dub stepped -- you are right. How many times I've read a toxic parent is always forgiven by the abused, adult, child. I don't think it's so bad today - psychology and help has come a long way and not all humans/churches pressure adult children to forgive. Some people are still like that -- very sad.
Posts by LV101
-
19Going to see my abusive jw mother tomorrow
by Simonsez inmy me mother and i do not see eye to eye to say the least.
my childhood was fraught with her abusive behavior.
alas.she is old now and though i have not spoken to her in a year she called the other day and wanted to see me.
-
-
-
15
Bleecker Street — I saw a shadow touch a shadow’s hand (New York)
by slimboyfat inwill i ever make it to new york?
i feel if i ever did make it to new york i would never want to leave again.
what do i know about new york?
-
-
LV101
If you go to NY you have to eat at the famous Rainbow Room and watch the great NY Rockettes perform at Radio City.
-
10
Why you Should wear a mask.
by Giordano infrom health and science in the week august 14, 2020. page 21.
"scientists know that face masks can prevent infected people from spreading the corona-virus to others.
now research suggests that masks can also protect uninfected wearers, by reducing the risk they'll get seriously ill from the virus--or even catch it in the first place.. virologists suspect that people wearing face coverings inhale fewer airborne viral particles, making it easier for their immune system to fight and defeat the intruders.. in one seafood plant in oregon where masked were widely used, 90% of all cases were asymptomatic.. likewise, the asymptomatic rate was above 80 percent on a cruise ship where passengers were issued masks.".
-
-
LV101
Giordano - Thx for info/source. Will check out.
The case of the 2 infected hairdressers in St. Louis comes to mind - several clients all masked - none that were tested were positive or became ill.
I do know some hospitals - especially when short handed before the mammoth outbreak here/medical personnel being laid off - are negligent and will use any walking breathing human to help them in ER with aged family member. Everyone 'assuming' the heat had killed anything resembling a virus (idiots) and a week later the area gobsmacked with infections/deaths following. Death rate still not down here. Bottom line - many are negligent and know very little about it - obviously, more than previously.
-
10
Why you Should wear a mask.
by Giordano infrom health and science in the week august 14, 2020. page 21.
"scientists know that face masks can prevent infected people from spreading the corona-virus to others.
now research suggests that masks can also protect uninfected wearers, by reducing the risk they'll get seriously ill from the virus--or even catch it in the first place.. virologists suspect that people wearing face coverings inhale fewer airborne viral particles, making it easier for their immune system to fight and defeat the intruders.. in one seafood plant in oregon where masked were widely used, 90% of all cases were asymptomatic.. likewise, the asymptomatic rate was above 80 percent on a cruise ship where passengers were issued masks.".
-
-
LV101
tgnd - question - if medical personnel are required to wear masks then why does COVID 19 infection kill patients - although our friend last week may have contracted the virus in the rehab he was sent to after surgery. He was very unhappy with his experience at rehab facility while there - became sick and transported back to hospital and died of COVID 19. He'd had 2 hip replacements past decade (x-athelete/college baseball player) - took a bad fall few wks ago and was in hospital to have damaged hip redone. Not good. I'd assume rehab personnel are conscientious of wearing masks but perhaps the younger personnel are sloppy about but mask wearing is mandatory here - not that it means anything to some.
It has to be so contagious and my friend (older) working at mall says the younger ones stroll through store with masks hanging half off their faces while laughing, talking, etc. They can get away with it compared to older ones.
Personally know 2 people dying of COVID 19 in one week - the other one a young man infected/died -- father of very young daughter. It's brutal.
-
22
What is REALLY behind the destruction of the Postal Service? I decided to research it ...
by Terry ini don't know about you - but i never know when i'm being lied to or told the truth any longer.
partisans are tribes warring on truth.
i decided to see what i could find out historically and this is what i've come up with.
-
-
LV101
I knew an ex JW who worked at the postal service. She caught a couple of employees stealing money out of envelopes and grabbing what they wanted in packages - this was around 2001 - 2003. She'd been promoted and was much higher up than the thieves she worked with. Afraid to report but once she did it was scary - her life was threatened - the police had to protect her. It was an absolute horror story.
-
19
Going to see my abusive jw mother tomorrow
by Simonsez inmy me mother and i do not see eye to eye to say the least.
my childhood was fraught with her abusive behavior.
alas.she is old now and though i have not spoken to her in a year she called the other day and wanted to see me.
