!.
i'm new to the site but, would love to talk to other ex jws in the area.. curlygirl
I'm from Spokane originally but moved to the Everett area. I'm not a bitter exJW but, I do have some issues that will most likely haunt me for the rest of my life. I can't describe the sense of peace that I've gained simply by not attending meetings! About half of my family is still associated with the JWs and I've made it clear to them that I think sincere love and concern is missing from the org. How can they argue with that? At first they all wanted to say that someone must have stumbled me------I find that concept soooooo offensive. It implies weakness and it takes the opposite of that to leave the only thing you've ever known. Anyway, I love life and am having a blast and looking forward to making some new friends here!!
Curlygirl
are you the type that's easily influenced by the opinion of others?
i'm easy to influence, but once i'm back alone, i do what i wanted to do originally.
how about you, are you easily influenced?
I think that how easily influenced a person is depends alot on who's doing the influencing.
Curlygirl
has anyone else had to hide their xmas tree because their jw relatives can't pick up a phone?
i literally had to have my hubby distract them so i could shove the damn thing in a closet!!
everyone at some point in their lives has a movie moment, unfortunately for me, mine had to be a 3 stooges movie!!!!!
I'm telling ya--this tree was seven feet tall and loaded!!!!! You know when you pull a branch back and the balls slingshot across the room?!!! Not only did I have to shove it in the closet--------I then had to vacuum up all of the broken glass!!!!!!!! Can you imagine what they were thinking? I'd have to say that my hubby deserves an Oscar for his performance though! It's insane the hoops we jump through to NOT make waves!
Oh! and Funkyderek, I broke out in a cold sweat at just the thought of 20 marijuana plants! You are too funny!!
Curlygirl
has anyone else had to hide their xmas tree because their jw relatives can't pick up a phone?
i literally had to have my hubby distract them so i could shove the damn thing in a closet!!
everyone at some point in their lives has a movie moment, unfortunately for me, mine had to be a 3 stooges movie!!!!!
Has anyone else had to hide their Xmas tree because their JW relatives can't pick up a phone? I literally had to have my hubby distract them so I could shove the damn thing in a closet!! Everyone at some point in their lives has a movie moment, unfortunately for me, mine had to be a 3 stooges movie!!!!! I found out that when my adrenaline is flowing------I'm freakishly strong!!!
Curlygirl
i don't know if this is wt policy, but our hall had a policy of assigning bookstudy groups to clean the hall.
the few times my family actually showed up (along with anyone else) that the hall was always in a disgusting state, especially the bathroom.
the woman's washroom had the most revolting smell you could ever imagine.
My hall was immaculately clean BUT!!! there was the issue of a pipe that stuck out of the wall in the ladies bathroom that went straight into one of the stalls in the mensroom. I remember peeping through it constantly! That pipe was there until a remodel when I was 18!!! Bet no one else had a peep hole in their hall!!!
Curlygirl
this is a bit of a long post, but couldn't copy addy, .
it is good for the canadian parents here who are fighting to see their children and they are having their children's minds poisoned by the custodial parent.... a good case in canada.
you are the custodial parent.
outbutnotdown-------
Geez!! Did you marry into the mob or something?!!!!
Curlygirl
i was molested by my grandfather from the age of 3 to 7. he was also molesting his daughter (my aunt) and maybe others.
it was covered over and my entire family was actually shunned when we went to the elders when i was 18. i did not tell anyone about it until then because my grandfather had me believing our relationship was special and it was our little secret.. when confronted, he of course denied it.
my mother even spoke up of a time when he had tried to molest her when she was 8 months pregnant with one of my brothers.
Ashton--
My heart absolutely aches for you. You experienced an evil that no one should have to deal with. Your grandfather may have gotten away with his evil actions while he was alive but, I refuse to believe that there won't be some kind of justice for you. Good luck to you on your journey.
Curlygirl
i hope i haven't jumped the gun on this one, but it was too exciting to keep a secret.
for all of you who followed my trial, and the diappointing results, will find this interesting.
i have always felt that this story, the whole story, needed to be told.
Thats fantastic news-----how excited are you?!!!! Good luck!!!
curlygirl
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hey!.
i'm new to the site but, would love to talk to other ex jws in the area.. curlygirl
Hey!
I'm new to the site but, would love to talk to other ex JWs in the area.
curlygirl
