Good question
It's funny. I don't have any desire to say anything to the dubs anymore. It's been a long time and I don't see the point for me doing that; perhaps for their sake I suppose.
I've said all I can to the parents about things dub. I would just tell them I luv em for who they are and have been. They did their best.
As for friends, I usually tell them what i think sooner or later, good or bad. I don't have many friends as a result,....;-)
Work is a different fish though. I've often thought of lettin loose on a few bs things that go on. "Don't be greedy!"