Posts by JWdaughter

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For those of you that are disfellowshipped, How Far Would Your Faithfull JW Family Go To Stay Loyal to The WT?

by John Aquila in

ive seen jw parents shun their disfellowshipped children for 20-30 years.

ive seen parents remove disfellowshipped or fader children from wills and give the inheritance to the watchtower..

if your country got run over by some form of government like the nazi regime and started a process of eliminating any groups or individuals who it considered a threat.

JWdaughter

My mom shunned me because I put something about WT (and Muslim and CAtholic and Baptist etc) responses to child abuse in their religions on my FB page. It was critical of religious responses to child abuse in institutional settings. It wasn't about rejecting God, it wasn't a rejection of Jesus. It wasn't critical of faith, it was criticizing MEN in charge.

She objects to any criticism of the organizational practices. NO MATTER WHAT. She shuns me for that, not for immorality, not for rejecting God, not for dishonesty, not for immodesty or drunkenness or drug abuse.

she is now trying to stay in touch(her typical trying to move out of HER shunning mode and keep face) and I am now keeping it to necessary family business. I have no desire to mess with that crap anymore. She can't just say she is sorry for anything, she can't ADMIT that anything the WT told her to do is wrong. I'm not playing anymore. I respond politely and briefly to her communications. I almost softened up a couple of times but I decided that this is not dementia related, it is just JW related hatefulness and I'm not letting her run my life anymore. She pulled that crap when I was going through hell on every part of my life with my kids, my husband, my ex, jobs, money and poor health(on several fronts) . She knew most of it and still pulled that. That is NOT love. And it was the straw that broke it for me. I can survive all of that-but I DON'T have to add any extra stressors to my already complicated life. If those 7 men in Brooklyn matter more than I do. If they can do ANYTHING with impunity. . . well, I don't have a mother.

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What I said to an Elder and the matter was dropped.

by Simon Templar in

i decided to tell this small story.. about 25 years ago, we lived in a certain area in the usa and associated with the local congregation there.

coincidently, one of the elders was the assistant congregation servant in a different kh and congregation which i grew up in.

therefore, we knew one another well.

JWdaughter

Troubled mind, I think your elder must be moonlighting as a police interrogator, because they don't have to be ethical in their accusations, they just need to be in legal boundaries. You know, such technicalities are a favorite among certain mindsets that figure the ends justifies the means. And dicatorships just want the results that they want-truth has nothing to do with it.

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The WT Trucking Outfit Has Violations

by cattails in

2. total number of vehicle inspections for the measurement period.

n. fatigued truck driving (hours-of-service) basic serious violation indicator (y = serious violation within previous 12 months).

n. kingdom support services inc truck driver fitness data.

JWdaughter

I was trained a little about the legal requirements to stay properly certified with the DOT. It's tough and they are doing great. If you get too many, they can pull your trucks/drivers off the road. Basically anything that happens on the road is going to ding the driver, even if a private driver causes an accident (which is not right, many individuals are really stupid driving around big rigs). A certain amount of respect should be given to commercial drivers with excellent records. Its not a 'given'.

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The new RBC

by drawcad_1 in

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friends

the new rbc now called the ldc.

sold to us as new and improved rbc.

working with all of the congregation funds after we sent them all back to new york and what have they done.

JWdaughter

James Jack, I have seen one of the new KH's. In Tacoma/Lakewood WA there is a new hall style (lots of windows, big parking lot, commercial area bordering a residential neighborhood. Its a nice hall (SMALL!) and has handy dandy gates that lock everyone in/out during the meetings. To prevent escape or anyone trying to break in during armageddon, presumably. There is an older hall nearby with the same gates. In the two halls are two English speaking congs, 2-3 spanish and a cambodian and vietnamese (I think, cant read the lang.). Six cong's total.

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Today I learned - I'm incapable of having a relationship

by Garrett in

hello my dear friends,.

while this post may not be entirely witness related, i figured i'd write out my thoughts here as a form of release and reflection.. recently, a lot has changed in my life.

i'm away from home for the first time in a long while training to get certified in a field i'm not even sure i want to work in anymore.

JWdaughter

I don't know much, but you have have projected this to a relationship and being rejected. Get her phone number before you start seeing wedding bells and divorce papers! One step at a time and while you are in it, enjoy itfor what it is. If it is meant to be more, the ease in the relationship will develop.

You aren't doomed to disaster, but I think a little positive self talk, positive attitude would be useful. If not her, someone will be right. Think sales guy like-Law of large numbers. Keep meeting people, getting comfortable meeting people and just enjoy it for the meet,for the acquaintance, for the friendship and ? Meet old, young, male, female, ugly and beautiful people. Learn to like and enjoy them for who and what they are as humans. Then, someday you may be better at relationships in general. Not every girl is a future gf or wife. Let them be what they are and become what they are meant to be to you-you only need ONE to be the right one, but a lot can be wonderful people to know and learn about and add value to both of your lives because of their humanity. Just enjoy the humans around you.

