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Much time and talk are spent here discussing certain facts about jw's to bring to light. There is also the school of thought that you have to approach it as a cult/mind control problem. But I think it goes even deeper, and is specific to the individual. I think absolutely NOTHING you can do or say will make a difference to the person if they NEED to believe in the jw.

If you are able to remove the need, or fulfill it in some way, I think then the other approaches become possible.

Before that, no dice.

So as my dear, sweet, and absolutely lovely sister Crumpy pointed out, the question is more aimed at jw's.

CYP

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I'm back!!!!

by RichieRich in

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friends

hello again from sunny north carolina!!!.

our state lotto started today, and i won 15 dollars, and only bought 1 $1 card.

so whoop whoop for gambling.. i was in miami florida last week for the photoshop world conference, but i also got to tour the everglades, where i took some beautiful pictures.

Check_Your_Premises

Hey Richie! Welcome back and congratulations on your little trophy. Oh the scandal that will erupt when they finally catch on to all your activities. Your hall will just never be the same.

Hey Crumpet! Love the new picture. But then again I love all of them. Hope things are well. Glad to see you around.

CYP

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"Joined-As-Adult" JW's: What need did the WT fulfill for you?

by Check_Your_Premises in

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friends

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were you able to fulfill or remove that need in some way?

did fulfilling that need make it possible or easier for you to exit the wt?

Check_Your_Premises

Were you able to fulfill or remove that need in some way?

Did fulfilling that need make it possible or easier for you to exit the wt?

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Has anyone seen these videos? Do they mention jw's specificially?

by Check_Your_Premises in

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friends

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http://www.rickross.org/dvds/dvd-inthenameoflove.html

http://www.rickross.org/dvds/dvd-culted.html

Check_Your_Premises

Fine be that way!

I guess I will have to get them and post a review.

CYP

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Has anyone seen these videos? Do they mention jw's specificially?

by Check_Your_Premises in

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friends

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http://www.rickross.org/dvds/dvd-inthenameoflove.html

http://www.rickross.org/dvds/dvd-culted.html

Check_Your_Premises

Beuller?

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Has anyone seen these videos? Do they mention jw's specificially?

by Check_Your_Premises in

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friends

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http://www.rickross.org/dvds/dvd-inthenameoflove.html

http://www.rickross.org/dvds/dvd-culted.html

Check_Your_Premises

http://www.rickross.org/dvds/dvd-inthenameoflove.html

http://www.rickross.org/dvds/dvd-culted.html

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Parallels between WT and USSR leaders: Desperately seeking Pestroika!

by Check_Your_Premises in

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friends

this occured to me in the car today.. lenin - the true believing idealist who launched the revolution.

the dream was to throw off the shackles of oppression (this system of things) and create a new utopia of a worker's paradise (paradise earth).

ct russel.

Check_Your_Premises

I realized something else in the car today.

A warning for those of us with family in the org when the tower finally does fall...

Cult leaders don't like it when their little world comes crashing down. Rather than face the death of their deluded dreams, rather than accept and admit to the world that they were fools rather than great and annointed men, they end their lives.

And before they do, they attempt to validate their delusions the only way they know how; by demanding from their followers the greatest single act of devotion.

Waco, Jonestown, and even the utter leveling of Germany were all examples of tyrannical cult leaders willing to sacrifice all their followers in order to cling to their megalomania until the last moments of their grotesquely misguided lives.

How will the jw leadership spend the last few moments of their grand delusion? How will they use the sheep to hide from the reality of their sadly misguided folly?

CYP

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Parallels between WT and USSR leaders: Desperately seeking Pestroika!

by Check_Your_Premises in

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friends

this occured to me in the car today.. lenin - the true believing idealist who launched the revolution.

the dream was to throw off the shackles of oppression (this system of things) and create a new utopia of a worker's paradise (paradise earth).

ct russel.

Check_Your_Premises

This occured to me in the car today.

