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  Father dying - request for suggestions how to best use time

  by rmt1 in

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  i am a staunch atheist, so i don't need any advice directed at myself in terms of what i should pray about, what i should believe in, ect.. .

  what i do need advice about is how or to what degree i need to bear in mind the jw mindset and paradise earth hope.

  now, from my perspective, he has wasted his life waiting for armageddon, and now he gets to see exactly how much of jah's paradise is ever coming to earth - zilch.

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  sass_my_frass

  My parents are still in their healthy autumn years but the only way we've been able to maintain a relationship is when I insisted that there are huge conversations that can't happen; both of us want to talk about some big stuff, but neither of us are allowed to. It wastes what very little time we have together. We have to focus on just enjoying each other's company.

  I suggest that you find a way to come to a similar agreement with your dad - agree to leave each other alone and focus on your common ground. Find activities and conversations that you're both happy with, and just do them.
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  Wow, just seen Jan 09 Kingdom Ministry can they get any more controlling?

  by eyeslice in

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  wow, i've just seen my wife's copy of the jan 09 new format kingdom ministry.

  can they get any more controlling?.

  how to handle every part is detailed giving absolutely no room for any personal input or freedom to express any ideas other than copyrighted watchtower thinking.. .

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  sass_my_frass

  Hmmm. I think that 'a change is as good as a holiday'. One less meeting a week will bring quite a few people back. Those who had a book study at their house will love it; it's such a chore to get the house ready every week, then clean up all the cake and coffee mess afterwards. I think the new arrangement will perk people up again for a while.
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  The Natural Beauty of Your Neighborhood

  by compound complex in

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  dear friends,.

  one of my greatest enjoyments is a daily walk.

  i see things in far greater detail than when i am driving by.

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  sass_my_frass

  We're in drought and on water restrictions of the type that you're not allowed to water gardens or wash windows or paving, so things are getting a little dusty and grubby around here. Nevertheless we've just had our summer rain and the roads have been washed down, and the grasses have come back to life for a week or two again. This is a totally different place after a little rain.
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  JW tells me, "1981 Watchtower article predicted today's economic problems."

  by WingCommander in

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  so, i was at the local mall today and ran into a jw friend that i had grown up with and attended school with.

  hadn't seen him in 6 months or so.

  he didn't see me, so i had to approach him.

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  sass_my_frass

  This is why I'm glad I no longer have any of these peeps in my life; their delusions are so maddening. Keep reminding yourself - they're adults, they have otherwise had the same opportunities in life as everybody else, but they hold onto this because they WANT to. They think it makes them happy, and as long as they feel that way, you should be happy to let them go for it. If he was saying "I don't think I can make this work anymore", or in any way indicated that he would like some help, that's your window. Otherwise, you've got to just let them live the way they want to.
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  If you could be any athlete who / what would it be?

  by UnConfused in

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  would you want to be an olympic gold winner?

  #1 golfer in the world?

  be a great boxer?

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  sass_my_frass

  If I had a few wishes, one of them would be to be the worlds best golf player. It's international and pretty much ageless.
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  The Reason ex-JWs Don't Communicate Well With Others

  by StAnn in

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  2. beliefs

  i've been giving this a lot of thought.

  i'm thinking that, as a born-in, i was raised thinking that everybody who wasn't a dub was stupid and i had to go door-to-door to enlighten them.

  and that the ones who were so stupid and stubborn as to not respond to my message (which was all of them, lol!

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  sass_my_frass

  I still have a lot of work to do on my superiority complex!
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  I like swearing

  by Newborn in

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  i have to admit that i love being allowed to swear .

  damn!.

  /bad newborn.

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  sass_my_frass

  My language has really deteriorated in the last couple of years. I think I should set myself up a swear jar at work; every time I swear I have to put in $2. My workmates can spend it on cake or something, since they have to put up with it.
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  Marrying Outside the Organization

  by cameo-d in

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  the leader of the oshkosh salvation army is packing up and preparing to leave the community he served.. captain johnny harsh is suspended and will most likely be terminated from his position.

  it's because he's planning to marry someone outside the organization.. back in june, his wife died unexpectedly.

  now he's engaged to a woman who isn't affiliated with the salvation army, and that is against salvation army rules.. by talking to the media, captain harsh knows he could lose his current suspension pay but he's taking a stand, saying the rules need changing.. "the archaic rules of the salvation army are man-made, not god-made.

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  sass_my_frass

  If a religious leader could only marry within the religion, then Moses is in trouble. Somebody should tell him. Oh, yes. Someone did, and she turned leprous white. Perhaps that was God's way of saying, "Stay out of other people's domestic affairs."

  I feel sorry for the guy, but he has always known the rules of his cult, and he might have applied to them to other people in his situation in the past too; against his will or not.
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  Did you always know you might leave?

  by jws in

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  if you grew up a jw, did you always know you weren't going to be one when you grew up?

  did you ever have that spark?

  i don't think i always knew i wouldn't be one.

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  sass_my_frass

  I seem to have been setting up an exit years before it happened - I moved to the other side of the country, which was quite a start, but then for some reason joined a congregation immediately. I guess I just wanted to cut the family loose before they did it to me. I kind of knew I'd be out sooner or later, but didn't make any attempts at it, I just stayed in the safety zone for a long time.
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  Will I ever be free?

  by Newborn in

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  i've only been out since july and i fear i'll never get rid of hearing the wt voice at the back of my head.. for those of you who have been out for many years, do you feel you are totally free from them??.

  thanks/newborn.

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  sass_my_frass

  It fades to very, very quiet, but it might not ever completely disappear. It was a pretty big part of your life, so don't wait for that to happen, just learn how to manage it. But it will get better.