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  "Who would you like to meet in the new system?" - Answers

  by LtCmd.Lore in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  sound familiar?.

  this question was recently asked for the children in my congregation to answer.

  i was kind of amused and disturbed at the same time by their responses.. .

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  tijkmo

  i would quite like to be around when david is reunited with uriah - that should be pay to view
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  Who had the HOTS for YOU?

  by nomoreguilt in

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  2. friends

  a number of years ago, there was a large group of us that went to an unasigned territory.

  many of us stayed at a small motel, motel 8, 6, 666 something like that, others camped out.

  so, most of those that stayed at the motel were in the in group.

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  i found out after i had been df-ed and reinstated that someone my wife and i used to run about with had a huge crush on me when she was 17/18

  lucky for her (and me - ooh baby) she got to act on it about 15 years later.

  i can only imagine the conversations she had with her other girl pals - all of whom were hot and some of whom i later married (as in officiated at their weddings)

  looking back i was definately the subject of the hots for plenty - just didn't realise it at the time - nor did i care as i was happily married then.

  THINK ABOUT THE WAY THINGS TURNED OUT GOING ROUND AND ROUND INSIDE MY HEAD

  THINK ABOUT A GIRL WHO MIGHT HAVE LOVED ME BUT SHE NEVER EVER SAID

  MAYBE SHE IS ALL ALONE OR WAKING UP IN SOMEONE ELSE’S BED

  WONDER IF SHE’S LYING THERE AND WISHING SHE WAS HERE WITH ME INSTEAD
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  ANY happy memories at all of growing up as a JW?

  by myababes in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  does anyone have any good memories at all of beng raised a jw?

  the cong i was brought up in was a different one to the ones we were in when we got married.

  growing up the meetings were a great social event for all us kids.

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  i had happy memories up to 5 years ago.

  i enjoyed all the spiritual stuff but i liked everything else too.

  pre convention work - bbqs - cong sports - visiting - having visitors - travelling to u.s. and being invited to join in with local cong activities - having them or others unknown stay with us - quickbuilds - ceilidhs(barn dances) - theatre and so on and so on

  it was a very happy time and i made a goal of making it happy for others who were less fortunate esp younger ones with perhaps only 1 jw parent - going out for meals - movies - pub - watch a dvd etc.

  to be fair i am still invited to some things and treated pretty well...my nephew asked me recently why i dont come back since i have lots of friends in the kh. it really does surprise them that since i loved it all so much why do i stay away.

  but i loved it because i believed it.

  and now i don't.
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  Loss of privileges when family member is disfellowshipped

  by Agnes in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  if a family member is disfellowshipped (for example a son or a daughter) what sort of "privileges" would a family lose?

  would they still be permitted to have bible studies in their home, go out in field service and would they be marked as bad association?

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  ***

  w9610/15pp.21-22FatherandElder—FulfillingBothRoles***

  "Having

  BelievingChildren"

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  When instructing Titus to appoint overseers in the Cretan congregations, Paul stipulated: "If there is any man free from accusation, a husband of one wife, having believing children that were not under a charge of debauchery nor unruly. For an overseer must be free from accusation as God’s steward." Just what is meant by the requirement "having believing children"?—Titus 1:6, 7.

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  The term "believing children" refers to youngsters who have already dedicated their lives to Jehovah and have been baptized or to young ones who are progressing toward dedication and baptism. The members of a congregation expect elders’ children to be generally well-behaved and obedient. It should be apparent that an elder is doing all that he can to build up faith in his children. King Solomon wrote: "Train up a boy according to the way for him; even when he grows old he will not turn aside from it." (Proverbs 22:6) But what if a youth who has received such training refuses to serve Jehovah or even commits a gross wrong?

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  It is evident that the above-quoted proverb is not stating a hard-and-fast rule. It does not annul the principle of free will. (Deuteronomy 30:15, 16, 19) When a son or a daughter reaches the age of responsibility, he or she must make a personal decision with regard to dedication and baptism. If an elder has clearly given needed spiritual help, guidance, and discipline, yet the youth does not choose to serve Jehovah, the father is not automatically disqualified from serving as an overseer. On the other hand, if an elder has several minor children living at home who, one after the other, become spiritually sick and get into trouble, he might no longer be considered to be "a man presiding over his own household in a fine manner." (1 Timothy 3:4) The point is, it should be manifest that an overseer is doing his best to have ‘believing children that are not under a charge of debauchery nor unruly.’

