When my mom died she had virtually nothing except a modest mobile home. She had been sharing her home with a young JW who she considered her adopted "granddaughter". They were very close and when my mom died she left her mobile home and everything in it to this young woman. My sister, brother, and I were left with family photos and a few misc. items.
My mom had taken care of this girl for many years and had supposedly rescued her from a dysfunctional family situation. My siblings and I had left the witnesses many years ago and had a difficult and painful relationship with our mom. I know my mom loved us but she loved "jehovah" more and was devoted to the organization. The sad thing is my brother has had a rough time of it financially and could have really benefited from having a permanent home.
I miss my mom so much and still have a hard time accepting how the religion helped tear my family apart.
Eva
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by Outaservice ini'm curious.
has anyone been taken out of their parents and/or relatives 'will' because of leaving the jw's?.
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FLUFF- Whats your guilty pleasure song?
by Asheron ini was driving home today and elo's "mr. blue sky" came on.
i sang my ass off (closed windows of course).
whats your guilty pleasure song?
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Walking on Sunshine - Katrina and the Waves
Am I the Only One - Melissa Etheridge
Soulful Strut (instrumental) - this is from 1969 or so but I can't remember who does it. It was on the Parent Trap soundtrack.
West End Girls - Pet shop Boys
anything by Sade - for some reason I think I sound really good when I sing along with Sade - hehe -
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Just joined
by pat1 inhi every one i am not sure if i am posting in the right place or not but just wanted to say a quick hello.
i am a disfellowshiped (ex brother of 27 years), they did this to me nearly eight years ago after forming a commitee with two lying elders (one decent) who didn'nt like my father who was the presiding overseer at the time and stand in circut overseer.
i was married for six years at the age of 19 and when i decided to have a break from her it all hit the fan and the lies started about me.
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Hi Pat
Welcome to the board!
I can relate to what you're going through. My JW mom died of cancer almost 2 years ago. We had a very strained relationshio for over 20 years because I left the witnesses I experienced many painful years of shunning and always felt her sadness and disappointment in me. When she became ill things changed. She very much wanted to see me and my siblings and spend time with us before she died. Even though she remained a firm believer (and professed to be of the 144,000) she was able to put that aside somewhat and focus on the natural love parents and children have for one another.
I cannot give you advice as everyone has different circumstances. But I will say what others have. Do everything you can to spend time with your dad before he passes away. You will not regret it even if it is painful to deal with the JW stuff and the emotional aspects of a parents death. Don't worry about the witness stuff like getting reinstated etc. Just show up for your father and be yourself.
I will look forward to your future posts. There are many experienced folks here who can help.
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thoughts from you....
by morty in.
a little prayer for my hubby and i would be greatly appreciated.... grandma passed away last night battling cancer...we stayed by her side to the end... she was a lovely lady...we will miss her tremendously... i could go on forever on, how young she was at heart....... many thanks,.
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Hugs to you and your hubby.
So sorry for the loss of your loving grandmother.
Mine also passed away this year at the age of 90.
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My baby boy is 3 today
by mrsjones5 ini had not planned on having a fouth child.
i had an iud and i got pregnant with my boy while it was still inserted.
luckily that iud was nowhere near my baby.
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I love three year olds. They are the sweetest! Happy B'day to your little boy.
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Reaction to leaving
by teela(2) inapart from my parents, people were just glad to see me go as i was creating trouble with the other young people in the congregation.
did your leaving create a ripple or a tidial wave.
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I upset some by leaving. A few people called to inform me that I was breaking my mother's heart. One friend cried and pleaded with me to return.
In the process of fading I did some "bad" things. Oooh, some were upset and threatened to go to the elders. I was scared and belligerent at the same time. An elder called and asked me to meet with them but I refused. Then all the hoopla died down and I successfully faded. I know I thought about them a lot more than they thought about me. Obviously I still do. -
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R Rated Movies
by Swamboozled infor those of you who tried to follow the no rated r movies "suggestion", what rated r movie did you run out and get after you decided the society could shove their "suggestions"?
i was dying to see both matrix movies, so they were the first i rented.
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The year that I became a witness everyone at my High School was talking about the Exorcist. I finally saw it about 15 years later.
Before becoming a dub, I had enjoyed Woody Allen's movies. Also had seen Lady Sings the Blues and was looking forward to seeing Mahogany. I waited many years to catch up.
The first R-rated movie I saw as a witness was Moment by Moment with John Travolta and Lily Tomlin. My best JW friend and I had a huge crush on Travolta so we snuck out to see it. When we got home she confessed to her elder dad and we were in much trouble. Her mom was furious with us and didn't speak to us for a while. The funny thing is that we were 19 years old! And her mom was a regular viewer of Benny Hill which I always thought was questionable for a JW. -
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What Did You LOVE About Being a Jehovah's Witness?
by Seeker4 inok. minimus had his 'what did you hate about being a jw' thread, so i want to take a different tack on this.
i'll even start it.
i loved some of the get-togethers we had.
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I loved the "love bombing" we got when we first came into the "truth".
I loved to hear the crowd sing at the District Convention. Very powerful sense of community.
I loved the excitement and anticipation leading up to the assemblies. Of course, struggling to stay awake the second day was no fun.
I loved the feeling that we were special, that we knew what others didn't, that we were better because we had the "truth".
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How much is it to enroll your kids in school?
by snarf inholy crap!!!
i went school shopping today with my daughter and i couldn't believe the bill for school supplies!
i spent a little over 70 bucks just on supplies!
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I have a son starting high school in August. In addition to any school clothes and supplies he needs we also have to pay:
PE shirt $9
PE shorts $11
PE lock $6
Hall lock $6
Planner $7
Student Body Card - TBA
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My dad died....
by crazyblondeb insince i consider most of you family, i guess i need to unload.
my dad died.
i found out by looking under the obituaries online.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is hard enough But grief combined with guilt can be almost unbearable.
Please take care of yourself through this difficult time. We are human and we all do things we regret. You tried to make amends and your dad knew that. Try to focus on the love you had for each other.
My thoughts are with you and your daughter.
Eva