Lenin - the true believing idealist who launched the revolution. The dream was to throw off the shackles of oppression (this system of things) and create a new utopia of a worker's paradise (paradise earth)

CT Russel

Stalin - The utterly ruthless and cold blooded dictator who took over the party (WTBS) removed all opposition (Bible students) and ruled his communist nation (cult) with an iron fist

Joseph Rutheford

Kruschev - While acknowledging the cruelty of the Stalinist regime, he nevertheless adhered to the communist ideal (faithful and discreet slave)and worked tirelessly (field service) to dominate the globe (worldwide preaching work) with it's vision.

Nathan Knorr

Leon Trotsky - The true believer who had a crisis of conscience (Crisis of Conscience). He still held to the communist ideal (faithful and discreet slave), but he became disillusioned with it's application in Soviet Russia. He fled to Mexico but was hunted down and assasinated (disfellowshipped).

Ray Franz

The three stooges : The Soviet politburo (Governing Body) produced Brezhnev, Andropov, Chernenko to lead the internally crumbling, yet outwardly bold and expansionist worker's paradise. They tried desperately to keep the people ignorant the democratizing and modernizing forces of the global economy. (internet, freedom of information). And of course there were three people who knew all to well that the "evil empire" was going to "crumble under the weight of it's internal contradictions" They knew it was "doomed to the ashheap of history". The last pages of that "sad and bizarre chapter in human history" were being written.

Reagan, Thatcher, and Pope John Paul (JWD, BRCI, Freeminds, SilentLambs, AJWRB) spoke openly, and confronted them with the impossible task of matching the economic and military might (intellectual honesty, free thought, and love of truth) of the free world. Even as their world crumbled around them (law suits, sending people home from Bethel, cutting back on printing, disbanding the Bethel Elders), they kept on as always deluded and tired. They sensed their danger, and moved to supress all dissent (wrote stupid articles against education, having a career, and not listening to new ideas). This only left them more detached, and unable to react to reality.

All the boobs who have been in charge since Freddie Franz

Gorby - Unable to deny reality any longer, a new leader emerged. He tried to hold on to power, while also opening his society to measured freedoms. But freedom long suppressed, once tasted, becomes an insatiable desire. The dam broke. The hardliners tried to force a failed coup. The dream of the workers paradise (paradise earth) was dead.

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Let Freedom Ring

CYP

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Living in a divided home

by 24k in

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friends

let me start off by saying that i love my wife dearly.

she is, and has always been my best friend.

she is a devoted wife and a wonderful mother.

Check_Your_Premises

Have you been able to find compromises that seem to work?

Well it has been easier for me to find compromises. We married as non-jw, and then she joined. She made the change. In your situation, you made the change.

You aren't what she wanted to be married to.

The most toxic aspect of the jw psyche, as well as the biggest problem they have within their interpersonal relationships with non-jw's is they are certain they are right. All their bad behaviour is justified because they have the truth. You are less since you don't. Very loving isn't it. This is from a thread I posted recently http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/109431/1.ashx

The simple fact is that two people can process the same information, use the identical system of logic (or so they think), and arrive at completely different conclusions. Human beings are simply incapable of being perfectly objective. This is the one thing that no person can deny, and is a key aspect of our fallibility. No matter how smart or knowledgeable we are, no person is immune from the need for self-delusion. It is the one common denominator we all share, and is implicit in all compromise. No person can ever be completely certain that they aren't biased in some hidden way to a certain conclusion.

First off, the mistake you made (no offense) is that you approached it as an issue with the jw. The problem with that is she is under the influence of mind control and unable to process any information contrary to that imposed mindset.

Forget about researching the jw. Research cults. (Read Steven Hassan's Combatting Cult Mind COntrol, and Releasing the Bonds)

Just keep making sure she knows you love her. Try to fill in the holes in all the othe parts of your marriage. Get as close to her as you can. Build up her trust in you, that you are still a decent man, and you still want nothing more than that her best interests are served. As far as your religious convictions. Make it plainly known they are matters of conscience, not convenience. You are just following God with the conscience HE gave to you, not the conscience of anybody else. And don't put up with any crap over that.

CYP

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