i will if i find out. she lives next door to an elder and i feel that i don't want to exascerbate her situation by going round.
i will try and get some info though. my dad, who thankfully never got baptised will probably fill me in when he goes to see her.
she practically brought me up (hence my becoming a witness) and i feel sick that i can't be there for her when she needs me. it could get her disfellowshipped i'm sure if i went round now.
thanks to everyone for your kind support. i really am choked. you are the good guys.
zaphod