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  Ex-JW Beauty Queen

  by La Capra in

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  not sure if this made it here yet:.

  http://www.pressdemocrat.com/article/20090315/articles/903150964.

  we share something exactly in common, "when she left the religion as a 19 year-old ssu student..." i am very sad her dad shuns her, though..

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  evita

  I saw this article too and it brought back some difficult memories for me. Many years ago, I paid my own way through the same college - my mother was shunning me at the time. It really hurts - I hope she has more support than I had.
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  Favorite Music Group From The 70's

  by megaflower in

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  how about fleetwood mac and the eagles.

  love the eagles and they are still good today..

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  Yes to all of the above listed. But my all-time favorite had to be Rufus with Chaka Khan. I still listen to Rufusized and Ask Rufus - and I was lucky enough to see Chaka in concert three times last year. What a voice!
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  Which is the best song ever?

  by Fisherman in

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  which song do you think is the best song of all songs?

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  evita

  Hejira - Joni Mitchell
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  CO's Daughter

  by oneairhead in

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  are there any women on here who's father is a circus overseer?.

  our new co has a daughter who is df'd because according to his wife she is "to smart for her own good.".

  i think she found the true light and jumped ship.

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  Just curious...are his initials JL?
  
  Thanks.
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  Top Ten Most Annoying Singers...

  by kerj2leev in

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  http://new.music.yahoo.com/blogs/listoftheday/17793/the-ten-most-annoying-singers.

  i would also like to add..... 1. fred durst...limp bizkit.

  2. adam durizt.....counting crows.

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  Christina Aguilera - that thing she does with her fingers on the mike while singing her horrible songs makes me crazy.
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  What Was The Silliest "Offense" That You Were Counseled For?

  by minimus in

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  when i was a teenager, i was told by an elder that because i smiled a lot and was known for my good sense of humor, that i should come across as "more serious".

  so before i was appointed a ms, while in my late teens, i transformed myself into a much more "serious" brother.. were you ever told that you needed to work on something that you knew was stoopid?.

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  evita

  These happened in my teens/young adult years. By my early twenties I was outta there.
  
  I signed up to aux. pioneer for a second month. Was told by an elder that I couldn't because my magazine placement had been too low the previous month. To be fair, he had a point. I hated FS and was very ineffective. I was only trying to do what was expected of me.
  
  Our congregation had no regular pioneers. One day, lo and behold! we get one from the city. He was kind of young and wild but good friends with the PO's family. I went in FS with him and some other young people. I was scared to death because he drove like a freakin' maniac! Complained to an elder and my whole family was taken into the back room. Better not to complain about a pioneer.
  
  I was the only JW in my school except for one. She was a couple years older than me . The problem was she was not baptized and was engaged to a much older, "worldly" man. One day she invited me to have lunch with her at school. She was very nice and we had a fun time together. Boy, did I hear about that! I think it was my mom who turned me in for that one. Interestingly, this girl never got baptized as far as I know and she is still married to the same guy 30 years later.
  
  As I got older, I became less fearful and more outspoken. The elders mostly left me alone at that point. And then I left.
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  My JW uncle died -- going to visitation.

  by reneeisorym in

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  i was a 5th generation jw so i have my whole entire family in this borg.. my uncle died yesterday.

  he was the one that owned the antebellum home i grew up in (built in 1837).

  his son was a very dear friend of mine because we were close to the same age.

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  Renee, so sorry for your loss.
  
  I was completely freaked out at the thought of attending my mother's service at the KH. This was 3 years ago but I hadn't stepped foot in a hall in many years. And now I was faced with re-living the JW experience while grieveing intensely for my mom. Just thinking about it was almost unbearable and I had no clue what to expect. Still, I forced myself to go. Fortunately, my sister and brother are no longer witnesses so our families sat together.
  
  I saw many people I hadn't seen in years. And many of my mom's closest friends I had never even met. Some didn't even know she had children and grandchildren. Many came up to us to express their condolences and tell us they were glad we came. Many stayed away from us but I didn't care. I just tried to remain friendly and open.
  
