I am sincerely glad that as a child and woman advocate that you are better educated about the JWs. When you come across JWs family crises, you will better know how to advocate for them effectively, hopefully-or you just won't be as clueless as most people are. The organization looks pretty harmless from "a distance".
At first I didn't understand why you didn't research the cross-then you described your life and it made perfect sense! I wish I had a strong woman like yourself nearby to kick my assertiveness in the backside a bit. You would be a great mentor!
Take care of yourself. Congratulations on getting away from the elder and getting your mom into a facility and out of your home when she is dangerous.