-
-
LV101
Of course visit(s) need to be made especially since she's reached out and wants to see her daughter unless Simonsez determines her mental/physical health is on the line and she can't! I think it's wise to make sure her mother's assets are protected for her living/care needs which could end up being a substantial amount if she lives a long life. If her funds are not managed wisely she could end up being placed into a nursing home that is not so good. So many elderly in nursing homes end up being uprooted from the facility because they or the family no longer can pay the fees - decent ones are very expensive for minimal care in assisted living - the more needs one has equals more added expenses. Elderly can blow through savings accounts pretty fast once they need extra care.
-
19
Going to see my abusive jw mother tomorrow
by Simonsez inmy me mother and i do not see eye to eye to say the least.
my childhood was fraught with her abusive behavior.
alas.she is old now and though i have not spoken to her in a year she called the other day and wanted to see me.
-
-
LV101
Or literally can't help due to the care needed or abuse meted out. The medical community can be of help If the elderly one has dementia/alzheimers and needs to be in nursing home. Many elderly ones can't make judicious decisions! Most cities have a geriatric psych facility where psychiatrists make an evaluation and assist the family in locating/transporting them to an assisted/nursing home if family is unable to be the caregiver(s). It's very difficult to deal with no matter which avenue you take.
Good to have legal and professional mental health advice/evaulations when there's different opinions of siblings/family - good for checks and balances. Court appointed trustees can be good - they have to report to court re/all of the expenditures unless the parent has handed over the reins to family or family member but at times changes need to be made. If WT cult in background or dishonest family member in charge there clearly needs to be authorities involved. Usually by the time an adult child is able to admit aged parent(s) to a geriatric psych facility in hospital or have them transported via paramedics they themselves are emotionally/physically spent.
If you're over 55 (age may differ in states) you can always contact attorneys who do inexpensive work for seniors or try for pro bono work - they farm out to reputable firms to aid those who can't afford/pay.
-
19
Going to see my abusive jw mother tomorrow
by Simonsez inmy me mother and i do not see eye to eye to say the least.
my childhood was fraught with her abusive behavior.
alas.she is old now and though i have not spoken to her in a year she called the other day and wanted to see me.
-
-
LV101
Sounds like there needs to be a "checkbook" audit on behalf of your mother to protect her financial interests and care while she's alive. Perhaps there needs to be a court-appointed guardian. Be prepared - as I'm sure you know when money is involved unimaginable happens.
-
45
Since We Are In 2020 What Do You Miss?
by minimus ini miss listening and dancing to live music on a weekend night.. i miss going into a crowded mall store to window shop.. i miss going out into public and not having to wear a mask.. i miss seeing people freely mingle on a busy street or sidewalk.. what a difference a year makes!.
-
-
LV101
Without the electoral only the votes of a few states would win and that is not fair.
Thankfully, states having power is a positive thing for humans - people today aren't exactly running/uprooting from nanny states and moving to another blue state unless it's an opportunity to good to turn down. Many are leaving great paying jobs and running - fast!
-
19
Going to see my abusive jw mother tomorrow
by Simonsez inmy me mother and i do not see eye to eye to say the least.
my childhood was fraught with her abusive behavior.
alas.she is old now and though i have not spoken to her in a year she called the other day and wanted to see me.
-
-
LV101
She's your Mom, too, and I think I'd protect my share if at all possible - keep your eye on the cheese. You're entitled to it at this point (until she redoes her legal papers) and I'd do it legally! Call your local bar association and ask for good attorney referrals or check out ratings of probate lawyers (Martindale Hubbel). Save copies of your bros emails, everything - lawyers see this evil every day. If the sibling sees you're not going to cry and run away -- and it's going to get expensive on his end, also, -- maybe he'll play fair. I don't know how legal fees end up being charged but sounds like he's too greedy to want to fight this out - hopefully.
I'd go see her. This greed goes on every day. CPAs/lawyers have a saying something like until the parents die they are 'siblings' and afterward they are 'heirs' and nothing more.
I'm confused - your brother has complete control - does that mean she's bequeathing everything to him? If that's not the case maybe you should go for a guardianship of your mother to protect her and to make sure the cult religion and your brother don't X you out.