  Of the ones who didn't approach us, I think some dubs are afraid of those who happily leave the organization. I remember feeling this way when I would run into those who left. I definitely tried to avoid them as it stirred up that old cognitive dissonance and made me very uncomfortable.
  
  I only had two negative experiences concerning the "come back to Jah" thing. One of my mom's closest friends whom I had never met said a few words as she embraced me. I thanked her for her concern and moved on. Then a nutty old elder tried to place a tract with me about death. I said Thanks, but no thanks and moved on.
  
  Afterwards, I noticed how little "hold" the witnesses had over me anymore. My mother was the last relative in the "truth" so I have no ties to them. I still feel sad and regretful at times when I think of how much I lost and how hard it was to extricate myself from the org. But I have moved on.
  
  One kind of sad note. My family had been close to a particular elder who was later DF'd (drinking, I think). We loved this guy like a brother and invited him to the service. His daughter drove him there but he was afraid to come in because he is disfellowshipped. He still believes it's the Truth.
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  * * * * Band Stand or Soul Train? * * * *

  by FlyingHighNow in

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  but sorry, when soul train hit, i loved it much better.

  that is until disco hit.

  that ruined it.

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  Soul Train, definitely. I was totally into funk/R&B. Loved the music, dancing, even the bizarre Don Cornelius.
  
  This was a big problem when my mom became a JW (I was 13.) At first I just had to endure her disparaging comments on the sexy dancing which was my favorite part - hehe.
  Eventually I was forbidden to watch it.
  
  After leaving the dubs in my early 20's, I went out and bought every Rufus album available and literally wore them out. Making up for lost time...
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  Crackdown on "sisters" volunteering at DCs

  by dozy in

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  the wts has sent a letter to all convention overseers expressing their increasing concern at sisters "directing brothers" at district conventions.. with immediate effect (ie for dc 2008), sisters are no longer to be used as volunteers in parking and security / watchman departments.

  any sisters volunteering in other departments (eg toilet cleaning) must be subordinate & follow the direction of appointed brothers.

  this move will put a huge burden on the dcs in my area - nearly half the volunteers for parking are sisters and there aren't enough volunteers as it is.

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  Lollipop - thank you for sharing your story.
  
  An elder's wife once told me she would always consider me a "girl", not a "woman" until I was married. At the time I was 21, working and sharing an apartment with another JW and temp. pioneering. This was said to me at the wedding of a young (17 and 18) couple. Now that this "girl" was married she was to be considered a "woman" while I was merely a child.
  
  I'm so glad she said this to me. I had been having doubts for years but was afraid to leave. Now I became afraid to stay!
  I realized that I would always remain marginalized unless I had the great good fortune to marry into a prominent family.
  Right then it became very clear how limited my personal choices were under the JW system and how small-minded so many of them were.
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  ~Mmm. Tell us your healthy snack ideas/recipes~

  by FlyingHighNow in

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  i took a ruby red grapefruit just now and cut it in half and then fourthed the half.

  this started me thinking.

  i bet all of you have healthy snack ideas and recipes you could share with all of us.

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  evita

  Some of my Weight Watchers staples are:
  
  A can of stewed tomatoes heated up with a slice of Kraft 2% single melted into it.
  
  A can of artichoke hearts, drained and chopped. Mushed up with Light Laughing Cow Cheese (garlic flavor). It makes an artichokey spread and I eat it with Ry-krisp crackers or AkMaks.
  
  A big bowl of cut-up mango and papaya. For those times when an apple just doesn't do the trick.
  
  Sushi from the deli section of the grocery store. Beware the ones with mayo. I just get the veggie or the calif. roll.
  
  A big bowl of air-popped popcorn lightly sprayed with olive or canola oil spray. Then sprinkled with popcorn salt. Popcorn salt is hard to find but it is much finer than regular salt and sticks better to low-fat popcorn. I have this with a glass of V8.
  
  I will post more as I think of them.