I posted here this morning because a very nice man whom I have just started dating expressed his "reservations" about my disconnect with my family. Through my single life and ex Jdub life, I have vascillated between laying it all out on the table, and revealing only necessary details. This one asked for it all on the table. Now that I am quite tired of investing any emotion to have it all bite me in the back side, I decided to lay it all out on the line. No investment as of yet, so, what is there to lose? So its all out there. I was in the chat room with friends, and had to disconnect when this same man called my cell to let me know he got the email, and was quite impressed with how I handled his inquiry, as well as handle life such as this on a daily basis without shifting blame. This was my decision (leaving the dubs), and I will stand by it. Guess there is something to be said about honesty after all?
Thank you all for your input. I look forward to seeing how this thread may progress, and look forward to chating with you in the room. This is still a very tough situation. I cant remember who posted the reply that leaving the Dubs is like leaving an abusive relationship, but you are absolutely right. Trusting anyone isnt easy for those of us who have been betrayed by everyone we know and love. Thank you again for your advise.
Cammi
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Being a single Ex JDub
by Cammi inis it just me, or is it very difficult to be a single ex?
there are questions boyfriends ask about my family, why i dont have contact with them, and what did i do to gain their utter disfavor?
why do i put up with what men tell me to believe?
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Being a single Ex JDub
by Cammi inis it just me, or is it very difficult to be a single ex?
there are questions boyfriends ask about my family, why i dont have contact with them, and what did i do to gain their utter disfavor?
why do i put up with what men tell me to believe?
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Cammi
Is it just me, or is it very difficult to be a single ex? There are questions boyfriends ask about my family, why I dont have contact with them, and what did I do to gain their utter disfavor? Why do I put up with what men tell me to believe? Where is my internal strength to stand up for what I believe is right and tell the family and former friends to kiss off? I cant do that. If it's in my power to maintain something of humanity, I will. Let them judge by the set of standard they believe in, but why judge me so harshly?
I just wondered if its just me, or if there are other single Ex JDubs with the same issues in relationships. Ive havent been able to keep a boyfriend for longer than a few months. Inevitably, its not anything personal, he just believes I hide something deeper than a religious disagreement with my family and old friends.
Any thoughts would be appreciated.