Welcome!!! You will find many friends here.
Being with a JW can be a very lonely, and difficult thing. Everyone who is a jw has a need to see the org in the best possible light. Therefore, any concerns or difficulties you have will be dismissed outright. Anybody who is not a jw will just not understand what the hell you are talking about. So when you try to explain your problems with having a jw spouse, they will just not "get it".
Before anybody here can help you, it might be good for you to tell us more about yourself. What are you hoping to accomplish here? What is your attitude toward the jw? Do you have children with your wife? That is probably the most important question I could ask you. If you don't have children I would highly recommend NOT having them unless you are completely comfortable with them being a jw or if you become a jw yourself or if you plan on trying to talk your wife out of being a jw.
I can't spend to much time on the boards today, but I will try to answer any questions you have. Most importantly I hope that you can get some control over your situation.
CYP