Posts by Cassandra

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What a load of bollocks

by Cassandra in

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my sister was sifting through some old papers recently and came across this old poem that she had written for a friend to advise her of her reinstatement.

she emailed it to me under the subject above.. it made us both laugh to remember how crazy we had been.

hope it lightens your day and gives some of you a laugh too.. love to you all .

hi everyone
my sister was sifting through some old papers recently and came across this old poem that she had written for a friend to advise her of her reinstatement. She emailed it to me under the subject above.
It made us both laugh to remember how crazy we had been. Hope it lightens your day and gives some of you a laugh too.
love to you all
Cassandra

A POEM ABOUT A DISFELLOWSHIPED PERSON
Disfellowshiped people are lonely and sad.
Have been very naughty but not necessarily bad.
Although at times they go to a meeting
They dont even merit a wink or a greeting

We have some news of a girl over here
Remember the one with the fuzzy blond hair?
Mermories of her are often painfull
Because at times she was so distainful

Some times though she made us all laugh
Like the time she said "I just want to have fun" in the bath.
(ok people this was when we were getting her organised for her final meeting with the elders)
Time has gone by she has now learnt her lesson.
The elders we think have too gained this empression
So to the elders she went and her problems debated
And they said "my dear you have been reinstated"
So with pen in hand she sat down to relax
And decided to send her best friend a fax.

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"Hey there all you lurkey ones..."

by Simon in

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hmmn, doesn't quite work does it?

ok...we'll stick with 'thirsty' then .

why not register and make a post or two...ask a question...make a statement...whatever !.

Cassandra

hi target
and Simon thanks for the invite. I lurk here regularly but find it hard to get online as I have to be really carefull about who is around. I have posted twice and thanks so much to those who responded especially Freemind who gave me info to download that I have found really helpfull. Thanks to all the rest of you who have the courage to tell your stories and help those of us who are still struggling with our own.
Love to you all Cassandra

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anyone else ever feel like this??

by lydia in

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i've been mulling over this and i'm finding that its common with several of my extended family who were raised in the org.

- seems that the feeling of never doing enough for the org.

( to obtain a place in the "new system" ) has spilled over into other areas of our lives.

Cassandra

Hi Lydia
I was brought up in the troof and so were my five sisters and yes we all feel the same way that you do. We have all struggled with the need to be involved with people who "need us" so that we feel worthy of being alive at all. I dont think I really understood what a witness upbringing did to you until I saw what it is doing to my daughter. She is 14yrs old and is having some adolescent problems. I have not associated with the cong for almost a year now but my husband is still an active witness. Last week when my daughter misbehaved we talked and agreed on grounding and suitable punishments and she took it all very well. then the next day he pulled out the October 1 watchtower about "how to help a prodigal child" and said he wanted to study it with her. When she read the paragraphs that were marked with an asterix she started to cry and I wanted to cry too. Because she is growing up just the way I did where, guilt and shame will always be the motivational forces that shape who you believe you are, and without some significant "other" other approval it is hard to believe you have any value at all.
Love Cassandra

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Hello

by Cassandra in

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i have been lurking for months now and want to say hello.

i was raised a jw and am now 46yrs old.

i stopped attending meetings at the beginning of this year for various reasons and only then gained the courage to check the net and see if anyone else like me was out there.

Cassandra

Hi
I have been lurking for months now and want to say hello.
I was raised a JW and am now 46yrs old. I stopped attending meetings at the beginning of this year for various reasons and only then gained the courage to check the net and see if anyone else like me was out there. My husband was an elder for around 10 yrs and is still an active witness. I read of so many who have left the org together and that is not the case with us. My husband is a very good man but it is impossible to reason on things that are set as rules by the org. I feel trapped between two worlds. Living like this is like being in the twilight zone, he wont associate with my "worldly" friends and many of the witness friends see me as a bad associate.
Has anyone else been here?
Cassandra