Yup Shirley - 29 years this Sunday!
Thinking about the rest of them that ARE still together - ask yourself how many of them are together by choice and not just because they "have to be"!!!
Nellie
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One of my Life's Accomplishments
by Nellie ina few days ago i picked up a book entitled "life lessons for women - 7 essestial ingredients for a balanced life.
" i imagine that many of us (especially ex-jws) are on a quest to find balance and the title of this book appealed to me.. this is one of those books that challenges you to look inward and examine what who you are.
no sooner had i begun reading (pg 13) when i faced my first real challenge....the question reads: "what are 3 things i've accomplished in my life that i'm most proud of?".
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One of my Life's Accomplishments
by Nellie ina few days ago i picked up a book entitled "life lessons for women - 7 essestial ingredients for a balanced life.
" i imagine that many of us (especially ex-jws) are on a quest to find balance and the title of this book appealed to me.. this is one of those books that challenges you to look inward and examine what who you are.
no sooner had i begun reading (pg 13) when i faced my first real challenge....the question reads: "what are 3 things i've accomplished in my life that i'm most proud of?".
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Nellie
LOL @ Palmtree67
They sure don't care what they have to say before they reach their heavenly reward!
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One of my Life's Accomplishments
by Nellie ina few days ago i picked up a book entitled "life lessons for women - 7 essestial ingredients for a balanced life.
" i imagine that many of us (especially ex-jws) are on a quest to find balance and the title of this book appealed to me.. this is one of those books that challenges you to look inward and examine what who you are.
no sooner had i begun reading (pg 13) when i faced my first real challenge....the question reads: "what are 3 things i've accomplished in my life that i'm most proud of?".
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Nellie
That was always one of my questions too! I remember being applauded (not literally) for the fine "talks" that I always gave, and thinking what a sharp contrast that was to the whole "needing to cover your head" if leading before a brother and not being able to actually preach from the platform. Quiet as it's kept, there are a lot of women who's public speaking abilities are waaay better than some of the brothers'. But then again, who am I, right? Only a woman! ;)
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FDS says - "No need to check our work. Besides, it will only make God angry."
by Crisis of Conscience inthough i no longer believe the fds is indeed appointed by god, i guess because of what has been taught to me all these years through the wtbts, i still make an effort to try and look at both sides.
and then i come across this number below, which is how i arrived at my title for this thread.
***w81 2/15 p.19 do we need help to understand the bible?***.
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Nellie
This is why it's so hard to get any of the R&F to "see" the truth! Everyone is so conditioned to disbelieve anything that doesn't come from the WBTS. I know - I was one of them!!! There was a long time from when I first "allowed" myself to ask the questions until I "allowed" myself to look for the answers.
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One of my Life's Accomplishments
by Nellie ina few days ago i picked up a book entitled "life lessons for women - 7 essestial ingredients for a balanced life.
" i imagine that many of us (especially ex-jws) are on a quest to find balance and the title of this book appealed to me.. this is one of those books that challenges you to look inward and examine what who you are.
no sooner had i begun reading (pg 13) when i faced my first real challenge....the question reads: "what are 3 things i've accomplished in my life that i'm most proud of?".
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A few days ago I picked up a book entitled "Life Lessons for Women - 7 Essestial Ingredients for a Balanced Life." I imagine that many of us (especially ex-JWs) are on a quest to find balance and the title of this book appealed to me.
This is one of those books that challenges you to look inward and examine what who you are. No sooner had I begun reading (Pg 13) when I faced my first real challenge....the question reads: "What are 3 things I've accomplished in my life that I'm most proud of?"
I put the book down and really, really thought about that. Well, obviously, my marriage and my children. And while I can take some credit for the success and/or failure of my marriage (this Sunday is 29 years), does that really count as a personal accomplishment because it's not something that I've done on my own...neither are my children. I mean I've contributed greatly to the fact that as of this moment they are all alive, healthy and functioning, contributing members of society...but really, that's an ongoing work in progress and they each have the major credit for living up to the standards that I've asked of them. So what, really, are my personal accomplishments in life?
My next line of thought led me to the core of who I am as an adult. I do believe in giving credit where credit is due and I've always given credit to the WBTS for helping mold me into the "law-abiding, non-sinning, responsibile, etc." person that I am. Which is why when faced with the undeniable evidence that the WBTS was NOT what I thought it was, I felt the crisis of choice. The choice of to continue associating with the organization and now be complicit in the untruths or to walk away after 35 years - and do so while holding my head up, proud of the decision (really the only one I could live with) to separate from the hypocrisy.
My first acknowledged accomplishment was being strong enough to leave!
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Voluptuous Vixens Looking to Lose!
by StAnn inthanks to beks for the title.. i can't stand being a fatty-fat-fatty anymore.
my son is getting married, allegedly next fall, and i want to look good for the wedding.
and i want to look good for myself.
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Nellie
I've been doing a modified South Beach with my daughter for a few weeks now - I'd love to join the party!
@Mamalove - Thanks for the tip - I'll look him up!
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Do you remember the moment that you stopped believing that it was "The Truth"?
by freeflyingfaerie inwas there one incident or epiphany that struck you hard?
or was it a slow...gradual awakening (no pun)?.
my coming out of the jw coma (as i like to call it) began at a family rendezvous in the beautiful florida gulf coast.
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Nellie
Absofrigginlutely!
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Do you remember the moment that you stopped believing that it was "The Truth"?
by freeflyingfaerie inwas there one incident or epiphany that struck you hard?
or was it a slow...gradual awakening (no pun)?.
my coming out of the jw coma (as i like to call it) began at a family rendezvous in the beautiful florida gulf coast.
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Nellie
This is the moment that I realized it was okay to not believe it was the truth.
I was trying to follow the Watchtower's command - "Thou shall not practice fellatio" and conscientiously did not understand the prohibition. So I did what any good Dub would do - I went to an elder and asked about it. His told me that White people were much more uptight about things like this and Blacks and Latinos were much more comfortable. He said if it felt natural and didn't feel like I was doing wrong or going against God, then I should just disregard what the Watchtower said and "handle my business."
The idea that an elder told me to disregard what the Watchtower said - especially since it said it was pornea - was mind-altering! The seed was planted . . . (hubby was happy) and I began to open my mind to other things that didn't sit right with me.
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Making the leap - lurker to member - Hello!
by Hadit inive been lurking here for the past couple of months since i started researching the organization.
i dont have many people to talk to and its been a saving grace to read your posts.. i dont really know where to start so here i go.
its been a long journey getting here and it looks as if i still have a long ways to go to get somewhere healthy, stable and strong.
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Nellie
Welcome Hadit to your new life! I'm surprised that no one has mentioned a very valuable tool most of us used when we first got on this road, the book Crisis of Conscience by Ray Franz. I had never heard the other side of the Malawi story until I read it in there! So you're already ahead of the game. The title alone is inspiring!
It's not going to be easy walking down this road without your husband. I would expect him to exert more "headship" leadership in an effort to control your actions. He'll probably want to make sure to do family study each week with your son in an effort to protect him. Knowing this ahead of time will help you to be prepared and ready.
As you know, there are many here who have been where you are and are more than open to share. The best is yet to come!
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Hysterical - Great work!