I don't think that a JW can be told something, they can only work it out for themselves. If there's something you particularly need her to be before you get married, you shouldn't be marrying her. You marry the person as they are, not the person they have potential to be, or who you want them to be, even if you think they would be better off that way.
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gettinjg my fiance out
by TheGreyGuardsman inany help,were getting married soon, i already taught her about savation by undeserved kindness,i wanna open her mind to think before i get into any witness particular errors,i have on my site http://whoreallyisthefaithfulsteward.blogspot.com/ an article about idolatry i may statrt her with that so she will understand the wt gets things wrong and isnt inspired,any advice, can you email it because i rarely check this board [email protected]
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I'm starting my degree YAY
by free2think ini just wanted to share my good news.
i just registered for my degree, i start in oct, im so excited..
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sass_my_frass
Hooray, congratulations! See, life DOES go well!
(Nearly finished first year myself).
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Sorry i need to get this off my Chest
by KW13 ini have been unable to vent this elsewhere and because i'm taking a break from jwd my usual outlet wasn't available (this is partly the reason, i aint home till wednesday) so i decided to come back and post in this topic only, just to help me cope with this situation for both me and megan who needs me to be strong for her right now.. when megan was a child her stepfather abused her sexually, unfortunately for her she was also abused by her brother.
megan was forced into a corner by her mum (not physically) to admit that her brother abused her because her mum said that megans stepfather never abused her and it was just a ploy on megans part to get her mum to love her stepdad less.
megan felt to defend herself she needed to prove that she'd kept a few other things from her mum and that her 'perfect son' wasnt so perfect and that she wasnt a liar.
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sass_my_frass
Hey bro. Hope you can keep her away from it all. They don't deserve her.
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My nana is dying :(
by Es inhey all,.
i recently posted a topic on loosing it with my father, so some of you would know my nan isnt doing well.
they finally got rid of the infection on monday we were all relieved.
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sass_my_frass
Sweetiepoppet, I'm so sorry about your Nan, I really enjoyed meeting her. She was so spright then too! It must be agonising to be there, but she'd really appreciate seeing you and the bubs.
Massive hugs from us
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Tomorrow will be one of the PROUDEST days of my life.
by nicolaou iniv'e been posting here a long time but here's something i never shared before .
i'm still a window cleaner.
i'm not going to rant at the 'society' because they don't own my anger anymore but my work is certainly a legacy of my cult past.
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sass_my_frass
HOORAY NIC!!!!!
You should be so proud of yourself for living your life and freeing your precious son to live his too. I hope that you have a GREAT day!!
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perhaps this is naive of me-
by Younglove1999 inso about a month ago, i finally "confessed" to my jw friend that my husband and i haven't been to a meeting since february.
we're in different halls, so she wasn't aware of our inactivity.
when i told her, i didn't explain any details about what lead us to stop going, other than the normal "we're confused- so much going on, new baby, etc" stuff.
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sass_my_frass
Nah not naive, it's perfectly acceptable. These people have been our friends all our lives, we go through big stuff with them, and then the day you're not the spiritual rock they need to make them feel good about what they believe, instant rejection. The only thing I can suggest is the garybuss / Scully approach - you have to harden your heart and remind yourself that if they're not there for you, they're not real friends. Whether they ever were in the first place doesn't really matter. If their #1 criteria for loving you is that you affirm their faith, you're their co-priest, not their friend. It's the same with family. In the real world, a family is a bunch of people related by blood who are there for each other no matter what.
It hurts and feels very, very wrong, because it is. You can hope that one day they might come back to you, but the best thing you can do for yourself and your little family is to make new friends who don't need you to help them out with their faith.
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Avoided the Meeting
by Lloyd Braun inwell, they wanted to talk about something, but i didn't have the time to meet with them, and luckily, one of the two who wanted to meet missed the meeting himself anyway, so the other said they would reschedule.
i told them that last night would have been the best possible time to meet for a while, since my workload is picking up and i will simply not have time on my hands, so whatever it is, it will have to wait a while.
i think i might just stop going to meetings for a while and stop answering my phone and door.
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sass_my_frass
Always at least be polite and respectful. The easiest way to get their attention is to have an apparent sudden disregard for the Elder Arrangement. If you want to slip off their radar, just be the average publisher on a downswing.
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Public Talk Intro on Youtube, picked apart and pathetic
by Wasanelder Once insomeone uploaded a public talk on youtube.
i don't know which one it is because i quit listening after the introduction.
i thought it was the perfect example of how negative the whole thing is.
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sass_my_frass
Good one. What was the original movie? (I always love the apologist comments).
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Visit From The Elders
by Lloyd Braun in"well, are we stopped?
" (dark helmet) ... "we're stopped sir" (colonel sanders) - spaceballs 1987. the inevitible and imminent visit that i had hoped was going to be quite a bit further down the road from now has just occurred.
i am growing paranoid while at the same time welcoming this.
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sass_my_frass
My opinion is to buy time - one day you may decide that you absolutely can't do this anymore, but if that hasn't happened and you don't think you've set yourself up in a way that you'll be able to handle the fallout... just be calm. You know what they want to hear. Be humble, kind, grateful for their assistance.
'I am a bit confused, but through it all I know that I have had Jehovahs support and that I can always count on him in prayer. It's been difficult and it has made me quite depressed but I know that I will get through it. Thank you so much for your concern... '
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EX-JW co-host on The View doesn't know if the Earth is flat or round
by DevonMcBride inhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=flncdtwb2s0
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sass_my_frass
Are you saying that it isn't Circular?