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  The most condescending thing said to you by the (sm)elders.

  by diamondblue1974 in

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  i wasnt the most academic of children although i had some capability but i could read quite well by the time i was 4 years old at least for my age; i have always read as a child and still read now as an adult both professionally (research) and for pleasure.

  i have always been able to write too...and pretty much advanced as well as my peers did in school...perhaps i am lucky, i certainly feel like i am when illiteracy amongst adults and children is rife at present...however.. i remember when i was 16 the wts in the uk were pushing through a scheme teaching those who were not as able to read and write...and an elder in the hall made a point of coming to me and suggesting that i should actually attend the training!!

  !....i explained that i could read and write well enough and didnt need to be taught basic literacy... he said that i might learn something new and should respect jehovahs order of things and show appreciation...i did decline his kind offer rather abruptly....but wtf??

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  i have posted this on another thread, but the worst thing an elders wife ever said to me was that a sister was partly to blame for her husband sexually abusing her daughter because she had been withholding sex from him. she had post natal depression at the time.

  she also said to me, as i was a single mother at the time, that i may have taken "comfort" from my children when i was alone.

  i said i did not like what she was implying and that it was a world of difference between cuddling your child when you are both upset and what that brother had done. she seemed to see no difference and stood by her ideas.

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  if you went back...

  by zaphod in

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  what would be the thing that you had most trouble giving up.. for me, apart from thinking, it would be swearing (that's cussin' for our american friends).

  i absof*ck*nglutely love effing and blinding and i'm sure that i could not stop.

  not even if my life depended on it.

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  hi crumpet (fellow yellowbelly)

  I would find it hard to give up:

  My freedom of thought

  My intelligence

  My vibrator

  My boyfriend

  you put your vibrator ahead of your boyfriend. cool. not so sure about the things you put above it, though

  zaphod

  p.s.what kind?
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  if you went back...

  by zaphod in

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  what would be the thing that you had most trouble giving up.. for me, apart from thinking, it would be swearing (that's cussin' for our american friends).

  i absof*ck*nglutely love effing and blinding and i'm sure that i could not stop.

  not even if my life depended on it.

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  zaphod

  dont think i could ever go back.....i wouldnt give up anything....not for them...

  of course none of us would be barmy enough to go back.

  but if you did? would it be sunday mornings fishing?

  zaphod
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  if you went back...

  by zaphod in

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  what would be the thing that you had most trouble giving up.. for me, apart from thinking, it would be swearing (that's cussin' for our american friends).

  i absof*ck*nglutely love effing and blinding and i'm sure that i could not stop.

  not even if my life depended on it.

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  zaphod

  what would be the thing that you had most trouble giving up.

  for me, apart from thinking, it would be swearing (that's cussin' for our american friends)

  i absof*ck*nglutely love effing and blinding and i'm sure that i could not stop. not even if my life depended on it. which it would.

  what would you find hard to give up?

  zaphod
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  The most condescending thing said to you by the (sm)elders.

  by diamondblue1974 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i wasnt the most academic of children although i had some capability but i could read quite well by the time i was 4 years old at least for my age; i have always read as a child and still read now as an adult both professionally (research) and for pleasure.

  i have always been able to write too...and pretty much advanced as well as my peers did in school...perhaps i am lucky, i certainly feel like i am when illiteracy amongst adults and children is rife at present...however.. i remember when i was 16 the wts in the uk were pushing through a scheme teaching those who were not as able to read and write...and an elder in the hall made a point of coming to me and suggesting that i should actually attend the training!!

  !....i explained that i could read and write well enough and didnt need to be taught basic literacy... he said that i might learn something new and should respect jehovahs order of things and show appreciation...i did decline his kind offer rather abruptly....but wtf??

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  one morning, while on the ministry with a particularly pompous elder, i began humming a tune from the mikado.

  "oh," he quipped and looked rather surprised, " i wouldn't have thought you would listen to gilbert and sullivan."

  he could have meant that he presumed that i would be into far more high-brow music and that i would not waste my time on frivolous fancies such as light comedy operettas.

  i suspect that he presumed, due to my socio-economic background, that i was more into kylie and boyzone.

  if we had ever had a proper conversation in the nine years i associated with the congregation he would have found out that i like some of the work of all of the above and lots more besides. but we never did.

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  20 years ago..a talk concerning field service..sisters crying..eyes opened

  by confusedjw in

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  well i can't recall now which public talks it was - one of my first - and it dealt with field service / preaching.

  so i thought i would interview several people in the congregation about service and their thoughts and feelings on the subject, expecting something very different than what i got.

  to my shock (i was an over zealous young buck who thought the sun rose and set on the wt) three sisters burst into tears as they told about their feelings of inadequacy and guilt over field service.

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  oh, my gosh

  is it just me, or did anyone else picture the sheep and ducks admitting that they had had anti-party thoughts in animal farm.

  creeped me out

  zaphod
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  i'm new and i was wondering...

  by zaphod in

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  what is a dub?

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  thanks greendawn

  it's used quite a lot on this site. i wondered if it had a meaning peculiar to the members.

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  i'm new and i was wondering...

  by zaphod in

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  what is a dub?

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  zaphod

  another question

  what is a troll, please.

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  do i have any rights?

  by zaphod in

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  2. scandals

  i sent a letter to the elders before i got df'd and i would like it back.

  i was not of sound mind (in my opinion) when i wrote it and foolishly disclosed stuff that i would rather was not in their hands.

  does anyone know if i can get it back?

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  i don't want to sound like a suspicious bitch, but since i left, you understand, i have learned to not take things or people at face value.

  i read your admission thread and you did not mention this accusation of child abuse/ homosexuality at all. do you not feel that it was important enough to mention? it just seems a bit weird to me that you would not mention it when the rest of your account seems so candid.

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  do i have any rights?

  by zaphod in

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  2. scandals

  i sent a letter to the elders before i got df'd and i would like it back.

  i was not of sound mind (in my opinion) when i wrote it and foolishly disclosed stuff that i would rather was not in their hands.

  does anyone know if i can get it back?

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  thanks blondie

  oh, i really live in the uk.

  nobody outside of lincolnshire knows that lincolshire exists let alone the rest of the world lol.

  zaphod