Posts by JWdaughter

Upstate NY gets its share of rough weather, but I doubt it will be that isolated. Maybe they will piss off the county and they will do their road last:)

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Ex elders vs. Current elders

by dothemath in

in our congregation there are now more ex-elders than current ones.

(probably very common).

what i notice most of all, is that the ones who were the best speakers (we actually had some good ones) are the ones who have all stepped down.. i'm of the opinion the better teachers recognize its all a joke, and can't be bothered to reach out again.. so the ones left who are taking the lead are the most boring ones available.

JWdaughter

The elder arrangement was pretty new back when I left, so I had no idea that this was a "thing". I figured folks would just LEAVE. But obviously, that is not always the case, even if they'd like to.

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Drugs....why?

by Tigger in

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im new here, so go easy with me!

just wanted to know if any one has any idea's or personal experience in regard to drug and alcohol abuse in former jw's.

all the one's i know have just lost the plot when it comes drugs and alcohol, especially drug use.

JWdaughter

I never thought to turn to drugs before a recent experience as they held no appeal. My limited experience with prescription drugs left me muddy headed or delusional (literally). I don't like alcohols taste or effects. I recognized those things well into adulthood and far beyond the JW experience ( I didn't leave to experience the forbidden, but just because I recognized that I wanted no part of their arrogant claim to have the truth).

I recently had a experience that, with my broader knowledge of the way that drugs and alcohol messes with the consciousness, I can see it as being appealing when going through a serious struggle of any kind-and losing friends and family because of leaving a religion is definitely a miserable thing. I was as close to suicide as I could be (a JW played into it, but it wasn't really about the JWs) and wished that I was one of the people that enjoyed that kind of alteration of my consciousness. I'm just not one of them, but clearly a LOT of people like the feeling of being buzzed, high or drunk.

I think it is an escape from current reality and I would have welcomed it a few times if I wasn't more miserable using those things than otherwise and I know that my family is rather prone to addiction, so I am extra wary of all of it.

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Hello all just moved to Lakewood NY

by Still Totally ADD in

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it has been along time since i have posted something.

my wife and i have just moved to ny just west of jamestown.

our log house in pa was so far from everything it was costing us to much time and money.

JWdaughter

I'm glad to hear good news. a bit jealous, but the good kind that is happy for you! Enjoy the old house and the new neighborhood. Put your exJW ammo in order for when the JWs arrive at your door.

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How do I handle this situation?

by BarelyThere in

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hey everyone.

i'm sorry that this isn't a very thought provoking post but i could really use some advice on how to handle this.

there isn't anyone else in my life i can ask right now because, being dfed, all of my friends are "worldly" and don't know how witnesses function.

JWdaughter

Im sorry about all this. I don't think revealing the letters will help. I think it might help inform your next step though.

If you trust any elders, ask their advice about your chances of ever being welcome in the congregations and any suggestions on how you can not only be reinstated, but part of the congregation. You don't really want to be, but it may help you make your next move.

All the best. Later you can TP the MSs house.

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Whatever happened to the Lopez case?

by StarTrekAngel in

was it settled?

is it still pending further appeal?

JWdaughter

I think this means, as one explained, that the appeal hearing is not being given a continuance as the WT seeks. The appeal WILL be heard in February. The WT is not prepared to stand up for its defiance of the court. I think they are trying to wear down the plaintiff. Having recently experienced the same in a domestic issue, I hope that the WT again fails to show up, though I'm sure the hearing would be interesting to see if they actually show up this time. My ex didn't wear me down. He didn't pay his lawyer, thought he could wear me down by begging judge for more time. He didn't, then didn't show as he had no case and knew he'd be humiliated and possibly jailed for perjury.

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Witnesses killed my friend today.

by WasOnceBlind in

today has been a horrible day.

what began as a day of joy finding out that one of my lifelong friends had her baby, turned into a nightmare when her brother called me to let me know she had passed away after birth.

i was in shock and didn't ask how.

JWdaughter

I'm so sorry for all who loved her. What a tragedy. My heart is with you.

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Article-Tennessean Newspaper (Nashville): "Bill ends shield for parents choosing prayer over medicine"

by AndersonsInfo in

http://www.tennessean.com/story/money/industries/health-care/2016/01/19/bill-removes-protections-parents-choosing-prayer-over-medicine/79001194/?from=global&sessionkey=&autologin=.

holly fletcher, [email protected] 5:26 p.m. cst january 19, 2016 .

a bill filed tuesday would remove a legal shield in tennessee for parents who reject medical treatment for children in favor of treatment by prayer.. it is a crime in tennessee to fail to provide medical care to children, with an exception, known as the spiritual treatment exemption act, for parents who want to rely on "spiritual means through prayer alone," according to state code.

JWdaughter

JWs aren't really into healing by prayer, if you think about it. However, so long as the bill keeps JW parents from denying prescribed medical treatment, great. My issue would be parents who go on the run to defy laws or courts. It's happened before. Yes, with JWs.