Posts by schne

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I Need Your Support...Pretty Please?

by HadEnuf in

jw
friends

well...i know i shouldn't take advantage of all my friends here on the forum...but what the heck...i'm going to ask this anyway.

i have no shame.

my son's band, tree of woe, is currently in rotation on wifc, 95.5 in wisconsin...with their single "mushroom cloud", from their new album of the same name.

schne_belly

I Just E-mailed a request in and got a message back from the radio station, that " We will get it on"!
Your sons band is awesome.....

Still enjoying our CD

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Ever had someone threaten to kill you, and mean it? Just happened to me.

by wanderlustguy in

jw
friends

i just had it happen for the second time in 3 years, today.

the first one wasn't that bad, because the guy didn't scare me.

the one today...i think might really try.

schne_belly

WLG---Ohhh sure, and you were talking about having my hubby and I move down to NC and have him take over your job when you move.....

Glad you are okay. Be careful

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Any posters from Okalahoma?

by schne_belly in

jw
friends

hello.... i am looking for andre and rhonda peterson, originally from okalahoma.

they moved to wisconsin for a few years back in the early 90's then back to okalahoma in the late 90's or so.

they have two daughters, sara and erica?.

I realize that.... I don't remember what city in particular. I just heard through the grape vine that they "left" the org and was thinking I could check here to see if anyone knew of them...... or if they were posting on here themselves.

Thanks!

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Any posters from Okalahoma?

by schne_belly in

jw
friends

hello.... i am looking for andre and rhonda peterson, originally from okalahoma.

they moved to wisconsin for a few years back in the early 90's then back to okalahoma in the late 90's or so.

they have two daughters, sara and erica?.

schne_belly

Hello...

I am looking for Andre and Rhonda Peterson, originally from Okalahoma. They Moved to Wisconsin for a few years back in the early 90's then back to Okalahoma in the late 90's or so. They have two daughters, Sara and Erica?

Anyone know them?

Thanks for your help!

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Shameless plea for attention

by wanderlustguy in

jw
friends

<--------- gimme.

schne_belly

WLG...

HOW YA BEEN? Keep smiling. You have friends in WISCONSIN What could be better.

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What would you do?

by schne_belly in

hello my dear fellow jwd members, i need your in put....please.

since my husband i my recent fading process, we've received a few "love bombing" letters from some in our old congregation.. i've received 2 from an old "friend" whom i grew up with and went to school with.

we've drifted apart years ago, to the point where she wouldn't even look at me at the hall---she's a pionner, husband a ministerial servant.

schne_belly

it is likely you once cared deeply for her. It may have been a long time since you felt anything like that, but female bonds created in childhood are so strong that women often spend their entire lives unknowingly trying to recreate similar connections...though unsuccessfully, as even under normal circumstances, the matured ego will not allow the same dynamic (and for good reason). So on some level it is just natural for some feeling to remain.

Chrissy: You hit the nail right on the head. Thank you for putting my feelings into words. I apprecaite your kind words.

Wanderlustguy....you are not scary Far from it. HA! Those in our hall ARE ones to use anything to gossip about (wait, that is ANY HALL right?). Surprisingly, we haven't heard anything yet about that Saturday. We'll just tell them you are our psychologist, who is helping us with our nervous breakdown! Or wait, our leader for devil worship...that's even better.

Dustin: You are right, since we have no intention to go back, we will eventually lose all of our friends for the most part . I guess it's no use responding. Thanks for the encouragment and offering to hang out with us. That would be wonderful. We WILL make new friends--already have thanks to all you wonderful posters--- I'm certian they will be more genuine than the old ones we used to have. It's true, friendship shouldn't be based on whether or not you sit in some building 3 times a week.

It may be wishful thinking but I hope that my family will eventually be left alone and not be DF'd or DA'd. Others in this same hall have done it for years... unknown reasons to me, but regardless, they have stopped coming and seem to be left alone. Have any of you experienced a sucessful fade without having to pick up and move away? What are you secrets?

Thanks to all of you for your help with me making my mind up what to do. I already feel better about just ignoring it ,and that by doing so I'm not being a coward.

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What would you do?

by schne_belly in

hello my dear fellow jwd members, i need your in put....please.

since my husband i my recent fading process, we've received a few "love bombing" letters from some in our old congregation.. i've received 2 from an old "friend" whom i grew up with and went to school with.

we've drifted apart years ago, to the point where she wouldn't even look at me at the hall---she's a pionner, husband a ministerial servant.

schne_belly

I guess I'm just having a hard time "letting go" of my past and not be concerned with those old "friends". I've been taught to forgive and forget when people have wronged me and I think it's still sticking with me regarding the Jw's. When, as Blondie brought up, it's just conditional friendship. It helps to hear your in put and reiterate I don't need any of them in my life anymore.

Thanks!

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What would you do?

by schne_belly in

hello my dear fellow jwd members, i need your in put....please.

since my husband i my recent fading process, we've received a few "love bombing" letters from some in our old congregation.. i've received 2 from an old "friend" whom i grew up with and went to school with.

we've drifted apart years ago, to the point where she wouldn't even look at me at the hall---she's a pionner, husband a ministerial servant.

schne_belly

Hello my dear fellow JWD members, I need your in put....please

Since my husband I my recent fading process, we've received a few "Love bombing" letters from some in our old congregation.

I've received 2 from an old "friend" whom I grew up with and went to school with. We've drifted apart years ago, to the point where she wouldn't even look at me at the hall---she's a pionner, husband a ministerial servant. So I was pretty surprised to even hear from her! I replied to the first letter stating we were very busy and everything was okay with us, but thanked her for her concern. She replied with another letter saying " it's been too long for us to JUST be busy" and offered to pick me up for a meeting ( gag). She also laid a guilt trip on me that my parents, who still go, aren't the same since we've left and she can see their hearts yearn for me to do "Jehovahs will" again ( double gag). Also, that I'm a good person and if I let Jehovah, he will help me do what is true in my heart ( how does she know he's not already helping me do that NOW?)

I think she may be having feelings of guilt for not being a friend in the past. My husband believes that if we want to complete our fading process effectively we should cut most ties with those who are still active witnesses. I agree, and I'm not looking for her friendship. However am wondering if I should respond or not. I feel that she ,along with others who have written us, are just doing what they think is best...and I pretty much feel sorry for them. I also feel that if I were to just ignore this letter it would seem like I'm admitting I'm wrong and embarrassed for my actions. Which I'm not! I know that many say that we are bad "apostates" since leaving and I would like to prove them wrong and mess up their theory of those that "leave" Jehovah. Once she figures out we are serious about leaving and don't intend to come back, I won't hear from her again.... so would this just be a waste of my time? I know better than to tell her all the reasons for us deciding to leave but if DO respond, what should I say? I don't know why I have this feeling that I need to do something.....

Thanks for your advice

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