If you can find out the congregation he attends, tell the elders. Since they aren't checking police blotters, they won't know of an accusation unless he is convicted or tells them. IF he goes to jail. Maybe. So, send them a copy of the police report. This might protect some people in his congregation, if someone knows. It might just be those close to elders, but. . .
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Is this a normal JW practice? Warning, this will be a bit graphic.
by Sequoia inthis post may be disturbing and i apologize, but i'm just trying to find out if this is a practice the jw teaches.
i was taken advantage of by a guy claiming to be a jw preacher.
he took me to his house supposedly so i could give his daughter piano lessons, and then he basically forced himself on me while telling me he was in love with me and wanted to marry me.
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It's weird to look back at old family stories about our beliefs.
by schnell inmy parents had a story that the first time my dad ever met my mom's father, he opened the door and immediately asked dad, "what are you gonna do if my grandson needs a blood transfusion?!".
grampa was a ww2 vet, an airplane mechanic, a methodist and freemason.
he and my grandmother were pictured all my life as these ogres who opposed my mother's jw conversion and her marriage to my father.
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JWdaughter
It has bearing that both spouses agree ahead of time because for JWs it is a critical issue in that lives can be lost, relationships and marriages severed, jobs lost, all family ties effectively cut. . .yeah, it's good to have that one agreed to. Eternal daydream is the jw issue, here and now is for those who are awake and cognizant.
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Life is changing for me: no pioneering, got a job!
by Skepsis ina month ago i decided to register in this board.
i had decided to step down pioneering but was frightened about the consequences.
i had finished my university degree some months before (despite disaproval from brothers in my congregation) and i had to choose: continue pioneering and working in jobs with no future or starting a career, working full-time.. i was thinking to postpone the decisiton but... i was fed up with preaching.
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JWdaughter
If you aren't up for confrontation, move house to another congregation. You owe them nothing.
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How do you categorise the Society - Cult or High control religion
by UnshackleTheChains ini have often seen many categorise the organisation in different ways.
some say cult, some say high control religion.
cult or high control religion?.
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JWdaughter
High control religion, colloquially known as a cult.
Or highly ludicrous religion😆
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Short stay
by midnight inafter much research and prayer i am returning to being a jehovah's witness i can find nothing that eliminates them from being god's directed people , in the end they will reach the end of there journey despite mistakes and errors just like the israelites entered the promised land , thanks for your input and all the best on your personal journey ☺.
midnight..
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JWdaughter
Good luck with that!
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How to reply when someone asks about your spiritual health
by RodrigoGuerreiro infirst of all, sorry if i cannot correctly express the original expression used in my native language to ask for the "spiritual condition".. a few years ago some member of the family asks my wife directly how is her "spiritual health" (for me it's one of the many strange vocabulary used by jw like "the slave says...").
she was catched by surprise with the direct question and says that everything is ok... and luckily someone call them for lunch.. my question is: do you have any good answers for that question?
you can be ironic/use some humor because the question is a little bit anecdotical .
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JWdaughter
Why bless your heart, sister soandso! That YOU are concerned about my spiritual health when (offer up a pitying, condescending look) . . . well, just bless your heart for asking! You know, I have heard that Brother Paul is a great listener when one is struggling in matters of spiritual health. Would you like me to arrange for you to meet him?
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Random Thoughts on Getting Older
by Lee Elder inthe reality that all of us ultimately must face is that we get older and our bodies, and our minds eventually fail us.
i have seen this first hand in my family, in the jw community, and in the ex-jw community.
it is simply a sad part of the human condition, as is physical, emotional, and mental illness.
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JWdaughter
Mortality bites. I don't know if being an aging former JW from birth makes turning 50 all the more disconcerting or not, but sometimes there is a quality of unreality to it. Which is insane since I've known the religion is false for a long time. It's just so ingrained in my psyche-like I keep waiting to hear that there is some kind of "out" so that this whole thing (life) won't reach the inevitable conclusion-death. But it will, and it makes me sad that my mom watched everyone she loved die and is facing it herself after fully buying into the lie all her life. How much more poignant is her experience as she is facing 3/4 of a century? Getting old sucks so it is no wonder people buy into the pretty lie, right?