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I just want to find new friends ^_^

by pureginseng0 in

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my name is ji-seong lee and about jw life, it has been almost 11 years after baptism.. but researching about jw bad behavior, it was a real shock (including child abuse by elders).

but i think just keeping jw lifestyle is more comfortable than stopping it, because of my family.... i have mom, father, and one older sister, and my father was an elder (not now) and my sister is regular pioneer.. so it is just a challenge to quit my religion.. because i just love to make friends throughout the world, (nomatter what religion backgrond they have) i post this text and in the end of this you will find the kakaotalk id of me!!.

i am male and 1993 jan. born.

JWdaughter

Welcome Ji-Seong Lee! We are all aware of how difficult leaving can be when there is close family involved. As you are young, hopefully you can find a way to fade as you are at a age when many travel and move from home, go to university, marry, etc. Don't get married to a JW! That will just dig you in deeper.

All the best to you. I hope you find a way to exit gracefully and maintain the relationships that you value. I'm not headed to S. Korea any time soon, but I will keep you in mind. If you are ever traveling to Washington State, IM me and I would love to say hello.

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1975 all over again!!!

by John Aquila in

wt study edition jan. 2015.

here is the bait:.

as the number of kingdom proclaimers increases and as we near the end of this system of things, there is an urgent need for more facilities.

JWdaughter

KAIK,

Is their god going to hold it against your mom that she is in a hospital when the end comes? Whatever moment that is would presumably find some asleep, some sitting on the toilet and others having sex. How would being in hospital keep one out of paradise? I hope your mom gets her needed surgery and recovers in good health.

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Everybody loves Raymond

by Saintbertholdt in

a while ago the user vinman started a forum thread called: "ray franz was an idiot".

the reaction to it was quite negative but i have to admit that the title of that thread was intriguing to me.

by nature i am an iconoclast.

JWdaughter

I never heard a peep about Greenlees until I got on this board. Either exposing or defending him without evidence would have been a legal disaster. Whatever else you think about Ray, he wasn't an idiot and he came out of the most LEGALISTIC organization on the face of the earth. Not to mention that it is pretty unethical to publicly ruin a man's reputation on hearsay. Kind of like "when did you stop beating your wife?" Guilty or innocent, he would have been putting something out there in the world that was not common knowlege or dealt with in the justice system. Apparently some 'talk' has outed Greenlees, but as I have seen things over the years, I haven't seen much other than rude comments about him being a pedophile. I have seen snarky remarks, but I would not repeat them to anyone because I don't repeat much in the way of snarky remarks.

As for Ray having full documentation. . . it is kind of old school to keep important correspondence in a hard copy, but many of us who have gone through an estate or old business files know that it was a common thing to do. That he had his own copies might have a lot to do with the fact that he was in meetings where this stuff was discussed. That he took it with him. . . well, again, he was in a legalistic organization. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. That he had copies of things that bothered him makes more sense, not less, especially when he was clearly troubled about things.

Did he plan to write a book? Maybe! Were I still in, I have said it before, I just WISH I could have inside information to use against them. I WISH I could try to steer them in a better direction. I WISH I could hold on to (and expose!) things that might relieve the consciences of hundreds of thousands of people who are struggling with the idea of leaving "the truth" because they really don't have the information or maybe the intellect to pull together all the things that are not making sense to them. I WISH I could help as many people as Ray did.

I know he didn't get rich from being an ex GB member and I have never sensed that he expected to. I think the man was operating with his conscience and I for one don't begrudge him that he used the tools available to him to help others. He burned those bridges and that was a lot braver than many here have been able to be- yet-but he gives hope to them because he didn't leave at the first hint of distress, either. But he LEFT. And so can all of us when we can get our courage bonded to our brains! It wasn't easy for even him. But he did it.

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The Last Time I Set Foot in a Kingdom Hall

by Oubliette in

saturday, september 19th, 2015: .

earlier today snugglebunny posted a pic of today's "daily text" which is based on a paragraph from the november 15th, 2013 article.

that magazine contains the now infamous maxim: .

JWdaughter

Happy upcoming anniversary! You have made a big shift in the last couple of years. I'm so happy for your progress and success at leaving!

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Blurring of genders

by Saltheart Foamfollower in

as sometimes happens at elders meetings with the co, he has a letter from the branch to read out.

this rarely is made available later so any policies have to be acted on from memory.

this visit a letter was read about blurring of the genders and in particular brothers dressing in a metrosexual style - tight clothing was mentioned again.

JWdaughter

So, pants dragging halfway down your backside that make you look like a toddler with a loaded diaper would obviously be ok for field service and everyday JW life as they are not in any way indicating homosexuality or displaying the body to any kind of sexually desirable advantage. Good to know.