Posts by LongHairGal

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Quit Quietly now more than ever

by gone for good in

the amazing exoneration of info sekta in swiss court has finally reinforced the proper way to exit an abusive cult.. never write a letter of disassociation.

- no need to invoke shepherding or judicial action from elders.

make a written, dated statement of your free-will choice to have abandoned the jw religion - secure this document with a friend -a trusted friend (not the jw kind).

LongHairGal

GONE FOR GOOD:

How funny that you mention something called “sorry - just a visitor” status.

I never realized that was what I Ultimately ended up really wanting in the JW religion! Just plain old ‘leave me alone’ - like in a regular church. You’re a guest when you go to a regular church. I know because I was raised Catholic..You are not a ‘target’ like you are in the JW religion. They are looking for women to do favors and they thought a single woman with no relatives there was a perfect target.

They never laid all their cards on the table. I never agreed to this (among other things) and wasn’t having any of it..These people criticized me for having a full time job but had the audacity to think they were going to ask me to do favors!!

Without thinking too much on it or giving anything labels, I made sure I stayed on the fringes of the congregation until the time was right to make my Exit....The 1995 teaching on Generation was the catalyst for me leaving...It was All Over as far as I was concerned.

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Latest move by Kingdom Hall Trust in U.K current J.W Elders BEWARE!

by Phizzy in

the latest instructions from the kingdom hall trust here in the u.k are very revealing, and current j.w elders need to beware !

i will get to that in a minute.

maybe in the usa and other countries too ?.

LongHairGal

BETH SARIM:

The JW religion has changed drastically since I came into the religion all those years ago. But, one thing is certain:. any young people interviewed at assemblies have gotten old. So, I hope they prepared!

Not to get the thread off track but the JW elders I knew back then who passed away would not recognize what the religion has become. Who knows how they would react to this latest news?

I’m just glad I am Out and that I followed my instincts of common sense and worldly wisdom from my dear old Dad.

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Latest move by Kingdom Hall Trust in U.K current J.W Elders BEWARE!

by Phizzy in

the latest instructions from the kingdom hall trust here in the u.k are very revealing, and current j.w elders need to beware !

i will get to that in a minute.

maybe in the usa and other countries too ?.

LongHairGal

JWTOM:

You can say that again about some JWs resetting life goals!!

I would love to see what some of the die-hards my age from back in the day have to say about everything. These were the people who criticized me because I worked full-time and was not considered ‘spiritual’. 🙄

If I had listened to their criticism I would not be Retired.

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Restrictions imposed by the government that affect our activities should be followed. —Rom. 13:1.

by Anders Andersen in

in their covid19 related instructions watchtower writes:.

restrictions imposed by the government that affect our activities should be followed.

what changed?

LongHairGal

MINIMUS:

The way I see it, the only reason they would WANT to get rid of meetings in an actual building is because they would like to sell-off said buildings.

Otherwise, wouldn’t they be clamoring to get back into these buildings the way some churchgoers want to get back to the churches?

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Letter writing question

by carla in

so the jw's are no longer goind d2d but instead are writing letters- my question is what return address are they putting on the letters?

their own or the kh?

the kh's in our area have no mailbox and therefore no mail can be delivered or returned to a kh.. thanks in advance!.

LongHairGal

CARLA:

They are not trained to see double-standards or even to think..Otherwise they would be headed for the door if they did.

I must be blessed because I have not received a letter from these shut-in JWs!

I suppose word must have gotten out about my views and they feel it would be a waste to even bother.

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Now we have a Mary Trump book coming out ...

by RubaDub in

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friends

i have to admit, this president can stir up shit.

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other than some people who failed 10th grade or have a confederate flag on the back of their pickup trucks, who actually likes him?.

LongHairGal

MINIMUS & HOSER:

Yes, it’s sad that these two people are supposedly the ‘best’ America has to offer.

Believe me, if the Democratic party was like what it was decades ago before it went full-on left..I would vote for a Democratic candidate. But now? No way.