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Numbers don't lie... and these numbers are beautiful!!
by ILoveTTATT2 inthe numbers don't lie... definitely slowing down!!.
in the 40´s the average growth per year was 20%in the 50´s it was about 10%they had four decades of solid 5% per yearnow the average for the past 16 years has been 2%.
maybe in the future it will be 1% or 0 or even negative????.
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JWdaughter
This is kind of ironic because the internet won't destroy other religions. Most of them do not have a heirarchy proclaiming that you will go to hell unless you are of that particular sect. They may say you will if you reject Jesus or if you are not "saved", but they don't really jump the shark as a religion. No one is told that there is one true SECT of people all walking in lockstep that they must be agreement with. So, when there are mistakes and screwups, it isn't going to drag down the ENTIRE foundation of these people's lives. When the ONLY TRUE LOVERS OF GOD are complicit in a variety of abuses, when that becomes apparent, it is about the entire organization. When One guy or even a local church is riddled with some kind of wrongdoing or crime that is covered up at the direction of the head office (pope). With the WT, it all starts and ends with the "organization" or "the society". When an elder gets away with abusing kids because the POLICY of the entire RELIGION requires it, then one has to look at the "truth" of the organization altogether.
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"Stumbling" and Wussification.
by schnell inthis really annoyed me towards the end.
the watchtower doesn't do its members any favors by frequently warning about stumbling and offending each other.
it's no surprise that this becomes a cult control tactic where you can't even groom yourself the way you want because it might be "cause for stumbling".. with so much emphasis, it became wussification and contributed to the toxic environment of jehovah's witnesses.
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JWdaughter
"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes."
I recently realized that the biggest bully in my life was my mom with WT has co-abuser. I was constantly told how people would pick on me for my weight and religion. Constantly informed that if I lost weight I could go to a real store(not a thrift) and have a shopping spree. If anyone questioned why I didn't "celebrate", they were just persecuting me. I didn't deserve nice stuff on my fat body. Any normal kid stuff was immediately blown up as persecution and I know it warped me measurably and immeasurably. My mom would say I walked "too slow". So thus taking any joy out of moving at all when the message was I couldn't even WALK right. My feet both broke later and I have had consequences to my gait. My mom and sisters both comment rudely about what other people think(am I drunk or retarded-their words!)-to this time of my life-im 50. My sis does the same thing to her not thin daughter. Little digs, all the time.
My mom let me know when my pantyhose size was bigger than hers! When I lost weight, no matter what I weighed, it was always fake concern.Still so heavy or too thin.
Looked sick.
Why no makeup?
I remember few child bullies, but my mom was the one that lived in my house and in my head. My sister, to a lesser degree, was both her victim and now fellow perpetrator. My dad is the the only reason I had any self worth as a child and he gave me enough common sense to know things were not right, even if I couldn't always articulate them. He is the reason I recognized the ugliness of the org, if only because he was the main adult in my life who wasn't a JW, but he wasn't some animalistic, Satan worshiping reprobate or fake person that the WT told us worldly people were. He was a hero and the best of men and never ever was JW. Not perfect, but perfectly wonderful human being. Later, my aunt Sharon, who actually had some low confidence herself, still managed to be another 'worldly" person who made the WT propaganda out for the lie that it is. She is an encourager. I knew they were real, not fake. Not perfect, but truly kind people with no agendas to put others down. My mom has good stuff in her, but I'm not a fluffy dog or a JW or the daughter she wanted, so I'm missing the benefit of her good parts.
Most people are not interested in picking on me, fat, skinny, hijabi, modest, immodest, disabled or strong. Whether I celebrate every holiday or salute the flag. The ones that are can carry the ugliness with them, I assume the best of you until you prove otherwise, because most people are not judging others as much as they are judging themselves.
So, I trip through life slightly awkwardly and I'm enjoying the view as I travel it. I hope you do too because we just get the one life and damn it, you don't get to stumble me!
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I am glad to have found the true religion
by A Believer init really is great.
i remember browsing this forum the day after i had joined it, and their was a knock on the door.
i thought it was one of my package from ups but instead it was two sisters.
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JWdaughter
Believer, you did a jw thing. You rejected what you know and accepted biblically because the WT told you too. There was no rational argument. You just dropped a central tenet of Christianity and spouted nonsense cause you bought the lie that you are too stupid to read the scriptures yourself. Bless your heart.