Posts by JWdaughter

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Does being a "born in" blur parental vs JW issues?

by obfuscatetheobvious in

thank you to the many people who have posted their experiences and advice on this site!

i have browsed a few topics but the threads that i seem to gravitate to the most deal with family.

there is certainly a lot that i can relate to in many of the anecdotes i have read.

JWdaughter

I think the OP has a point. I also wonder the reverse-in fact that is what I thought the topic would be about-how many things to we chalk up to being normal family issues that are rooted in our experience as a JW family? Like the OP shows, sometimes it is hard to separate the two, but its a blurry line at best, plus as born ins, we don't even have a frame of reference for normal since the religion was so thoroughly woven into our existence-our speech, clothing, holidays, habits, entertainment-everything.

Can we ever just BE normal? My kids are impacted by my religious choices and resent them and they never had the JW experience-but how much of that is reflected from MY experience as a JW? How many generations are inadvertently damaged by this cult?

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Jehovah's Witnesses accused of covering up historic sex abuse

by defender of truth in

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/crime/12073247/jehovahs-witnesses-accused-of-covering-up-historic-sex-abuse.html

JWdaughter

"The spokesman said: "Jehovah’s Witnesses abhor child abuse, and view it as a heinous crime and sin. The safety of our children is of the utmost importance.

"Any suggestion that Jehovah’s Witnesses cover up child abuse is absolutely false. We are committed to doing all we can to prevent child abuse and to provide spiritual comfort to any who have suffered from this terrible sin and crime."

They say this every time, with every instance of abuse that they are caught out about-denying that they cover it up. Lots of smoke, there is fire. I am sick of their canned and insincere response. It is absolutely meaningless and even I have memorized it. They need to come up with a more convincing response, like an abject apology and a new resolve to help children and other victims properly.

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Why do girls have a hymen?

by JWchange in

if you believe humans evolved, and were not created, why would having a hymen help, especially as no other mammal has one?

if you believe humans were created by {a} god, or intelligent beings with advanced technology, what was the reason for a hymen?

i'm interested to hear your thoughts on this unusual subject, not many people talk about..

JWdaughter

never mind.

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The Pain of Coming to a Decision

by daniel-p in

jw
friends

it's been at least a couple years since i've posted anything on here, and much longer than that since when i was active.

ten years ago i first came here all in turmoil over my disillusionment of my beliefs.

i've been through lots of ups and downs since then.

JWdaughter

I would pull the headship thing and take your kids back. Life isn't fair, and you changed your mind. I'm sorry, but in my little world there would be NO issue about who decides if child will get blood. It's always going to be your decision.

I've been playing Ms. Nice guy for way too much of my life. I am near 50 now and I really regret bending over backwards all the time to accomodate others lives, feelings, needs while neglecting real needs of my own. Its good to do in some things, but bending over backwards all the time is BAD for you. Tends to make you "spineless". I'd say take back your kids, take back your life and if she wants to be the bad guy, let her. If she doesn't, maybe it will kindle something. Who knows?

I feel bad for you because I know what it feels like to know that you are the one who changed the game. I know how it feels to want to be with someone who cares about you and respects you.

My best to you. I want to get that little girl a christmas present and I hope she gets one next year.

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Next year will be a very tough year for me

by never a jw in

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my new year resolution is to invest more of my time with my family and friends.

also, as i approach retirement ( i am 50), i need to make sure there's enough to keep me and my wife going beyond our eighties.

i want to thank all of you because my time here, posting and reading, have been a great learning experience.

JWdaughter

See you in 2017-and not a minute sooner. We want you to have a healthy amount to retire on!

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more evidence has piled up

by Jerryh in

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*** w67 12/15 p. 753 par.

1 what now distinguishes the good news to be preached ***.

what vital thing has now been added to the good news of the kingdom of god that jesus christ and his zealous apostles used to preach nineteen hundred years ago?

JWdaughter

My computer is popping up with ads for hemmoroids. All those "Piles" don'tcha know!!

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Chaos at Brooklyn Bethel 12/2016

by James Jack in

this was how it was described to me yesterday by a brother who has been there for some 40 years.

"everyone is about gone; the governing body is set to leave within 2 months; the kitchen and laundry personnel are gone and i have to fend for myself now.".

"also the aggravation of 4 to 5 business men in suits with clipboards daily checking out the watchtower properties.

JWdaughter

Hmmm. A bunch of guys now solely responsible for keeping up their homes, doing their laundry and cooking after decades of having maids, laundresses and cooks? Yeah it's chaos!

Whoever doesn't think that would equal chaos is insane (sorry to all my friends)-just came to a home that has had 4 men running it after divorce/separation/ moving out of parents home. Its like a frat house without the lewd behavior and alcohol. EWWW They even know how EWWW and horrible it is because they had the wife/mom taking care of the home before that. YES, this is sexist. I fully acknowledge that. But people are:)

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Three years since I've been here and a lot has happened!

by new boy in

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friends

i wrote a book.

it's on the is on amazon.

"the persistent illusion".

JWdaughter

Congratulations on all your good news. I hope your life continues to be successful and happy! Oh, and you are starting it with my hopes for this next year to be better even than the last!

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2015-12-28--Insurance!

by Atlantis in

2015-12-28 liability insuranceclick the green download button.http://fileflyer.com/view/mazfoac.wtunderground!

(if fileflyer locks up this time i will just have to find another hosting site.

)

JWdaughter

I am sure that it is some kind of form that shows that they are self insured in some sort of way.

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Drink Driving

by Simon in

with the christmas almost upon us i would like to share a personal experience with you about drinking and driving.. as you may know the local police are having a serious go at drink drivers this year... well, a couple of days ago i was out for an evening with friends and had a small number of drinks before dinner, followed by some rather nice red wine.

feeling jolly i still had the sense to know that i may be very slightly over the limit.. that's when i did something that i've never done before - i took a taxi home.. sure enough on the way home there was a police road check, but since it was a taxi they waved it past.

i arrived home safely without incident.. this was a real surprise as i had never driven a taxi before, i don't know where i got it and now that it's in my garage i don't know what to do with it.. any ideas?.

JWdaughter

I just found out that my late dad got a dui when he was a young man. It instantaneously removed my rather unforgiving attitude about them, becsuse my dad was a good human being. Even to my ex who did also. Its still a damn fool thing to do, but if you get away without damaging anything but your pocket book, its a cheap lesson. But learn from it.

One relative damaged a life irrevocably and the consequences of it destroyed him. Suicide was his way out. 24 years ago. It still hurts everyone remotely involved, including the other party and both big families.

Everyone-have a wonderful season. Just be smart.