  Married

  toan"UnbelievingWife"

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  Concerning Christian men married to unbelievers, Paul wrote: "If any brother has an unbelieving wife, and yet she is agreeable to dwelling with him, let him not leave her . . . For . . . the unbelieving wife is sanctified in relation to the brother; otherwise, your children would really be unclean, but now they are holy. For, . . . husband, how do you know but that you will save your wife?" (1 Corinthians 7:12-14, 16) The word "unbelieving" here does not refer to a wife who has no religious beliefs but to one who is not dedicated to Jehovah. She could have been a Jew, or a believer in pagan gods. Today, an elder might be married to a woman who practices a different religion, is an agnostic, or even an atheist. If she is willing to stay with him, he should not leave her simply because of differing beliefs. He should still ‘dwell with her according to knowledge, assigning her honor as to a weaker vessel, the feminine one,’ living in hopes of saving her.—1 Peter 3:7; Colossians 3:19.

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  If an overseer has children, he will exercise proper husbandly and fatherly headship in raising them "in the discipline and mental-regulating of Jehovah." (Ephesians 6:4) In many lands the law gives both marriage mates the right to provide religious instruction for their children. In this case the wife may demand to exercise her right to expose the children to her religious beliefs and practices, which may include taking them to her church. Of course, the children should follow their Bible-trained conscience with regard to not participating in false religious ceremonies. As family head, the father will exercise his own right to study with his children and take them to meetings at the Kingdom Hall when possible. When they reach the age at which they may make their own decisions, they will decide for themselves which way they will go. (Joshua 24:15) If his fellow elders and the members of the congregation can see that he is doing all that the law allows him to do to instruct his children properly in the way of the truth, he will not be disqualified as an overseer.
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  What Movie Could You Watch Over and Over Again?

  by Abandoned in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  for me, there are a number of movies that i never tire of.

  here's a partial list:.

  elfthe holidaytommy boyplanes trains and automobilesdumb and dumber28 dayswhat are yours?.

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  My daughter told me Pearl Harbor will be one of my favorites if I ever watch it.

  she's wrong
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  What Movie Could You Watch Over and Over Again?

  by Abandoned in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  for me, there are a number of movies that i never tire of.

  here's a partial list:.

  elfthe holidaytommy boyplanes trains and automobilesdumb and dumber28 dayswhat are yours?.

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  a few good men

  the sting

  one flew over the cuckoos nest

  die hard/terminator

  shawshank

  spinal tap
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  My Personal Proof That Elders Are Not Appointed by Holy Spirit

  by TMS in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  this topic is not about men living sinfully at the time of their appointment as elders.

  it is not about pedophile elders, although i've personally known three, two who were pedophiles at the time of their appointment by the governing body of jehovah's witnesses.. first of all a quick summary of what jehovah's witnesses are taught about the appointment of elders and ministerial servants:.

  before the visit of the circuit overseer, the local elders meet to consider who, if any, among the local congregation they will recommend as elders or .

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  Before reading the appointment letter each prospective
  appointee is asked privately if there is any reason why they cannot serve.

  this always puzzled me...if holy spirit appointed elders etc then wouldn't it know if there were any reason why they couldn't serve.

  does anyone know if an 'elder apparent' ever admitted that yes there was in fact a reason why they couldn't serve (other than not wanting to)
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  Reaching Out

  by cluless in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as witnesses we were always encouraged to reach out for the privalige of doing this or that or a whole lot of other stuff that doesnt make any scence now .. but its important in life to have something to reach out to.with me i have my wife my little kid and financial security (the kid came aftter i left the witnesses) .

  only i havnt found anything to replace the importance of reaching out.as a witness (however misguided that reaching out was).

  what in your life has replaced your once sincere belives and given your life the purpose you once had?.

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  I miss the social contact of the ministry. It was great

  i did to..i loved it...and i have nothing to replace it with...but i also have no wife to share things with or child to teach things to.

  most posters here hated the ministry (there are some exceptions obviously) but i'm not one of them. if you find anything that can replace it any way then please let me know.
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  straightened out but not going to be a liar

  by helricha in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've straightened myself out concerning what i'm going to do about my life.

  i am going to be reinstated (hopefully), just to get in and then fade away.

  my problem is that i don't want to lie if i'm asked a direct question.

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  i'm pretty certain they won't ask...they will assume you are now married and looking to 'set matters straight'... rejoice rejoice.

  unless they know differently they will not assume that as a newly married woman you had sex with someone else.

  they might ask if there is anything you have done that you wish to admit and repent of but if you tell them they are unlikely to reinstate you.

  so don't tell them.

  just convince them that you know you were wrong to date, live with, and subsequently marry your husband and that you hope that jah has forgiven you
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  It Is Very Cruel of God....

  by AllTimeJeff in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  thiests like to portray their god as who they want him to be.

  please allow me to use some extreme examples: the god of abortion clinic bombers worship a vengeful god and are convinced that this is what they should do to please him.

  ditto those who commit hate crimes against homosexuals, or terrorist acts.

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  interesting list

  although not sure why this one is there

  Joseph interprets the baker's dream. He says that the pharaoh will cut off the baker's head, and hang his headless body on a tree for the birds to eat. 40:19