Posts by love11

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Are you all Jehovas witnesses? Found it hard to find a forum.

by Socrates in

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friends

are you all jehovas witnesses?

found it hard to find a forum.

most are by non jehovas witnesses to bear out critiscisms.

love11

socrates

You probably won't find a forum that is pro- Jehovah's Witness. The reason for that is that Jehovah's Witnesses are not allowed to have any opinions of their own. If a group of practicing JW's decided to get together a forum they would probably get disfellowshipped for not consulting with the organization first.

To sum up the JW's in a few words:

They are a publishing company that whole heartedly believes that they are God's spokesman and that the only way to have a relationship with God is through their company.

I hope that helps.

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Breaking ties with toxic people....

by love11 in

jw
friends

what do you do if your siblings are ex-jw's, but no one is still talking to one another?

i used to live in chicago and i moved back to my home town just to be near my sisters.

my husband had to search high and low for his line of work in this town and loved me enough to move back when he saw how sad i was without them.

love11

country_woman

That's really a shame. Not only do you have to mourn the loss of your mother but also the loss of your brother as well. He must have really felt dejected by your mother when she left. It's too bad he's taking it out on you.

p.s. thanks for all the posts- this is my first thread (I'm a newbie) and it has been really inspiring. thanks again.

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Breaking ties with toxic people....

by love11 in

jw
friends

what do you do if your siblings are ex-jw's, but no one is still talking to one another?

i used to live in chicago and i moved back to my home town just to be near my sisters.

my husband had to search high and low for his line of work in this town and loved me enough to move back when he saw how sad i was without them.

love11

ShielaM-

Wow! Some people can be so intolerant and let you know in big and little ways that you are not welcome. Blondie and bikerchic had some good advice I'm going to take. I think that for alot of people, it's hard to just cut the ties like that. But I'm at a point now that I've decided I'm not being nice to them by staying around, but rather I'm allowing them to make me their punching bag.

I'm starting to get tougher skin but it's hard.

Also, I hope you are doing fantastic with your real family !!!!

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Breaking ties with toxic people....

by love11 in

jw
friends

what do you do if your siblings are ex-jw's, but no one is still talking to one another?

i used to live in chicago and i moved back to my home town just to be near my sisters.

my husband had to search high and low for his line of work in this town and loved me enough to move back when he saw how sad i was without them.

love11

jez-

I think I still and will always have this thought of 'the picture perfect' family. I see my neighbors have a ton of family over for their 2 year olds birthday and it tears me apart. I am so envious of close families.

When I'm having a bad day, it really chokes me up.

I've had trouble making new friends because of the trust issues and that when you're getting to know people they always ask about your family. I haven't told people my "real" story- until finding this message board. It takes the nerves out of talking to everyone here because we've all been down the same road.

It's embarrasing to say you grew up as a jw. People look at you like a freak.

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Breaking ties with toxic people....

by love11 in

jw
friends

what do you do if your siblings are ex-jw's, but no one is still talking to one another?

i used to live in chicago and i moved back to my home town just to be near my sisters.

my husband had to search high and low for his line of work in this town and loved me enough to move back when he saw how sad i was without them.

love11

dustin, sheila-

It's sad that so many people can relate this. You would think that everyone would just be happy to be out of that religion. I guess the old "shunning" habits are hard to break for some.

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Breaking ties with toxic people....

by love11 in

jw
friends

what do you do if your siblings are ex-jw's, but no one is still talking to one another?

i used to live in chicago and i moved back to my home town just to be near my sisters.

my husband had to search high and low for his line of work in this town and loved me enough to move back when he saw how sad i was without them.

love11

thanks blondie-

glad to hear you're doing good.

p.s. After 10 years, I'd come clean if I did it.

Thanks, for the advice, it's nice to know you're not the only one going through this.

