I noticed a while ago that I have a lot of difficulty maintaining focus on something that doesn't really have my interest, because I am so good at looking like I'm paying attention at the meetings but actually being a million miles away. It gets me in trouble a bit at work when I'm supposed to be listening to somebody explain something complex but dull; I tune out so quickly, and neither of us notice.
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How being a JW improved my study skills
by Mysterious inwe all saw these barf articles about how kids did better in school because of the skills they learned as jws so i thought i should post all the wonderful benefits i have gained.
-i have learned how to look like i'm paying attention in class without actually doing so [yay participation marks, boo not understanding what's on the test].
-i have learned to underline on autopilot with no intrinsic benefit to my study skills [my book looks like wwiii so why don't i know anything].
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Thinking of becoming a Witness again and my reasons for doing so :(
by reniaa ini've been a faded jw for 10 years i left because of my failed first marriage, i'm no hypocrite and realised i had left completely so i embraced the world and dived in, only christmas and birthdays i could not get into, they were too foreign to me having never celebrated them, like if i suddenly tried to do ramadan or something like that.. 1/ all the criticisms of the people in the truth you say on here, i've found in the world, warts and all only in the world nothing holds them back from being utterly horrible to you.. 2/ i got stabbed by a worldly boyfriend, i got married 2 times of my own choosing to men outside the truth, the first smoked and was an alcoholic, the second gambled every penny we had and defrauded me out of money after we separated, 2 divorces later i am currently pregnant and a single mum since current boyfriend decided kids was to much of a responsibility and he needed his freedom and i was 'too selfish to expect him to give up his life'.. 3/ parents-in-law!
i have been shunned by them as equal to anything you accuse witness families of and for the silliest of reasons, i had a disabled son and his grandparents said they wanted nothing to do with him because they didn't want to become attached in case he died.. 4/ i miss the honest friendships of the truth, i had friends of all ages from 14 to 80 years old and they genuinely cared for me, many trying to keep me in the faith a long time after i left but i was determined to fade so moved away completely, but i find friendships in the world so shallow in comparison and very hard to sustain :( i've never been a drinker and sometimes thats what friendship means you being a companion for them to goto pub with.. 5/ my recent boyfriend was in a christian religion, i thought why not find out about it, harvest churches if you ever heard of them, unfortunately it still hasn't stop him leaving me pregnant and alone and when i said to him how does he clear that with god, he replies "as long as i repent it doesn't matter" it's like he has a "get out of jail free card" for any wrong-doing in the bible, this is so alien to me and my witness trained conscience.. 6/ i recently out of frustration tried looking into atheism and joined their forums, it wasn't fun, they are as bombastic and arrogant as their religious counterparts can be from any religion, they make a religion out of not believing in god, it's very weird they talk of saving people from believing in god and offer nothing to replace it.
they said to me "be happy you are in reality now and enjoy it" and i thought "well if this is reality i've had enough of it".
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sass_my_frass
Well all the best, whatever you decide.
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sass_my_frass
Obviously we are deep into the time of the end.
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What do you do when you exit and your wife stays in?
by Quirky1 ini have recently left the wts and almost have my da letter ready to send.
my wife is still in and is higly upset by my stand.
she is afraid she'll lose her parents because they are still jw's and refuses to leave the wts, she still beleives it.
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sass_my_frass
You don't HAVE to submit that letter - it's only their rules that make you think you do. Why follow their rules? Don't make it easy for them to damage your family in that way. Your family matters far more than any kind of closure that you may need at this time.
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"Encouraging" Emails
by Not Feeling It inmaybe you still get some "encouraging" email forwards with cute stories and anecdotes.
this one i saw really hit a nerve with me.
i think so-and-so needs to read that.
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sass_my_frass
This stuff gets copied all the time, here are three different versions for three different cults:
http://humma.us/10christians.asp
http://www.gre.ac.uk/__data/assets/pdf_file/0011/77924/Robbing-Peter-to-pay-Paul.pdf
http://www.americaskeswick.org/freedom/2006/09/ten-little-christians.html
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At work Witness 007 accused of being pedophile due to this site!! BAD!
by Witness 007 ini hate the top of this page pop up slogan; "secrets of pedophilia in an american religion.
" here's why.. a female workmate works next to my desk we have worked together for 2 years, we get along well.
one work mate was fired for looking at porno in a public area.
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sass_my_frass
I don't know why you'd be viewing this site at all from work. All of our internet usage is monitored, and the biggest users are reprimanded every week. I can't even get into this site at work (it's spam-screened, as a 'cult' site, if you'd believe it). But still, if you're at work, you shouldn't be goofing off here anyway. Save it for when you get home.
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Has the Org gone witch-hunting those who are gone, but not Dfd?
by cyber-sista inhey it's been awhile since i've left--almost 5 years now!
i haven't visited this site for quite a while now.
i was never dfd, but i have little contact with anything to do with jws.
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sass_my_frass
Poor kid must have landed on their radar somehow; somebody who knows something told somebody else, who told an elders wife, etc... A BoE is usually too busy or idle to chase that kind of thing up, so either what they've heard is especially appalling, or the elders are a special kind of smegger.
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Using My Beard as a Fading Statement
by daniel-p inshould i use my new beard as a way to let jws know i'm firmly faded and am not "discouraged" or otherwise planning on returning any time soon?
or would it be too strong of a statement and make the elders want to hound me?
the memorial is coming up, and while i'm resigned to go yet again, it might be a good time to make a statement.
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sass_my_frass
I thought that a fade was about making no statements at all?
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Am I an idiot??? - ok, don't answer that... but, seriously... I've....
by cognac innoticed that i'm seeing all these things that i didn't see before... like when the wt or revelaton book states something, or when the bible states something... i mean, i never noticed this many things before... before, i noticed only a few major doctrine issues.
but, now, i'm noticing things all the time.... i mean, i'm trying to take a break.
i'm trying to not pay attention... but, they are saying things that really piss me off and i'm wondering to myself, what the hell was wrong with me... how did i not notice it before???
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sass_my_frass
Hold on for a little while longer. The anger and shock will fade, and you'll be able to handle a lot of ugly situations more rationally. Take your time. Apparently, in time it will be a really very tiny deal.
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Why won't US media talk about what's really going on?
by dinah inc'mon people!.
puppy abuse and a pga golfer facing criminal for hitting an endangered bird?
gimme a freakin' break.. if you watch any news on television, you might as well just turn on e!
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sass_my_frass
I would be fascinated to know how much tv news is still being watched. So many newspapers folding up because nobody buys them anymore, reason: internet. I can pick and choose whichever news I want.