there has been a few new to board so what's one more?
i've been reading the board for a few weeks and i'm impressed at the amount of research that goes into many of postings.
there are two topics that really get me going, one is "607 bce".
jaffacake:
your motives sound pure to me wish i'd had a friend like you when i decided to study and get baptized. might want to get a jump on things though and try to head your friend off at the pass prior to baptism... saves quite a bit of heartache, self-hate, etc.
there has been a few new to board so what's one more?
i've been reading the board for a few weeks and i'm impressed at the amount of research that goes into many of postings.
there are two topics that really get me going, one is "607 bce".
Wait a minute! I'm a newbie. How did I become a Junior Member? It must be babbling syndrom... No wonder my daughter always gets the "talks too much in class" comments on her report cards - LOL.
there has been a few new to board so what's one more?
i've been reading the board for a few weeks and i'm impressed at the amount of research that goes into many of postings.
there are two topics that really get me going, one is "607 bce".
Welcome!
Ok. Now this is the 5th newbie post I've seen today. We're all coming out of the woodwork and we so all have our issues don't we - LOL.
I'm glad you are here and can't wait to hear your input. I too love all the thought and research people put into their postings here.
this site has been a place that i have visited many times.. i would like to make some friends and meet local people.. to blondie ... words cannot explain how much i appreciate.
the reviews.
i can see so clearly how the studies keep members.
Welcome!
This is the 4th newbie post I've seen today. Wow!
This site is great. I am a newbie as well and it's so neat to see so many people sharing and going through similar circumstances.
BTW... GO BRONCOS!
or were you a recreational dater?
So wish I had brought myself to date recreationally as a JW! I dated two guys in that religion... Was proposed to by the first but I freaked out and said no deciding I was too young to marry. The second guy I dated in that religion I ended up marrying at the young age of 21.
I am so glad I got away from that religion because I finally experienced getting to know someone without feeling any sort of obligation to that person, being able to have a relationship in the fullest sense of the word without feeling like you have to spend the rest of your life with that person or being afraid you're going to mess up and have sex (uh-oh) with the person and not having to contemplate marriage when you've only just met the guy!
I actually met my soulmate, the man who is perfect for me, through recreational dating online! Way to go match.com and recreational dating!
Might I add... "I'm the best I've ever had" and I never would have known it had I stayed in that religion!
i've been on this site now for a little while and think its brilliant and its been a tonic in getting things straight and for gathering research.
(thanks simon & ang).
in fact its difficult to get work done during the day because of reading posts on here.. a couple of months ago if someone wouldve asked me whether i was apostate i would have flatly refused partly because the indoctrination still has its effect even after a decade and the negative connotation attached to the word 'apostate' is still at the back of my mind.
I saw a definition I like: not faithful to religion. Sounds good to me! Hadn't realized it but I guess I am an apostate...
well - this is my first post.
i want to express my gratitude to all of you in jwd land for the help you provide.
i'd be glad to relate stories, and experiences in the future, but wanted to introduce myself first.
Welcome!
We are glad to have you here. I am a newbie myself and I am so grateful for all the info., encouragement, advice and friendship I am receiving on these boards.
Please do stick around and don't be shy... We love to hear personal stories.
i was talking with my daughter yesterday about the memorial.
it falls on my day with her and i previously noticed that christmas falls on her dad's day with her this year.
i have never had any problem with my daughter attending the memorial with her dad on my day but he has had her the past 2 years for christmas and he has issues with me having her for christmas on his day.
Elsewhere:
Thanks! Love the info. regarding "Amen". Nice and simple. Easy for my daughter to understand.
i was talking with my daughter yesterday about the memorial.
it falls on my day with her and i previously noticed that christmas falls on her dad's day with her this year.
i have never had any problem with my daughter attending the memorial with her dad on my day but he has had her the past 2 years for christmas and he has issues with me having her for christmas on his day.
In my opinion children should never be in the middle of parents, sacrificing yourself for your kids may be the right option. I make it a point now to let my kids know they will make the choice on what to believe, and how to believe it. Not me, and not the rest of their family. Their belief structure will be their own to make and cherish. Keeping the arguing between parents to a dull roar helps in allowing the kids to see respect for other belief systems from at least one parent, they will in time really see the difference on their own and make their own choice.
Sounds allot like the way I have been trying to do things. I just seems I am the one doing all the sacrificing while she misses out because he is unwilling to sacrifice. We have had separate celebrations just us when she is at her dad's on the actual date of the celebration. But my entire extended family (aunts, uncles, grandmas, grampas, etc.) gets together for Christmas. I was raised a non-JW. She misses out on all that and she feels sad when she hears about it and could not go. I feel bad for her because her brother and soon to be new sister will be a part of that and I don't want to tell her she can't. It's drama...
i was talking with my daughter yesterday about the memorial.
it falls on my day with her and i previously noticed that christmas falls on her dad's day with her this year.
i have never had any problem with my daughter attending the memorial with her dad on my day but he has had her the past 2 years for christmas and he has issues with me having her for christmas on his day.
Valis:
You are correct. But what I want, which involves child custody and visitation, does require going to court in California.
Concerns about child custody and visitation orders issued by the Family Court must be directed to the Family Court Services Office in the county where the orders were issued. Family Court Investigators, Child Custody Evaluators, and Family Court Mediators are available to provide dispute resolution in each of the 58 counties. The telephone number for Family Court Services is in the County Government section of the local telephone directory under "Courts" or you may also find custody-related information and county contact telephone numbers at www.courtinfo.ca.gov
Yes, I can get a mediation appointment. Yes the mediator will probably try to strike a compromise, which he will not agree to (the word compromise is not in a JWs vocabulary) and yes I will have to go to court after that because mediation will do no good with him. He will have an attorney and I will not. His attorney will know the law and I will not.
I have been there done that with her dad. He had a lawyer and I did not. I took him to court because he was living with his parents, making plenty of money and paying hardly any child support ($280.00/mo. when daycare for my daughter alone cost me over $500.00/mo. and I had her full-time). Typical JW-mo. In the meantime, I was paying over $1000.00/mo. in daycare alone for both my children and supporting two children full-time on my own in a 1 bedroom apartment. He hired an attorney and countered me with a joint custody suit for our daughter. We agreed to joint custody in mediation (I felt it was best for my daughter to have equal access to both parents) and we also agreed he would pay above guideline support so I would be able to afford to live locally and still support my children and provide adequate childcare for them. Bottem line is he lied. I got royally screwed when his lawyer stood up in court (outside of mediation) and said that any agreements reached between her father and myself were considered ex parte (mind you I was held to the decision regarding joint custody) and he just sat there quietly and let her screw me over when it came to calculating child support based on the joint custody agreement rather than based on our verbal agreement. He ended up with more time with our daughter because I followed through on my end of the bargain and I ended up with less child support! The bottem line is it was a bunch of stress and it ended badly for my daughter and myself. Communications were strained for a long time.
All I want at the moment is to force his hand in agreeing to allow me to have her for Christmas. I'm not interested in another all out court battle until I can afford a high priced attorney.
I appreciate your support though because I too would advise the same thing. Just not a battle I'm willing to take on single-handedly at the moment.
