Just wanted to thank everyone for your thoughts (and some great information). The whole situation is a new one for the family. From what we know of her, Angela seems like a sweet girl. She went out of her way to visit my uncle when he came home from knee surgery. When she had Christmas dinner with the family, she was friendly and chatted with everybody. I'm just . . . concerned, you know? I certainly wish them both happy, but there's this part of me that worries that this relationship may be doomed to failure from the beginning. I'm just trying to get some feel of how all of this will affect the relationship. I am, of course, getting some of this information second-hand. The first post I'd heard first-hand. Most of the info in the second one came from my aunt, and some of the details may have gotten twisted. I don't what else might have been said. The Leological One - Don't worry about the locks. Angela's Mom just uses the spare key she has to her apartment. My cousin owns his own house, so after they get married, they'd live there . . . and Angela's mom wouldn't be getting a key. (But believe me, I couldn't stand that. If my mother tried that . . . oh how the fur would fly, lol. But then again, my Mom wouldn't do stuff like that.) But on that topic, after my cousin proposed, she was rather eager to tell her mother - was she maybe eager to rub it in if her mother disapproved? I don't know. I guess the only thing we really can do is cross our fingers and hope for the best, right? Only time will tell. Thanks for all of the help everybody!
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questions about a non-JW marrying a JW
by magpie ini was wondering if any of you could answer a question for me?
my cousin just got engaged.
he (like the rest of our family) was raised in the lutheran church, though he doesn't really go very often anymore.
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questions about a non-JW marrying a JW
by magpie ini was wondering if any of you could answer a question for me?
my cousin just got engaged.
he (like the rest of our family) was raised in the lutheran church, though he doesn't really go very often anymore.
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Thank you for the welcome. :) (And thanks for all of your thoughts.) Dragonlady 76, that's exactly what I was thinking. It just didn't ring true to what I understood about Jehovah's Witnesses, and I was kind of puzzled. I was actually kind of thinking along the lines of what Sparkplug said. From what I understood at first, Angela-my cousin's fiancee- has a very pushy and overbearing mother. She goes to Angela's apartment when she's at work and roots through her stuff. She goes through her mail. She was trying to get Angela's cousin to move in as Angela's roommate - and we all get the idea that it was so she could have a "spy" to watch Angela's every move. From a comment I overheard, she even hounds her about going to going to church (or whatever the proper term is for JW's). So, for a while, I kind of got the idea that Angela wasn't too gung-ho on her mother or being a JW, but I don't have any really solid proof of that. Angela's father seems a lot more easy-going. He was giving my cousin Steve tips on how to deal with his wife (Angela's mother) when she got in her moods. Angela's brother was giving Steve advice on fixing his car. The men in the family seem nice enough, but I can't help but wonder if they're just trying to butter him up to convert him. (Good luck to them, Steve's more stubborn than any mule I've ever met, lol. I can tell them right now that that won't work.) I also understand that they've discussed having kids and decided that they'd expose them to both views when they're old enough and let them decide. (I can't see how that would possibly work, but . . . ) I just don't understand the situation. Nothing about it seems to mesh with anything I've ever heard. :(
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questions about a non-JW marrying a JW
by magpie ini was wondering if any of you could answer a question for me?
my cousin just got engaged.
he (like the rest of our family) was raised in the lutheran church, though he doesn't really go very often anymore.
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magpie
Hello everybody! I was wondering if any of you could answer a question for me? My cousin just got engaged. He (like the rest of our family) was raised in the Lutheran church, though he doesn't really go very often anymore. His fiancee is a JW. Now I've always understood that a JW marrying a non-JW is a big no no, and that it's something that she wouldn't be allowed to do. When we asked my cousin about this, he said that they had discussed this, and that she had told him that JW's believe that when a woman marries outside of her religion, that she has to take the beliefs of her husband, since he is the head of the household. This sort of threw me for a loop. It contradicts everything I've ever heard or read, and I'm puzzled. Can anyone shed some light on this? Thanks to anyone who can help this poor, confused blonde, lol.