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  Welcome to the nervous but clearly sweet and warm Leftbelow!

  by Crumpet in

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  i just caught a new first posting by leftbelow and wanted to be the first to welcome them and comment on how nice and unselfish their first post was (on unique1's thread).

  however the listener got in first so i shall be the second!.

  welcome leftbelow - don't be nervous - you are among a cool crowd who are interested in what you have to say and think.

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  Hello and welcome!! Come into our little peace party.
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  Can you celebrate your 100th birthday when you are a JW?

  by blondie in

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  as a devout jehovah's witness, mrs. merle is prohibited from celebrating her birthday.

  but a week from tomorrow, relatives and friends will flock to the camoset village country living mobile home park in johnstown to attend a super bowl party that just happens to feature ice cream and cake.. "that's why we're calling it a super bowl party," explained her son bob merle, 73, who lives just five trailers down the road.

  "we don't celebrate birthdays, but we have to celebrate 100 years," said mrs. mechem, 78.

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  oh no, somebody is going to have their head cut off!
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  Bankrupting the WTBS best idea for thoes still in.

  by vomit in

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  i am a bit excited about this idea(though maybe people have had it before).

  reading topics about people still being "in".

  and how they go around on the field.

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  sass_my_frass

  Nice idea. I'm doing my bit!
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  In love with a JW, HELP!!!

  by secretlove in

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  14 years ago i was a sophomore in high school and fell head over heels for a senior (we'll call him mike) who wasn't really in to me.

  i was raised catholic and he, a jw.

  i wrote him lots of notes, sent him teddy bears and tried to win his heart.

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  Wow, he's really using you. What an unkind thing to do.

  Honey you have no idea what a bag of trouble this guy would bring to your life. Love hurts, but you need to let it go.
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  Please welcome my buddy

  by sass_my_frass in

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  2. friends

  hey, just hoping i can encourage my friend (a long-time lurker) in some way during a difficult time.

  i'm trying to help my (anonymous, genderless, of mysterious location...) friend appreciate the joy of being true to yourself and thus discovering many kinds of freedom.

  it's a rough time, more so for some than others.

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  sass_my_frass

  Hey, just hoping I can encourage my friend (a long-time lurker) in some way during a difficult time. I'm trying to help my (anonymous, genderless, of mysterious location...) friend appreciate the joy of being true to yourself and thus discovering many kinds of freedom.

  It's a rough time, more so for some than others. I had it pretty easy I think, during my disfellowshipping, as I had a lot else going on in my life and all of that was just background noise. I'd also come a long way and decided to make a go of life. It's paid off in more ways that I can put words to, but I'll try...

  - love
  - intellectual freedom
  - time!
  - no more cognitive dissonance
  - true friends
  - exploring my interests
  - planning a future I'm actually going to live

  Okay my friend, you will probably see right through my agenda, which I suppose is to get as many loved ones out of the cult as in is my power, but to be honest it's worked for me and that's all I'm going on - I was unhappy then, I'm happy now. Pretty simple formula really. So applying it is the hard part, and I hope that you can make the 'fade' work for as long as you need to, but if it ever comes crashing down around you, I hope the pain passes quickly and you get the payoff that I did.

  So everybody, your turn... how has your life improved, on the outside?
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  Part 1: How Would You Answer This Issue?

  by Amazing1914 in

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  part 1:

  when we were faced with tough issues as jws, we used one or more of a few ways to find answers.

  we either searched the publications, consulted with an elder, or in some cases, wrote to the society.

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  People who try to supply him with an answer are kidding themselves; it's a very deeply personal issue. I would suggest that they go with their first reaction on the decision; that's the one that's true to you.
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  No help from the JW brotherhood?

  by greendawn in

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  during your time as jws were there times that you were in need for some help from the jw brotherhood but felt let down because no one cared to help you?

  did you feel resentful and began to suspect that this org is heartless and hypocritical?

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  If I was better with words I could describe how it makes me feel; that we were taught that the only place we'll find true friendship, love and support, is within the congregation, but at the time we needed it, it wasn't there. I now know that it was a control mechanism, just about everything was; that all of our needs could be met within the organisation, still... you have to have those needs go unmet to see through it.

  There are people who do get help; I'd say, in my mother's congregation, they've all rallied during a time of tragedy and they look after one another. People fall through the cracks though, and I guess every one of us were some of them.
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  The lives of some JWs. so happy to be out!!!

  by rowan in

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  just finished talking on the phone with my mom.

  she filled me in with the latest about my old jw acquaintances from before i was df.

  good.

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  :)

  Welcome to life Rowan! Live it well!
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  Crummy

  by lola28 in

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  so i woke up this morning and feel really crummy, i don't know whats wrong but i feel like crying.

  what the heck is wrong with me?

  you know do you have days when you wake up and feel an overwhelming sadness wash over you, or feel like you are kind of empty?.

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  sass_my_frass

  It happens to everybody hon. If it happens a lot, as in, so often that you don't think it will ever stop, you need to accept that it's depression. Doesn't sound like it though...

  Try this today; make a list of all the things you like doing, and make plans to do them this week. Make a list of all the things you don't like doing, and don't do them for a month.
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  The lives of some JWs. so happy to be out!!!

  by rowan in

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  just finished talking on the phone with my mom.

  she filled me in with the latest about my old jw acquaintances from before i was df.

  good.

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  sass_my_frass

  I can so totally relate to what you're saying. Motherdarling has nothing but stories about how depressed she and all her witness friends are. We all know why they stay; because their depression is just a sign of the times and it's only temporary, and all they have to do is stay the course, and it will pay off. How could they give up now, they've put so much into it!

  I think the same thing happened to me as you; when I was disfellowshipped (I actually went to the elders myself, thinking I was doing the right thing!) I thought they had the truth, and was going to fight for it. It didn't take much of being treated like old gum on the sidewalk before I saw right through that. Every day since, I've gotten more and more happy. I'm coming off antidepressants. I wake up with JOY, excited about what life could give me today. I am so happy to be out I can't put it into words!