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Breaking ties with toxic people....

by love11 in

jw
friends

what do you do if your siblings are ex-jw's, but no one is still talking to one another?

i used to live in chicago and i moved back to my home town just to be near my sisters.

my husband had to search high and low for his line of work in this town and loved me enough to move back when he saw how sad i was without them.

love11

blondie-

I have asked that- and they just act like I'm imagining they are still spreading these lies and that they don't feel it's necessary to talk about the past. One of my sisters -d- told me to promise not to say anything but that the other sister- a- is still convincing everyone that I did this. I'm beginning to think they are all psychotic.

My mom told me that sister- a- has always been jealous of me since I was a baby. I don't understand why, I have always had such a low self-esteem and looked up to her. Sister-d- and I were talking one day and she said that -a- never seemed to like me. I was floored! I never saw it! Maybe I was just being naive. I feel like I'm finally waking up to how things really are and it's a hard pill to swallow. Now I know that they will never love me the way that I love them. And over what? Skin, teeth, bones; all of which can be taken away.

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Breaking ties with toxic people....

by love11 in

jw
friends

what do you do if your siblings are ex-jw's, but no one is still talking to one another?

i used to live in chicago and i moved back to my home town just to be near my sisters.

my husband had to search high and low for his line of work in this town and loved me enough to move back when he saw how sad i was without them.

love11

Ain't that the truth!

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Breaking ties with toxic people....

by love11 in

jw
friends

what do you do if your siblings are ex-jw's, but no one is still talking to one another?

i used to live in chicago and i moved back to my home town just to be near my sisters.

my husband had to search high and low for his line of work in this town and loved me enough to move back when he saw how sad i was without them.

love11

What do you do if your siblings are ex-jw's, but no one is still talking to one another?

I used to live in Chicago and I moved back to my home town just to be near my sisters. My husband had to search high and low for his line of work in this town and loved me enough to move back when he saw how sad I was without them.

Since moving back home I have been excluded from all the fun stuff that sisters are supposed to do with each other and I only get invited to occasions where a gift is involved. (birthdays,holidays)

Also, I found out that all of the time I was away, they were gossiping about me and spreading lies. Really... really... bad lies, to all of my relatives (ones I just started getting to know as an adult because as a kid I wasn't allowed to talk to the non-jw family members) and all of the ex-jw friends we all shared together.

Now, everywhere I go, people treat me different. School, grocery store, gyno. doctor, old friends, etc.

I wish I could clear my name, but everytime I try, people just tell me that I need to get over the past. Yet, they still treat me as if I did this horrible thing they say I did.

Why are my sisters doing this to me? I didn't do anything to deserve this.

I showed my best friend the documented proof that this is completely fabricated in their heads. Her theory is that they are jealous of me. Apparently, she thinks that I am the most attractive of my sisters and I have the best family life out of all of them so they want others to think bad of me so they can think well of themselves. I think that they are all beauiful,but how they act is making them very ugly.

My husband wants to leave here and I am actually thinking of moving far away and not tell anyone I'm leaving. Just sort of drop off the face of the earth.

I don't know what the right thing to do is, but when I would go over their homes you could "cut the air with a knife". I'm turning 30 this year and I'm just tired of being around people that act nice to your face but really hate you and like it when you hurt.

I've tried to ask them why they are doing this and they admitted to me in private that it was a "misunderstanding" ( I don't see how that could be true) but then I find out that they are still keeping up this lie instead of clearing my name.

I feel adopted into this family and I am out of their disfuntional clique. Maybe that's not such a bad thing.

What should I do?

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Personal Accomplishments

by Uzzah in

jw
friends

for years, the watchtower drilled into us that we are just specs of unimportant dust.

personal pride was touted as being something wrong and a trait of the devil.

that mentality stifles creativity and initiative, which i suppose is what they want.

love11

My biggest accomplishments are-

1. Starting a family that definitely has unconditional love and encourages free thinking.

2. Getting rid of emotional baggage (work in progress)

3. Educating myself about what the world is really like. (I'm a regular at my public library)

4. Starting college (Even if it is just one class at a time)

Thanks for asking!