I agree that the WTS's main objective is controlling the flock and that they demonstrate that control by making little rules and seeing who will obey and who will question. Sometimes the rules aren't so little...like education. I understand why they don't want young witnesses to get an education...and its not because of all of the worldly influences, its because, if they learn critical thinking, they will start to apply what they've learned to the WTS and it will expose the whole sheebang for a tissue of lies. The big problem lies in having a congregation full of under-educated people who have trouble getting good paying jobs and making ends meet...how will they support the organization? I guess the WTS will next encourage the congregation to fast one day a week and donate the money saved to them.
In regards to your facial hair flap, I mean, look at it. Its do unimportant that is laughable. But then they've always had a "thing" about facial hair. Hey, its easy to make edicts about and it demonstrates their iron control without costing anybody any money or too much difficulty.
As for where you will go? That's the puzzle, isn't it. I worried about this for a couple of years, both before and after I made my decision to leave. The problem with witnesses is that they debunk other religions, so that when you realize they're a bunch of frauds too, there is no religion to go to. That's why so many ex witnesses become athiests. Others, especially if they weren't born in and have a religion in their background, go back to that religion. They don't have to believe it, its more of a security blanket, a retreat into their childhood. Its a place to find friends, and a social network...and its much easier than what they went through as witnesses. At any rate, its something all of us who have left have to face and deal with for ourselves. Look at it as an adventure in self discovery.
Good luck to you.