Because of this lack of choice, I will be one of those people who hold my nose when I go to the voting booth and vote Republican. I’m sorry for other people who hate DT so much they would - as the expression goes - cut off their nose to spite what they think is DT’s face - but it’s really their own..We’ll need bars on our windows if the dems get in. Then maybe some people here will be lamenting but it will be too bad.

Oh, I’m also not interested in opinions of clueless people in the EU who make derogatory remarks about people in the US - meanwhile they are not living here or experiencing anything first hand.

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Latest move by Kingdom Hall Trust in U.K current J.W Elders BEWARE!

by Phizzy in

the latest instructions from the kingdom hall trust here in the u.k are very revealing, and current j.w elders need to beware !

i will get to that in a minute.

maybe in the usa and other countries too ?.

LongHairGal

JWTOM:

The average rank & file JW probably knows nothing about this and just continue along in their ever-changing religion which appears to be only concerned about its own preservation. Meanwhile, deluded people there would believe holy spirit is directing everything!

You are probably right that most local elders don’t have the courage to embrace stepping down. Some like feeling important. But, if something happens somewhere they might rethink their attitude towards the whole thing.

I think the average JWs in congregations are just going along. They might sense something is wrong and secretly are not happy about what has happened to the religion. I also think that some older JWs (impatient for the ‘new system’) have gone to more attractive localities on the globe to retire or serve ‘where the need is great’ 🙄so that they are at least in as paradise-looking surroundings (according to drawings in old literature) while they are still living..If paradise doesn’t come soon enough..you have to look for your own, I guess.

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Did The Elders Bother You or Did You Get Along With Them OK?

by minimus in

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i’ve heard a number of horror stories regarding elders.

i have a lot of stories about elders, some funny, some not so.. were all your experiences with elders bad?.

did you like any?.

LongHairGal

MINIMUS:

I tried to be friendly to elders early on. In time, I learned they are company men trained to look for faults!

Towards the end of my stay in the Witness religion, I wouldn’t even look at them and only greeted them if they greeted me first.

They say hindsight is 20/20. I now know that I was doomed from the start in the Jehovah’s Witness religion. For one thing, I had No intention of quitting my decent job to do housecleaning.

Secondly, the elders are looking for women to do favors. They were more likely to approach somebody who has no family there like myself rather than somebody whose parents might tell them to leave their daughter alone.. Of course, the elders got a big fat No from me.

Thirdly, I would never tolerate their intrusiveness and disrespect. They don’t respect boundaries. Also, what BIAHI says above is correct: they have serious hangups about attractive women with a nice figure.. You always have to pay attention to how ‘modest’ your outfit is. You are accused of trying to be sexy even if you are not.

Anyway, all the aggravation came to an end when I ’faded’ about twenty years ago. I was driving home before and was near the general area where the hall was... The thought occurred to me if somebody asked me if I were happy now that I was out of the religion, I would have to say Yes, much more so.

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How Did You Discover This Site?

by minimus in

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i’ve been here a long time.

i saw this site jwd/jwn.

i thought it was very lively and interesting.

LongHairGal

MINIMUS:

I discovered this site years ago by accident surfing the internet when I began my ‘fade’ from the JW religion.

I had a voracious appetite for information on the Jehovah’s Witness religion. Everything was so secret and hush-hush. I had nobody to talk to or confide in about my doubts about the religion. I found a mountain of information that validated my feelings and experience. I came across several sites or testimonials from former Witnesses. I can’t remember them and not sure the sites exist anymore.

People say this forum has changed and certain posters are gone...Some people move on. Some stick around...I remember some angry individuals back then who were defending the religion. I wonder what they think now.

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Old Literature

by RolRod in

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what did you do with your jw literature when you left?

kept it, sold it or dumped it?

LongHairGal

ROL ROD:

Certain things I tore to shreds very early on in my ‘fade’:..the autographed song book I got from somebody who proclaimed they were anointed. I was angry that I had treated it like a holy relic.🙄

Bound volumes were put out with the recyclables in the first place I lived where I didn’t have JWs around who would have seen what I was throwing out...The rest of the books were disposed of over time.

I have two other denomination bibles for occasional reference. No Witness literature left.