Oompa, you don't have to hide anything, or give your wife false hope if you are open and honest with her. If you don't attack her core, but give it time, with patience you will be able to open doors, and let her see what's up with you, your doubts, etc. You can control this situation.
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64still considering going back to meetings...
by oompa innot that i want to or anything, but this therapist guy seems to think that it would be really helpful to my wife.
he says to pull out the good and ignore what you dont like, and that supporting my wife a bit in this way could be good for us as a couple.
it could also let us have at least some shot at keeping the old social life alive.
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still considering going back to meetings...
by oompa innot that i want to or anything, but this therapist guy seems to think that it would be really helpful to my wife.
he says to pull out the good and ignore what you dont like, and that supporting my wife a bit in this way could be good for us as a couple.
it could also let us have at least some shot at keeping the old social life alive.
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No hounding here. As a matter of fact very corgial. Heroiin = Hyperbole.
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Attention Target Shoppers
by coolhandluke ini started a second job.
the reasons why really dont matter.
if ive learned anything about blogging its come from joannadandy.
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God, I love JWD. Thanks all!
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Don't go into the light...
by Jim_TX intoday at lunch, my wife and i went to a thrift store that we frequent.
i like to wander through the electronics area, as sometimes i can find some unusual or interesting items.
today was no exception.
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This thing is about 18-inches long and the head on it is about 12-inches diameter. The bulb inside is one of those quartz halogen bulbs.)
Sometimes these things appear larger than they are.
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still considering going back to meetings...
by oompa innot that i want to or anything, but this therapist guy seems to think that it would be really helpful to my wife.
he says to pull out the good and ignore what you dont like, and that supporting my wife a bit in this way could be good for us as a couple.
it could also let us have at least some shot at keeping the old social life alive.
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Sorry Oompa, it's not about MEEE.
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still considering going back to meetings...
by oompa innot that i want to or anything, but this therapist guy seems to think that it would be really helpful to my wife.
he says to pull out the good and ignore what you dont like, and that supporting my wife a bit in this way could be good for us as a couple.
it could also let us have at least some shot at keeping the old social life alive.
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Well RC, we were both raised in the "org." So...I understand where she is coming from. I patiently wait till she is ready to look critically at what we were born into. We get into it, we debate, I just don't let it get me so upset that it creates a gap. The other thing is that I really do care for the "sheep" that attend. Sooooo, not ready to rock their boat. Now if and when I have the opportunity to debate/confront the powers that be, I'll have fun stepping up.
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still considering going back to meetings...
by oompa innot that i want to or anything, but this therapist guy seems to think that it would be really helpful to my wife.
he says to pull out the good and ignore what you dont like, and that supporting my wife a bit in this way could be good for us as a couple.
it could also let us have at least some shot at keeping the old social life alive.
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I would not advocate "making believe" with the wife. She obviously knows you no longer believe. But, out of respect for her beliefs you CAN go along. One day, you will need her support on something that is difficult for her. Hopefully she will return the favor. If you have a lot of anger and hatred for the "org," then this whole idea won't work.
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still considering going back to meetings...
by oompa innot that i want to or anything, but this therapist guy seems to think that it would be really helpful to my wife.
he says to pull out the good and ignore what you dont like, and that supporting my wife a bit in this way could be good for us as a couple.
it could also let us have at least some shot at keeping the old social life alive.
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I go for the wife and family, though the rest of the family is distant. My wife knows me too well, so I don't "ask questions." I pride myself in my sense of humor, but sometimes it (the meeting content) gets to me, and I have a hard time holding back, on the trip home. It's a delicate situation. The "culture" is engrained in her. I have not hidden my personal feelings from her, but I don't like hurting her feelings/faith.
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still considering going back to meetings...
by oompa innot that i want to or anything, but this therapist guy seems to think that it would be really helpful to my wife.
he says to pull out the good and ignore what you dont like, and that supporting my wife a bit in this way could be good for us as a couple.
it could also let us have at least some shot at keeping the old social life alive.
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I think you should do it Oompa! Since my clearer understanding of the "org," I find that I pay much more attention now (I go about once or twice a month). You have to have a sense of humor, which you obviously do. The toughest part with regards to the relationship is the ride home...
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Did the WT ever hinder ppl from going to the zoo?
by XOCO inawake mag may 8 1973 pg 18. .
here's an excerpt from it.
it starts out ny saying: .
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No.